Original title: single woman buying a house story: I am busy buying a house, others are busy getting married
Women in big cities are more and more able to buy houses. Su Mingyu, a strong woman in the TV series "everything is very good", struggled to build two luxury houses before she was 30 years old. On the Internet, the discussion of "why do Su Mingyu want to buy a house" has been pushed into hot search.
According to the report on women's secure housing in 2019 released by a well-known domestic housing search platform, the proportion of female home buyers rose to 46.7% in 2018, reaching the highest value in nearly seven years. In the first tier cities aged 30 to 50, the proportion of women is 48.4%, almost equal to that of men.
We interviewed several single women who bought a house around us. In order to resist her mother's urging for marriage, 31 year old Lei Lei resolutely chose the latter between looking for a boyfriend and buying a house. If a man just had his 29th birthday, two years ago, she bought her own house in order to get close to the boy she liked, but after everything came true, she completely woke up; Cora, who just graduated from graduate school, opened her own translation company. Economically independent, she bought a house with all the money.
'I don't want to be locked up in a house.'
Shanshan, 27, from Hunan, Beijing, is an employee of an insurance company
At six in the evening, it's getting dark in Beijing. The wind was blowing and the rain was falling.
Shanshan, 27, came out of a building in Jianguomen, held up her umbrella and prepared to take the subway home. On her arm was a red and white checked Bento bag, which she had prepared for herself for lunch and dinner when she got up at six in the morning.
'in fact, if my parents hadn't urged me, I would have been renting. 'parents always hope that their daughter will have a home in Beijing.
In March 2018, with the support of her parents, Shanshan bought a second-hand house in a community in the South Third Ring of Fengtai District, with an average price of about 50000. More than 50 square meters, one room and one living room, one person is enough.
The house is elaborately decorated with beige walls, log colored furniture, flowers and green plants everywhere, and curtains with leaf patterns. One wall is full of white bookcases, and the other side is full of photos with friends and family. Everywhere in the room were small objects she had picked up from various places, carpets with the words "don't be angry" and earthenware teacups with the words "gentle" and "happy".
Compared with buying a house, decoration is the most collapse. Make a plan, talk about the price, deal with the decoration master, all are Shanshan's own operation. I have to come to watch the progress after work every day, and sometimes I have to take time off from lunch break. One to the weekend, are shuttling between the building materials market and the furniture city. The most collapsed time was when the decoration of the house was almost finished. On the day when the furniture was to be put in, the heating pipe suddenly burst, and the paved wooden floor was flooded. She had to make an emergency call, demolish the floor completely, air it for two days, and lay it again.
'at that time, I was so tired that I wanted to cry. Sometimes I felt that I could not do it alone, but I still insisted. From the decision to buy a house to the whole process of decoration, brought me a lot of growth, prompted me to make my own decisions, arrange everything. '
Shanshan's home. Video capture
Many friends would ask her, 'do you want to stay in Beijing after you buy a house?', but Shanshan said, 'I don't want to be imprisoned by this house. If the person I like is in another city, why don't I go there?' "
'if I have a daughter, I don't want her to buy the house all by herself.'
Shanghai Ruo, male, from Henan, 29, is a graduate student of Fudan University
Standing at the entrance of the stairs on the second floor of the school, you can hear the voice of Ruo man lecturing.
On the platform, facing a group of sophomores, she was full of air. Gray suit, neat short hair, continuous speed of speech.
If male students teach English in school. Video capture
Ruo man has a younger sister and two younger brothers. He graduated from an ordinary normal school in Henan Province. Before coming to Shanghai in 2012, my father formally said to her, "when you work in the future, you should learn to save money by yourself. We can't help you get married and buy a house in the future. '
Coming to Shanghai was my childhood dream. When she first started looking for a job, she always ran into a wall. She used to think she was a person with great energy, but in Shanghai, it was like a grain of sand falling into the sea, without any ripple. '
In the past seven years, if a man has lived in a single room for 41 months, he has also lived in a bed for dozens of people. In 2016, when he lived in Baoshan, Ruo man fell in love with a boy. By chance, I learned that the girl the boy likes should have a Shanghai Hukou and a house, although he is also a stranger and has no house.
In the face of love, has always been strong if men become a little humble. In order to get closer to the goal of being a boy, and also out of investment considerations, in the summer of 2016, she bought a house of more than 80 square meters in Zhengzhou, with 12000 square meters per square meter. 'the first choice at that time was not Zhengzhou, but my economic strength could not afford to buy a house in Shanghai. '
The three hundred thousand down payment was saved by her for seven years, and her parents helped to borrow some of the excess. The monthly mortgage is 4600 yuan. In her first year of graduate school, she filled her time with work. After a year, she paid off the money that her parents owed her.
"After buying a house and being admitted to Fudan, I suddenly woke up. In one day, I packed up my things and moved out of Baoshan's house. Sitting on the bus, I sent him a text message, & lsquo; thank you for taking care of me in the past two years.". When I sent this message, I was already in tears. '
Ruo Nan, an independent buyer in Shanghai. Video capture
'I've never felt so proud of buying a flat on my own. For me, buying a house is actually a proof that when you have a house, people can see some other things on you. '
'if I have a daughter in the future, I don't want her to be like me. If there are conditions, I don't want her to buy a house all by herself. It's too hard. It's not a girl's state. Although I also bought a house, it has brought me some changes, but more is the huge pressure, let my life more and more heavy. '
'it's easier to find a boyfriend and buy a house.'
Leilei, Hangzhou, Jiangsu, 31 years old, structural engineer
In the second-hand house of an old community in Xihu District, Leilei and her best friend just came back from shopping. It was Saturday, and they were going to cook a big meal together. Usually, if she is a person, she seldom cooks by herself. At most, she cooks instant noodles.
The house is not big, 40 square meters. But from the kitchen, the living room, the bedroom to the bathroom, the door and the cabinet are all covered with some sweet and lovely stickers, and half of the bed is occupied by all kinds of dolls. "Otherwise, it's too cold and clear. It's a little girl like this. I like to buy Dolls. They sleep with me at night. '
Leilei's bed. Video capture
This is her ninth year in Hangzhou. She works in a design institute and overtime is the norm. When she first came to Hangzhou, she had to work late every day, so she bought a bike and went home by bike at two or three o'clock in the morning.
In 2014, one of Leilei's female colleagues bought a flat in Xihu District. She was touched, but she felt that buying a house was not a girl's business. Two married people could buy a house together.
But after three years, she is still single. 'My mother urges me every once in a while. Later I said, "you can either find a boyfriend, buy a house or go back to your hometown." I think it's easier to buy a house. '
In 2017, with the help of her parents, Lei Lei bought the second-hand house. The average price is 32000. 'My hometown pays more attention to geomantic omen. At that time, my mother asked the master to help me calculate. She said that the geomantic omen of this house is good and I will be rich in the future. 'she laughed.
"What's so strange about young single women buying houses?"
Shanghai | Cora, from Jiangsu, 26 years old, simultaneous interpreter
"What's so strange about young single women buying a house?" this is Cora's first reaction. "Besides, 26 years old is not young. It's time to be an adult who can take care of herself independently. '
After graduating from graduate school in June 2018, Cora became a freelancer, working as simultaneous interpreter. Six months later, she bought a house in Suzhou at a price of more than 20000 yuan per square meter.
'My reason is quite wonderful. I buy a house just to repay the mortgage. 'she said that the mortgage can urge her to have a fixed income and expenditure at least every month. Another important reason is that she wants to take her 88 year old grandmother over to live with her.
When she went to borrow money, the bank thought that she was a homeless person with no job and no ability, so she had to ask her parents to guarantee. 'when I consulted, I said I would borrow two million yuan, and then the staff of the bank pressed the calculator there and said with disdain & lsquo; 9000 yuan a month, do you still have to come out? & rsquo; I was very angry at that time. I want to say that I can buy a house in full! "
As a simultaneous interpreter, Cora has been financially independent for a long time. From the second year of graduate school, she can pay for her tuition and living expenses, and she can also pay for her family every month. 'compared with other young people, it's easier for me to save money. I don't have any desire for consumption. I don't have any desire for lipstick, bags and cosmetics. At most, I spend some money on the experience of traveling and amusement parks. '
Because of various restrictions, Cora finally paid for the house in full, paid 60% of the house price, and the rest was subsidized by her father.
In the process of buying a house, she found that freelancing is still not recognized in the society. Not long ago, she registered a translation company of her own.
Now, Cora is very happy. 'it seems that I don't need to get married. The boys I know now are my age. If I marry them, maybe my quality of life will decline a little. '