When I see a broom, I'm not afraid; when I see a ruler and a hanger, I'm not afraid. Mom is angry, and I'm not afraid. I'm going to make trouble. I'm going to have a big life today. Today (April 30) is not only the last working day before the May Day holiday, but also the amnesty day of mischievous troublemakers, the international no beating children day
It is reported that the festival was launched by the center for effective discipline, an American anti corporal punishment organization, in 1998. Hundreds of countries and non-governmental organizations all over the world participated in the festival.
Parents: "fighting" is just a way. The means of education should be diversified
Don't beat children? This imported Festival is not suitable for every family. From the circle of friends, we can see that April 30 is the international children's day. Mr. Ren, a citizen whose child is in the third grade, told the reporter that although with the progress of society and the development of civilization, it has been advocated that children should not be beaten any more, when children make trouble out of no reason and frequently act as demons, it is still not good not to fight at all.
'My family is a boy, very naughty. When he is disobedient and makes mistakes, I will punish him with a ruler to let him remember that he did wrong. Mr. Ren said that different parents have different educational ideas, but the means of education should be diversified. Fighting is just one of the ways. Proper use of some small means of violence can help children better remember what they can and can't do.
At the same time, he also believes that there has been a custom of "beating children" since ancient times. When teaching students, the ancients used measures such as beating the palm of the hand, punishing the station, punishing the copying of articles, and so on, which should be inherited now. Take our generation as an example. When I was a child, I was naughty and disobedient. Most of them were beaten by my parents. When I was a child, I knelt on the washboard. However, young parents should grasp the "degree" when they are angry;. '
However, Mr. Chen, a citizen who seldom takes action on children, said that "beating children" is actually the result of parents' inadequate emotional management. For children, beating will not solve the problem. It's better to change our thinking, be more patient and communicate in a way he can accept. 'if a child's behavior is not against the principle, let him play to his heart's content and treat him as an adult as soon as possible, the child should be induced more. '
Child: say no to corporal punishment!
Although the parents don't agree with the international no child beating day, it seems that the international no child beating day gives them a reason to be naughty. Many student netizens commented on the Internet: "OK, you can stop doing your homework today" and "say no to corporal punishment" & hellip; & hellip; The netizen 'humorous fool' also recalled his' painful experience 'of being beaten when he was a child.' when he was a child, he made my mother angry. My mother asked me to get her a coat hanger, but I really took it! ", while the netizen 'Rain God went to bed early' said that he wanted to send it to my mother early! He was beaten just yesterday. '
The reporter found that up to now, the countries that prohibit corporal punishment in schools all over the world are: Argentina, China, Japan, Philippines, South Africa, Thailand, Estonia, Lithuania, Belarus, Russia, Slovakia, Britain, Ireland, Belgium, Italy, Slovenia, BIH, Serbia, Montenegro, Macedonian and Albania Turkey.
Countries that prohibit all corporal punishment (school corporal punishment + family corporal punishment): Austria, Bulgaria, Croatia, Costa Rica, Cyprus, Denmark, Finland, Germany, Greece, Hungary, the United States, Iceland, Israel, Australia, Kenya, Latvia, Luxembourg, Moldova, the Netherlands, New Zealand, Norway, Poland, Portugal, Romania, Switzerland Dian, Spain, Tunisia, Ukraine, Uruguay, Venezuela.
In our country, it is against the law to disrespect children's "stick education". The "Education Law" stipulates that "corporal punishment of students is prohibited", and the "Compulsory Education Law" emphasizes that students should be respected and cared for. The "law on the protection of minors" stipulates: "the teaching staff of schools, kindergartens and nurseries shall respect the personal dignity of minors and shall not impose corporal punishment, disguised corporal punishment or other acts that insult their personal dignity on minors. '
Expert: 'Wolf father and tiger mother' should not insist on being gentle with children
So, is' cudgel education 'right? How should parents educate their children? Yan Zhixin, a national second-class psychological counselor who has been studying family education and children's EQ training for nearly 10 years, told reporters that too strict' cudgel education 'will cause damage to children's hearts and lead to resentment in their hearts.
Yan Zhixin said that under the education mode of "wolf father and tiger mother", many parents pass on their social pressure and anxiety to their children. Because of the pressure of parents, many children lose interest in learning and even don't want to go to school at a very young age. What's more regrettable is that it hurts the parent-child relationship. 'the worse you perform, the more you get beaten. The worse you get beaten, the worse you perform. In this case, corporal punishment has completely lost the meaning of any discipline, and it will also make the child more and more hostile. For example, the incident of a 17-year-old boy jumping off the viaduct in Shanghai, which awakened many families some time ago, is the result of the total damage to the parent-child relationship. '
'in fact, every parent loves his children, but he doesn't know how to love them in a scientific way and doesn't beat them. He just wants to remind our parents that it's the parents themselves who are most painful to beat them. 'Yan Zhixin calls for a new generation of parents. We should insist on being gentle and firm to our children. We should educate our children and tell them the right way to behave. At the same time, we should go into their hearts and guide them in a gentle way. '