Original title: psychological expert: Wu Xieyu or has dual personality or multiple personality
On March 3, 2016, Fuzhou police issued a reward notice. On Valentine's day, police found Xie tianqin, a woman, dead in the dormitory of a middle school in Fuzhou. Her 22-year-old son, Wu Xieyu, was suspected of committing a major crime and offered a reward of 10000 yuan for arrest, the circular said. The police's reward notice for Wu Xieyu was posted at the gate of the Second Affiliated Middle School of Fuzhou Institute of education.
Three years later, with the disappearance of suspect Wu Xieyu, the case of "Beida student's mother killing" once stagnated. On the evening of April 21, 2019, until Wu Xieyu appeared in Chongqing Jiangbei Airport, he was arrested by the airport police. In the past week, the news of Wu Xieyu's escape, being arrested at the end of the third year and being detained in the first detention center of Fuzhou City has spread among various internal groups of Fuzhou No.1 middle school.
On April 29, a reporter from China Women's daily, China Women's network, learned from relevant people that a Chinese teacher surnamed Fu and Wu Xieyu's mother Xie tianqin were colleagues of Fuzhou railway middle school (renamed as the Second Affiliated Middle School of Fuzhou Institute of education in 2003), and also fellow villagers of Putian, Fujian Province. Mr. Fu said that when he was a junior in high school, he was entrusted by Xie tianqin to help him with his composition. It is understood that when Mr. Fu said that he didn't agree, he would be rebuffed by Wu Xieyu. Mr. Fu once commented on Wu Xieyu: "it's very smart, but if you are too conceited, you can't become a great tool because you are conceited. 'finally give up coaching.
In this regard, Zhan Jinhua, director of Fujian family education research association, director of Fujian Mental Health Association, consultant of Fujian women's Federation marriage and family guidance center, and director of Fuzhou youth spiritual growth service center, believes that Wu Xieyu's sarcastic behavior may be a coping mode that he is often sarcastic in his life, and it may also be a mentality of potential conceit and inferiority.
Zhan Jinhua has been engaged in psychological research for 20 years. He began to pay attention to the case three years ago when it happened. Based on years of research experience, he speculated that Wu Xieyu has dual personality or multiple personality. He told reporters: 'the occurrence of the case is very sad. The concept of family education promoted in the 21st century requires education to achieve four points: learning to be grateful, being physically and mentally healthy, having the ability to be happy, and having the skill to serve the society. In the case of Wu Xieyu, these four points seem not in place. '
Before killing his mother, Wu Xieyu was the pride of his mother: he was admitted to Fuzhou No.1 middle school with the highest score in the school, and entered the school of economics of Peking University through independent enrollment. He is cheerful, enthusiastic and self disciplined. He plans to go to the United States for further study. Many students call him the perfect 'God'.
To a certain extent, a childhood that does not release its nature is to pull out the seedlings and encourage them;. When children should release their nature most, don't deliberately suppress their real thoughts. 'Zhan Jinhua recalled a similar case in Nanping, Fujian Province. A child who had learned piano under his parents' high-pressure training had great rebellious feelings towards his parents in the fifth grade. In the conversation, Zhan Jinhua learned the child's voice:' I hate my mother most. All the children finish their homework and go to bed at 9 p.m., while I have to do my homework after playing the piano. When I play the piano, I have to watch others play outside. "Zhan Jinhua found that although the child performs well among the children of the same age, he is growing up in other ways by losing his childhood happiness. Coupled with the tense parent-child relationship, his unhappy childhood is likely to lead to his child growing into a" deformed seedling. ".
In Zhan Jinhua's view, the particularity of the "Peking University Student's mother killing case" lies in the fact that the crime was committed longer and more carefully. Psychologically, their behavioral abilities are like "giant babies" that don't grow, and their IQ and EQ don't grow at the same time. Often these people do not get happiness from childhood, think that they must erase something to get happiness, and want to enter a new world through a "revolution". They always want to remove this "stumbling block" and go on their own way, but this way is extremely wrong and extreme. '
According to Wu Xieyu's high school classmates, Wu Xieyu usually suppresses himself very much and demands himself with the highest standard in almost everything. Zhan Jinhua believes that Wu's mother has always been proud of Wu Xieyu, and her children have a certain burden. In 2010, Wu Xieyu's father died, and the changes in his original family also had an impact on his mood. At that time, 16-year-old Wu Xieyu played the role of comforting her mother, showing a strong character that did not match her age.
After committing the crime, he sealed his residence, wrapped his body in plastic cloth layer upon layer, and put activated carbon to absorb the odor. After killing his mother, he borrowed money in the name of his mother. Zhan Jinhua analyzed that the trauma from life made Wu Xieyu's multiple personality more distorted, and his heart was not exposed. It was really a sad psychology, and even projected all his unhappiness on his mother. Zhan Jinhua said that young people have no social experience, and the small family they live in is the society, so they may retaliate in the family.
The contrast between Wu Xieyu's bright future and his two-year job in a bar in Chongqing is unbelievable. According to Zhan Jinhua's analysis, Wu Xieyu's most painful weakness is to avoid the motive of the crime. His sense of sadness and shame make him avoid the crime psychologically, and there is also the possibility that he doesn't want others to imitate his behavior.
Zhan Jinhua believes that the "Beida student's mother killing case" is caused by the lack of family education. Psychological research on family education shows that 'education is a project to make people happy. Parents can really accompany their children and keep them happy. '
How to do a good job in family education, Zhan Jinhua said, the concept of home is very important, especially before the child is 6 years old. Even 24 hours after the birth of the child, many women's and children's hospitals will also have the mother and child in the same room, even if the baby is in the incubator, it should be placed beside the mother, which is the exciting point of maternal love.
In adolescence, we should try our best to educate children to adjust their emotions, improve their anti frustration ability and develop their gratitude.