In fact, for children, they begin to have sexual awareness after the age of three, so for parents, correct guidance and education is very important.
1、 3-year-old is an important node for heterosexual parents to get along with their children
Before 3 years old, the baby is still in the embryonic stage of sex.
When a baby is about one to two years old, he has begun to distinguish between his father and his mother's nudity. At this time, children can have a simple distinction and understanding of gender differences, which is called the cognition of sexual differences.
After the age of 3, with the further development of sexual cognition, children may feel shy or unnatural about other people's private parts. At this time, the baby has developed a sense of shame.
At this time, parents should learn to respect their children's self-esteem and the sense of uneasiness and shame of different genders. Gradually start to avoid suspicion.
But in real life, many parents (especially the father for the daughter), in the aspect of sex education, are more selective to avoid, but do not do the right guidance.
Therefore, for the child's sex education, Dr. lilac suggested that parents should not hide it, the smaller the child's education, the better.
2、 Before the age of 3, "bathing with parents and children" is the best sex education
Before the age of 3, it is the golden age of sex education for babies.
At this time, if children see their parents' bodies, they are likely to look at their parents with surprised eyes, especially at their privacy parts, which are the least common.
At this stage, parents should not be afraid to show their bodies to their children. Even create more opportunities for children to observe gender differences, such as parent-child bath.
3、 After age 3, it's important to establish boundaries and respect for privacy
After the baby is 3 years old, when parents get along with heterosexual children, they should gradually establish boundaries, pay attention to children's awareness of privacy, and start to educate children about the degree of contact between people and improve their children's self-protection awareness.
1. Slowly stop the heterosexual parent-child bath
Generally speaking, after the age of 3, daughter is not suitable for bathing with father. The bath between mother and son can be extended to 5-6 years old.
After 6 years old, it is recommended to train children to take a bath alone (adults can help).
It should be noted that some children will take the initiative to say they don't want to take a bath with their parents. At this time, they should respect their children.
Sleep in 2. beds
From the perspective of sex education, children can sleep in separate beds around the age of 3. At this time, the baby already has a sense of shame. At this time, it will be inconvenient to be in the same bed with the opposite sex or parents, and the child may feel uncomfortable.
3. Respect for privacy
The concept of privacy should be established for children, and boundaries should be established in daily life to respect each other's privacy.
Try not to be naked in front of children or walk around in underwear;
Close the door when going to the bathroom;
Try not to take children to the public toilets or bathrooms of the opposite sex;
Avoid inappropriate intimacy, such as kissing heterosexual parents, kissing children's chest, kissing the toilet, etc.
4. Safety education, let children learn to protect themselves
Children are taught from childhood that only the closest family members can have intimate behaviors with themselves (you can make a list for the children and write who you can have);
If someone does something "strange" to themselves, be brave to tell their parents not to hide or be afraid.
4、 Sex education, not just sex education
Perhaps, parents will think that sex education is not to educate children to know how to protect themselves. Children are still young and all of them are family. Is it necessary to pay attention to it?
In the view of Dr. Xiang, in fact, many times it's not just about sex education and safety awareness. Maybe it's OK for children to dress casually at home before the age of 6. But education, especially the respect for the opposite sex in education, is also a very important part of sex education.
Take changing clothes in front of the children as an example:
If the mother does not avoid changing clothes in front of her son for a long time, will the son be preconceived when he grows up and think that all women are "informal" like their mother?
If a mother does not avoid changing clothes in front of her daughter for a long time, will her daughter grow up to be "informal"?
In short, we should not only tell children the difference between boys and girls, but also teach children to respect each other in front of others, especially the opposite sex.