In this human society, most of the time, high EQ is more popular than high IQ. People with high EQ are not only able to speak, but also have excellent qualities in emotion, emotion, will and tolerance of setbacks. Of course, in our life, we can speak and control the rhythm of the whole scene. We feel that with a few words, we can turn things around and bring things to our own rhythm. Such a character can only look up and clap his hands. So how can we save our compelling EQ?
Be a man of tolerance. Unclear boundaries allow people to get along with each other as they like, and they don't have to bargain fiercely with each other. But is it really beneficial? Is it really what you want? Is this one of high EQ? In fact, it's not. If you don't know the boundaries, people will often hurt your feelings while you don't know it. Moreover, people with poor boundary ability are apt to suffer from psychological disease -- morbid phobia, which makes the victims dare not confront the aggressor, but prefer to talk to the third party. This not only makes the aggressor more inhumane, but also easily infects the negative emotions. More people will be hurt in this way.
Control your emotions and find yourself a switch. When you feel that you are going to lose your mind and reach the emotional boundary, you should shut down, calm down and help yourself to make a rational choice. People say straightforwardness is a kind of low EQ performance. If you think about it carefully, you will not control your emotions, and you will lose your mind easily? Of course, it's human nature, but it's natural, not social. We can't let animal instinct control us. We should use reason.
Complaining is useless. What we have to do is change. Complaining is because of dissatisfaction with the status quo, feeling that the status quo has constrained and deviated from itself. But if you don't complain, you will feel great psychological pressure. Most of the time, this kind of pressure is a bad thing, but it also has a positive side, which is the power to make you change. It's easy to be complacent without pressure. The meaning of pressure is to tell you to work hard.