When dating, the man rushes to pay the bill, but sends such a request to the girl in the evening. Unexpectedly, he asks for the AA system. Do you agree with the AA system for eating? If the dating object also asks for the lady AA, what do you think? If this problem is well done, it is to send the sub questions. If it is not well done, it is to send the proposition. So who should pay for the meal?
Phenomenon:
Rush to pay the bill when eating, and make an AA system afterwards
According to the female netizen Fangfang (pseudonym), after greeting each other via wechat, he suggested meeting and having a meal to get to know each other better.
'he chose the restaurant, and chatted well. After dinner, I politely said that I would pay the bill, but the blind man rushed to buy the bill. Fangfang said that what she didn't expect was that when she got home in the evening, the man told her via wechat that the dinner cost was 268 yuan in total. As it was the cost of a blind date meal, it should be made under the AA system. If it didn't work out, they wouldn't feel that they owed each other, so they asked Fangfang to return 130 yuan for the meal.
Fang Fang told reporters: 'in the process of dating, I will pay politely whether I can become a boyfriend and girlfriend with each other or not. The other side asked for the AA system, which should be that he didn't look up to me, but it's good that everyone owes no one. 'however, the other side's practice makes Fangfang feel forced. If the other side makes clear the AA system when eating, it will be easier to accept.
So the question is, do you explain the AA system in advance when you meet? Since it's the AA system, do you ask for the other party's opinions in advance about the dining place and standard? If you don't make it clear before you take others to dinner, and ask for the AA system after dinner, it will really make the other party feel forced.
Point of view: 30% of respondents agree with the aasystem of blind date
The encounter of women attracted many netizens' opinions. Who should pay for the expenses of blind date? In response to this question, the reporter conducted an interview.
For the question of who will pay for the meal during the dating process, the reporter found in the survey that many people said: 'it's a convention for dating men to pay. '
Netizen laojitang said: 'it's just like why a woman marries into a man's family, rather than a man marries into a woman's family. The truth is the same. It's a tradition. '
Although Miss Wu, a citizen, had no experience of dating, she said that if the man didn't take the initiative to pay for his first meeting, the impression would be greatly reduced. At the same time, it's also important for the man to choose the first meeting place, not necessarily high-end, but it's better to be in a quiet and clean environment, which will make the woman feel that the man attaches great importance to the date and will give points to the other party in her heart.
Mr. Zheng, who pays for every date, also said that men's paying is the basic etiquette and demeanor. If the economy is not very rich, you can choose a more economical dating location. In addition, many people now regard dating as a way to get to know their friends, so it's not necessary to spend too much, otherwise it will put pressure on the women.
Xia Xia, a national second-class psychologist and marriage expert, also said that men pay for most dating, which is in line with traditional Chinese culture. In traditional culture, men are also required to take on more economic responsibilities. With the development of society, women's status has been gradually improved, and the economic conditions for girls are better than men's. However, men's payment not only reflects traditional customs, but also leaves a good impression on each other, and also shows respect for women.
'we have at least 300 appointments a month, and most of them are boys who take the initiative to pay. There will also be girls who offer to pay, which is generally not suitable for girls. 'a person in charge of the evening paper's matchmaker told reporters.
According to a random survey, nearly 30% of the citizens said that they should pay for the meal when they meet each other. A man who has had many dating experiences roughly calculated the bill: 'it costs 200 to 300 yuan to invite a girl to have a meal. Some of them don't get in touch with each other once they see each other. Some of them meet several times, but they don't develop at last. In this way, it costs 67000 yuan to have a meal just for a blind date. It's a big expense indeed. '
Another interviewee confessed that the choice of what kind of restaurant to eat in and whether it will be made by AA are related to his impression of the woman.
Some independent minded and financially independent women said they would not wait for men to pay for their blind date. 'blind date is a two-way choice. If I don't care for you and don't want to have any contact with you in the future, it will also be a pressure for me to burden my consumption without any reason. It's like I owe you something. It's better to pay each other separately. If I don't meet each other, I won't leave a knot in my heart. '
Experts suggest: the most basic etiquette should be observed
To this end, summer, a national second-class psychological consultant and marriage expert, suggested that it should be a happy thing to meet someone and look for another half, but in the end, it's unnecessary to be unhappy for a meal. Dating is also a kind of folk culture, which needs to keep pace with the times. Both parties of dating should have manners. Why not be tolerant and magnanimous? Don't always think about their own losses. A blind date needs sincerity and consideration for the other party. If you want to make a good impression, the boy may as well take the initiative to pay the bill. If you want to adopt the dating method of aasystem, the sponsor of the date is better to explain in advance whether it is aasystem or who invites guests, without explaining in advance, it's really inappropriate for anyone not to pay for the meal or ask for the meal money afterwards, which is out of style.
In addition, no matter where we meet for blind date, what we eat? Who pays? The most basic etiquette should be observed. The man should have a basic understanding of the blind date's woman, take care of her taste when ordering, and pay attention to etiquette when eating. After dinner, no matter who pays the bill, if they all like each other, they can take a walk together.