Step 1: clarify career planning and determine career goals -- values and life orientation
The value and role orientation of your life, the setting of the main goals of your life, etc. are simply: what kind of person you are going to be and what goals you are going to achieve in your life. What seems to have nothing to do with the specific pressure actually has a huge impact on us, and the reflection on a lot of pressure always comes down to this aspect in the end. Carnegie said: 'I'm very convinced that this is one of the biggest secrets to psychological peace - to have the right values. And I also believe that as long as we can set a personal standard - the standard of what is worth compared with our life, 50% of our worries can be eliminated immediately. '
Step 2: Mental Adjustment -- embrace pressure with a positive and optimistic attitude
Hugo, a French writer, once said: 'thought can turn heaven into hell, or hell into heaven. '
We need to realize that crisis is a turning point. When we encounter difficulties and generate pressure, on the one hand, we may have insufficient capacity. Therefore, the whole problem-solving process becomes an important opportunity to enhance our capacity and develop; In addition, it may also be the environment or other factors, which can be solved through rational communication. If it cannot be solved, it can also forgive everything, and try to face everything with a positive and optimistic attitude. As someone studies the so-called optimism coefficient, that is to say, a person often keeps positive optimism, when dealing with problems, he will have 20% more chances to get satisfactory results than the average person. Therefore, a positive and optimistic attitude will not only calm down the disorder caused by the pressure, but also make the problem lead to a positive result.
Step three: Rational Reflection -- self reflection and stress diary
For an aggressive person, when facing the pressure, he can ask himself, 'what if he doesn't make it?' this idea is not an excuse, but an effective way to relieve the pressure. But if the personality tends to escape easily, we should ask ourselves to face the pressure with a more positive attitude and tell ourselves that moderate pressure can help self-development. At the same time, keeping a stress diary is also a simple and effective method of rational reflection. It can help you determine what triggers stress, and by checking your diary, you can find out how you deal with it.
Step 4: build balance - leave room for rest and don't bring work pressure home
We should take the initiative to manage our emotions, pay attention to our spare time life, and do not bring home the pressure of work. Make room for rest: sharing time with others, talking, talking, reading, meditating, listening to music, dealing with housework, and participating in physical labor are all the best ways to achieve inner peace. Choose appropriate sports, exercise endurance, sensitivity or physical strength & hellip; & hellip; Continue to use your favorite ways alternately and establish rational habits, and gradually realize the benefits of it to your body and mind.
Step 5: time management -- the key is not to let your arrangement influence you, you should arrange your own affairs
The generation of work pressure is often accompanied by the tension of time, always feeling that many things are very urgent and time is not enough. The effective way to solve this sense of urgency is time management. The key is not to let your arrangement influence you. You should arrange your own affairs. When arranging time, we should weigh the priorities of various things and learn to play the piano. We should have the ability of looking forward to our work, put the important but not necessarily urgent things first, and prevent the trouble before it happens. If we are always busy fighting the fire, our work will always be passive.
Step 6: strengthen communication -- don't try to take all the pressure on yourself
At ordinary times, we should actively improve interpersonal relations, especially strengthen communication with superiors, colleagues and subordinates, and remember at any time. When there is too much pressure, we should seek the assistance of the supervisor, and do not try to bear all the pressure alone. At the same time, when the pressure comes, we can also take the initiative to seek psychological assistance, such as talking with family and friends, psychological consultation and other ways to actively respond.
Step 7: improve your ability -- the most direct and effective way to relieve pressure is to try to improve your ability
Since the source of the pressure is the unfamiliarity and uncertainty of things, or the inability to achieve the goal, the most direct and effective way to relieve the pressure is to understand and master the situation, and try to improve their ability. Through self-study, training and other ways, once "will", "familiar" and "clear", the pressure will naturally reduce and eliminate, so it can be seen that the pressure is not a terrible thing. The reason why escape can't relieve the pressure is that its ability hasn't been improved, which makes the existing pressure still exist and the intensity hasn't been weakened.
Step 8, live today -- gather all your wisdom and enthusiasm, and make today's work perfect
Stress, in fact, has one of the same characteristics, which is manifested in anxiety and worry about tomorrow and the future. To cope with the pressure, the first thing we should do is not to wait and see the distant future, but to do the clear things at hand, because the best way to prepare for tomorrow is to concentrate all your wisdom and enthusiasm, and make today's work perfect.
Step 9, physiological regulation -- keep healthy and learn to relax
Another way to manage stress focuses on controlling physiological changes, such as gradual muscle relaxation, deep breathing, intensive exercise, adequate and complete sleep, and maintaining health and nutrition. By maintaining your health, you can increase your energy and endurance and help you fight stress-induced fatigue
Step 10: Daily decompression
Here are 10 specific ways to help you reduce stress in your daily life. They are simple and convenient, and can be used frequently to achieve good results:
1. Go to bed early and get up early. Get up an hour before your family wakes up and get ready for the day.
2. Share the joy of work with your family and colleagues.
3. Rest more in a day, so as to clear your mind and breathe freely.
4. Exercise in your spare time.
5. Don't show yourself eagerly and excessively.
6. Remind yourself that nothing can be perfect.
7. Learn to say 'no'.
8. Don't worry too much about life.
9、 Listen to music occasionally to relax yourself.
10. Cultivate an open mind.