4hw.com.cn: many mothers sleep in separate beds when their babies reach a certain age. Some think it's good, some don't. In fact, when it comes to a certain time, the baby should sleep in separate bed with his parents. There are many advantages in this way. Let's have a look.
Should children sleep in separate beds with their parents
&; &; &; &; &; &; &; &; 1. Safer bed separation
Babies before 1 year old, sleeping in the same bed with adults, will increase many security risks, for example, the big bed is easy to fall, sometimes it may be pressed by adults in deep sleep, leading to suffocation and death.
2. Improve baby's sleep quality
When sleeping with adults, babies are easily disturbed. For example, the voice of adults turning over, getting up, or being disturbed by other actions of adults. The baby sleeps by himself, the quiet sleep environment can help the baby learn to sleep autonomously, thus improving the sleep quality of the baby.
3. Improve the quality of life of parents
Sleeping in separate beds can make Baoma have a better rest, and she doesn't need to worry about it. Sometimes when the child just makes a little noise or turns over during light sleep, it will make the parents wake up and can't sleep at all.
After giving birth to children, many parents will neglect the sexual life of husband and wife for many reasons. It is very important to know that love is a very important thing for family happiness. Sleeping in separate beds will increase the frequency of popping.
4. Promote the development of children's independence
Sleeping in separate beds is the beginning of cultivating children's independence. Babies who are used to sleeping in the same bed with adults are easy to form dependence in their hearts, and even need parents to accompany them to sleep. It will be more difficult to sleep alone in the future. Separate bed can promote the development of children's independence.
How old are the children and their parents
When the child has not yet formed attachment to the mother's skin and smell, the bed can be divided after the baby is born for more than 3 months.
If possible, from the time the child is born, the parents will prepare a small bed for the child. At first, for the convenience of care, the small bed can be next to the big bed; when there is no need to feed milk or change diapers at night, it can be a small bed with a certain distance from the big bed in this room; when the child is a little older, it can be an independent small bed in another room.
Experts say the latest time to sleep in separate beds with children should not exceed 3 years old. On the one hand, 3-year-old children are just in the period of germination and rapid development of their independent consciousness. It is very beneficial to cultivate their psychological independence to arrange their children to sleep alone. This kind of independent consciousness and the cultivation of self-care ability are directly related to the development of children's social adaptability in the future.
On the other hand, when the child is four or five years old, when the boy loves his mother and the girl loves his father, the complex of loving his father and his mother in this period is different from the simple love with his parents before. It will not only show more attachment to his parents, but also be exclusive, which will lead to the lack of self love, self-discipline and even sexual recognition obstacles in the future. Therefore, before the age of 3, it's easy to split the bed, but by the age of 4-5, it's very difficult.
How to make baby adapt to sleeping alone
It's a gradual process for babies to learn to sleep on their own. The baby has been sleeping with his parents. It's hard to avoid anxiety when he is separated. Parents can prepare in advance, and slowly adapt their baby to sleep alone.
1. The same room but different beds, slowly adapt to sleep alone
As soon as the baby is born, he starts to prepare the crib and let the baby sleep alone. If the baby cries sometimes, he will talk to him, gently pat and pacify the baby's mood and not hug him. As time goes by, the baby will not be afraid to sleep alone and his independent personality will be cultivated.
2. Let the baby be prepared and establish a bedtime ceremony
The conscious establishment of bedtime rituals can enhance the baby's sense of security, help to develop good sleep habits, and help the baby fall asleep quickly. For example, putting down the mobile phone, staying in a fixed corner with the baby at a fixed time every day, hugging the baby, reading with him, speaking, taking a bath, singing, reading bedtime stories and so on are all ways to cultivate a good bedtime ritual.
3. Let comfort toys accompany the baby to sleep
Before the age of 3, it is a period of attachment. Many babies are not willing to sleep on their own, which is a lack of security. Adults find some baby's favorite comfort toys to sleep with, such as toy cubs and rabbits that can be cleaned.
4. Moderate and firm attitude
Generally, the process of dealing with the sleeping problem of the baby will be more tortuous. If you are ready and have a gentle and firm attitude, no matter how the baby cries at the beginning, you can solve it well and stick to it. At the end, the baby can adapt to separate beds and come on!
Of course, if you think that children should sleep with adults when they are young, it's not too bad. Whether to sleep in separate beds has no direct causal relationship with the cultivation of children's independent personality, which depends on whether parents usually advocate independent parenting attitude.