The Qingming Festival is coming soon. As a traditional festival in China, some customs still need to be inherited, but some traditional dross needs to be eliminated. There may be different customs in some places, so there will be different opinions. But I heard recently that my daughter is not allowed to go to the grave. What's the situation? I'm interested in going on.
Can my daughter go to the tomb on Qingming Festival in 2018?
In our hometown, the sacrifice of ancestors and grandchildren is not divided into men, women, children, daughters and daughter-in-law. Besides, the sacrifice is the closest thing to you. If your daughter can't go to the grave, let alone the daughter-in-law married into your own family, and everyone will go as long as they have time. Therefore, please do not delay the ancestor worship, so that they will not be in a hurry. After they are full of food and drink, they can rest for a rest and go on the road safely, so as to obtain the protection of the ancestors. As for the children who really don't have time to go home to worship their ancestors, we can also offer sacrifices to ancestors in different forms, or in other places. In a word, we can't forget our ancestors in the Qingming Festival!
Women don't go to the grave completely depending on their own wishes, no one can say anything. Respect for ancestors comes from the heart, which can not be influenced by outsiders. And most importantly, don't neglect your daughter's opinion. Some places exclude girls from going to the grave during the Qingming Festival, which is a kind of feudal residue and should be abandoned.
When do I go to the tomb on Qingming Festival?
Of course, it's good to go to the grave in the afternoon. It's sunny in the morning and cloudy in the afternoon. It's sunny before 12 o'clock the night before, and it's cloudy after 12 o'clock. But it is also said that offerings, paper money, incense and candles must be prepared on the day of Qingming Festival. Before 11:00 in the morning, the firecrackers beside the lanterns will go to the ancestral tomb on time to pay homage. Because Lord Yan received orders at 12:00 in the morning. After his ancestors received the sacrifices, they must return to the local government after 12:00 in the day. Otherwise, they will be severely punished.