Today, the topic of "which is more terrible between Ma Bao Man and Fu Di devil" was posted on the microblog hot search, but many people don't understand what Fu Di devil is. Helping brother devil is a very popular Internet buzzword recently. In marriage, it can be said that it is two kinds of people who can be compared with Ma Bao man. The little editor of this article brings you an explanation of the meaning of helping the younger brother devil, and the more terrible answer between Ma Baonan and helping the younger brother devil. Let's have a look.
&# 8203;&# 8203;&# 8203;&# 8203;&# 8203;&# 8203; What's the meaning of helping brother devil
"Helping the younger brother is an Internet term, which means that usually due to the influence of the family, they will contribute to their younger brother regardless of the cost. Rounding is the younger brother's second mother."
To what extent? It is no exaggeration to say that it will subsidize the hollowing out of new families, down payment, loan repayment, packaging repair, and even arranged marriage.
Up to now, 'helping brother devil' doesn't specifically refer to sister, but also includes sister who contributes everything to her brother.
Why can't 'help brother devil' marry a wife? To put it bluntly, if not for the wealth, most men can't afford to marry 'help brother devil', because the mother's family of 'help brother devil' is like a group of vampires. Even if they have the ability to work, they will still rely on 'help brother devil' to obtain the capital of survival and life.
The 'help brother demons' are also willing to be squeezed by their mother's family, and even take the initiative to help their mother's family empty their small home. Ask, which man can accept or even bear such a wife? No matter how capable and enterprising a man is, he can't run this small family well, because money is the first foundation to run a good family, but as long as there is a 'help brother devil' wife, no matter how many years, the family can't be rich, because all the money has been given to her to supplement her mother's family.
What is the fundamental problem of 'helping the devil'?
First: lack of bottom line and unclear boundary.
Emotional and rational boundaries are blurred. I suggest that couples troubled by such problems must make an appointment with each other and talk rationally.
Emotional boundary and rational boundary are discussed separately. Emotion is family affection. Relatives need financial support and help. It is reasonable, but it must be combined with the actual economic situation.
The maximum bottom line we can bear is how much we can help (e.g. within X million), and how many times we can help (e.g. one more time, two times, no more three times). We can't touch it beyond the bottom line anyway. It's necessary to talk about the consequences after touching.
Second: emotional dislocation, will not love themselves.
Only by loving yourself can you see who is the one who loves you and cares about you, and who is the one who just wants to use you and calculate you.
No one needs to bear the whole life for other people's mistakes or problems. Parents have no obligation, not to mention as sisters.
Help is OK, but this help is limited to the level of sister and brother. Remember, you are not the Savior. It's better to give people fish than to give people fish. Besides, your 'fish' has a co owner, that is, the other half of your marriage.
Master your own life. Some people are not worth your help. They are not your retreat, but cut off your back road and an obstacle to your happy life.
Treat yourself well and put yourself in a right position. Your love should be given to those who deserve it. It's not worth paying for people who don't think about you.
Which is more terrible, Ma Baonan or Fu Di devil
Characteristics of mabao man:
1. Always talk about 'my mother says'.
2. I don't have my own opinion. I'll ask my mother if I have something to do.
3. What my mother says is what she says, and my mother is right.
4. When a girlfriend has a conflict with her mother, blame her girlfriend indiscriminately and protect her mother.
5. When I grow up, I still stick to my mother and behave childishly.
6. Poor self-care ability, everything is arranged by my mother.
7. The salary is all given to mom, and the economy is not independent.
8. I worship my mother and think that women should be like their mother.
9. When you become a family, you have to live with your mother and even sleep with your mother.
The characteristics of Fu Di Mo:
1. I think I have to help my brother
2. My younger brother asked for help when he was in trouble. When he didn't ask, he had to think of it first and take the initiative to help.
3. I think my little family is not as important as my mother's family. I should help my mother's family at any time.
4. He is willing to contribute to his mother's family without return, and thinks he has the obligation to manage everything.