A recent hit movie has sparked a discussion about how to break up. Some people think that breaking up should be crisp to minimize the harm, while others think that breaking up in an ambiguous way is a big blow to others and is not responsible for each other. From two people who love each other so much at first to strangers at last, do you think it needs ceremony to break up?
Last week, a survey of 2006 respondents conducted by the social survey center of China Youth Daily revealed that 74.5% of them had experienced breaking up with their partners. At the time of breaking up, 39.2% of the respondents proposed it face-to-face, 33.7% of the respondents broke up peacefully, and 31.9% of the respondents did not contact their partners silently. 24.5% of the respondents think that a ceremony is needed for breaking up, and 52.7% of the respondents think it is not necessary. 53.8% of the respondents thought that they should learn to let go after the end of the relationship.
52.7% of the respondents believed that there was no need for ceremony to break up
Wang Ning, who worked in Beijing, ended her last relationship in two years: 'my ex boyfriend and I are all gentle people. We all know that there is something wrong with our relationship and we can't go on, but no one has the courage to say that. Although I know that I have broken up, I always feel that I haven't completely separated. 'Wang Ning said that after their mutual friends sent wechat to inform her that her ex boyfriend was going to get married, she really felt that the two broke up.
After the 90s, Xu Jing told reporters that in the last relationship, her boyfriend suddenly became cold without any reason. 'some people may be confused in this situation. They don't know the reason until they break up, and then it's hard to let go for a long time, but I don't. 'Xu Jing said frankly that he was a decisive person, and at that time, he directly invited the other party to face-to-face interviews. In her opinion, the reason for breaking up should be found, and whose fault it is to explain clearly, so as to prevent oneself from being framed by the other party. 'two people must have a lot of common friends. They can't even stay in the original circle because of a love affair'.
According to the survey, 74.5% of respondents have experienced breaking up with their partners, and 25.5% have not. When breaking up with a partner, 39.2% of the respondents proposed it face-to-face, 33.7% of the respondents broke up peacefully, 31.9% of the respondents did not contact each other silently, 21.6% of the respondents broke up because one party disappeared, 13.7% of the respondents chose to force the other party to break up, and 7.7% of the respondents chose to blackmail the other party or be blackmailed.
'I thought a lot before I broke up. After I thought about it clearly, I asked the other party to break up directly and deleted all contact information when I came back. 'Liu yuanxiao, who works for a technology company in Shenzhen, recalled the scene when he broke up with his ex boyfriend and felt that he was very crisp,' I don't think it needs a ceremony to break up, and it needs to be determined to leave. '
Wang Ning thinks that it doesn't work to reach a tacit agreement with each other. It takes a ceremony to break up. Just like the heroine in a movie who is allergic to durian and eats durian like crazy, she has such a deep memory to let herself know that this relationship can't go back. 'in the two years without serious farewell and procrastination, I had a very hard time. I couldn't walk out and didn't want to start a new relationship. I had a lot of psychological pressure'.
In the survey, 24.5% of the respondents thought it was necessary to have a ceremony for breaking up, 52.7% of the respondents thought it was not necessary, and 22.8% of the respondents didn't have a good answer.
Returning gifts to each other is the most common thing respondents do when they break up
I was shopping in the supermarket when I heard that the other party was going to get married. When I saw the news, I couldn't help crying in front of so many people in the supermarket. 'Wang Ning said,' this may be a breakup ceremony for me. Long pain is not as good as short pain. This ceremony should have been earlier. '
If there is a ceremony for breaking up, what should it be? According to the survey, returning gifts to each other (38.5%) is the most common thing that respondents do when they break up. In addition, there are: deleting photos (30.8%), eating (27.2%), blacking each other (21.1%), drinking (19.3%) and traveling (16.0%).
Liu Yuanxiao believes that when breaking up, you can find a sense of ceremony on your own, rather than doing something with each other. For example, travel alone, or go to a place with two people's memories, and tell yourself that this is the end.
What should we do after a relationship? In the survey, 53.8% of the respondents suggested learning to let go, 53.3% thought it was important to face up to and not escape, 44.0% thought it was very important not to resent and reflect on themselves, 35.0% thought it was necessary to give themselves confidence and not to belittle themselves, 31.5% suggested releasing their emotions properly, 8.0% thought it was OK to use the language Write down the form of the word.
Wang Ning believes that breaking up should be braver, without courage and avoiding all the time. It's not the way to solve the problem. There must be problems long before we reach this point. Facing up bravely and starting again early is the best way to deal with ourselves.
Among the respondents, 44.7% were male and 55.3% were female. The Post-00 generation accounted for 1.8%, the post-90 generation 28.6%, the post-80 generation 47.1%, the post-70 generation 16.6%, and the post-60 generation 5.2%.