In the latest program, Ma Yashu suffered the biggest problem ever, that is, her daughter MIA is going to kindergarten! In fact, this problem is very common in many families. One hundred children don't want to go to school when they mention it. Like mia, they burst into tears when they hear it. The most worrying thing is that 3-year-old MIA can't even take care of herself when she goes to the toilet & hellip & hellip; through the lens, we can feel Ma Yashu's heartache and helplessness, and can't let go in the face of the children who grow slowly.
In fact, it's not just Ma Yashu. It's the fault of many parents to over protect their children. But you don't have to worry, after all, being a mother is a process of cultivation.
❤ interpretation! 'invisible pampering' is a mistake that 90% of people will make;
When it comes to pampering, usually we can think of the scene when children call their parents around, parents, grandparents rush forward. When children see their favorite toys can't go away, they will buy them; when they see their children fall down, they rush forward to help them, heartbreaking & hellip; & hellip;
In fact, as a 'modern' parent, it may have been isolated from this' primary stage 'pampering. But even so, it is still difficult to avoid giving children too much love and attention unconsciously, and being ambushed by 'invisible pampering'.
Since the birth of our children, we have tried our best to be a 'perfect mother'. Try to understand everything related to the child and protect him from any harm, so he was ambushed by "invisible pampering".
1. Meet ahead of time.
After contacting with many educational concepts, I have already formed a list in my mind: from bed bells to cloth books, from Montessori puzzles to a complete set of roller equipment, from the fun of ruminating to the Ocean Museum. In a word, as long as it can stimulate the senses, stimulate potential and cultivate sentiment, it will be brought to children.
2. Proper protection.
The protection of children has reached the heart from the body. In addition to preventing them from falling, falling into bed and drowning, we should pay more attention to how to help them avoid stress, responsibility and adversity. Fearing that his young heart would be scarred, he tried his best to smooth the bumps.
3. Elastic rules.
As the most humanized parent, children are not defensible when they are young. But when he grows up, he always gets too much leeway when he does something wrong.
Many parents don't realize that these practices are tantamount to pampering, but they are more hidden and look more reasonable under the cover of the good wishes of 'making children happy'. But it is this invisible pampering that deprives children of the opportunity and ability to bear and face.
❤ vigilance! 5 indexes of spoiled baby & ා10084;
1. The child is crying or furious until he succeeds.
It's a common thing for two or three-year-old children to lose their temper, but if you still do so by the age of five or six, you should pay attention to it, because children have found that it works very well.
2. It is difficult for children to make friends or play with other children.
Being satisfied forever will make children unwilling to accommodate others and become unpopular.
3. The room is full of toys, but he wants more.
If this is the case, it means telling the child that he can get something for nothing.
4. The child is fat or has a round stomach.
To reflect, is it to give children too many unhealthy canned, puffed food, but can meet the desire of the mouth food?
5. The child wants you to do what he can do.
To measure whether the ability of children can be achieved, parents often underestimate their children's executive ability.
❤ Q & A! What is the scale of satisfaction;
It's a natural response of every mother to surround her children all day long and hope that they will live in the 'safe circle' we have drawn. Because in primitive society, children are safe when they are around adults. But now, we don't live in the jungle, and the environment where children live is no longer wild animals. Therefore, for the concept and scale of doting, we need to define it according to the age of the child.
Real doting is the joy of taking part in children's exploration and adventure
The requirement of children's safety should be taken seriously at all times. But allow some things that should be forbidden, set no restrictions, and irrationally 'pet' children. All these things have been done by our adults, although not often, but occasionally.
German famous pediatrician, Herbert & middot; Lentz & middot; perlst, once told the media that "the real doting is not the things mentioned at the beginning of the article, but the things that children can handle by themselves. Parents tend to handle for children, such as the fun of interfering in children's discovery, or even the fun of adventure. For example, he is always in a hurry to deal with his children's small failures, so as not to let him suffer any setbacks. Parents should learn to respect their children's nature and be more tolerant and understanding without disturbing them. '
The true meaning of satisfaction lies in the psychological level rather than the material level.
The real meaning of timely gratification is that when children express their needs, they should give timely response and affirmation. If they can do it, they should do it. If they can't do it or it's very difficult, they don't have to force it.
To meet the needs is to help children establish regular natural situations and educational opportunities.
To meet the needs of children, communication with children is very important. The bottom line and rules are not completely imposed by parents, but fully respect the expression of children and agree on the results together.