Before the National Day holiday, he Pei, who had just worked for a year, had received eight wedding invitations. Together, the money alone would cost nearly 7000 yuan, equivalent to her monthly salary&# 8203;&# 8203;&# 8203;&# 8203;&# 8203;&# 8203;&# 8203;
However, for some students who haven't been in touch for seven or eight years, he Pei still feels a little 'diaphragmatic' when he makes a phone call. Students and friends who marry less than 500 will be considered 'unspeakable' Before, a high school classmate gave another classmate 400 yuan for his wedding. Later, it was said that the two basically stopped seeing each other. "
Many 'post-80s and 90s' said that behind the wedding, the' red trouble 'of money also followed. Originally, it was to send a good blessing, but now it has become more and more' heavy '.
Li Li, who has worked for more than ten years, make complaints about the fact that the rate of increase in wages is far behind the money. Just graduated from that meeting, one or two hundred were OK. Now it's often thousands. "
How much did you pay for this long holiday? What do you think of money?
Netizen comments
Some netizens said: do what you can. Don't save face. Facts have proved that many friends don't contact at ordinary times. They contact when they get married, and then disappear & hellip;
Some netizens said: it's OK to get married. I hate having a second child and charging money.
What should marriage followers do?
Since ancient times, people have advocated reciprocity, and the current human society pursues this way. Marriage, having children, birthdays, joining the army, housewarming, etc. are major festive events in life. It's human nature to have a lively congratulations. However, they have to give 'money' and compare with each other, which undoubtedly increases the burden on relatives and friends, and should be enough;
Otherwise, it deviates from the original intention of "courtesy is light and people are heavy", which changes the taste of reciprocity and needs to be innovated. Just think, this kind of changed reciprocity is to monetize interpersonal relationships, so that those who send and receive 'molecular money' take the amount of gift money as the only measure of the depth of feelings, which not only increases people's economic and spiritual burden, but also destroys people's style and social style, and should be abandoned.
Giving 'money' has become a big burden in people's reciprocity. It's not necessary to complain about it, but this alone is not enough. We should also practice it, start from me, correctly handle the relationship between 'face' and 'lining', re innovate our interpersonal communication principles, advocate changing customs and customs, new happy events, simple new things and thrift, Let interpersonal communication be consistent with your economic ability and wishes. Don't become a burden. For example, when others do a wedding, they send warm blessings, or send a bunch of romantic flowers, send a greeting text message, or order a affectionate song with the original intention of "courtesy is light and people are heavy", which not only expresses their feelings, but also does not increase their economic burden, but also has a modern flavor.
In this way, when others return gifts, they also have a 'light ceremony and heavy intention'. If so, for a long time, it can promote the popularity of "low-carbon wedding" and return courtesy to the normal track. Hello, Hello, everyone.