Today, the news of 'lung cancer mother left 8 letters' has attracted the attention of many netizens. It turned out that Qin Xiaolian, a 30-year-old young mother, had advanced lung cancer, but her son was less than 10 years old. Qin Xiaolian said he couldn't wait until his son came of age, so he wrote eight letters from his heart. He planned to let his husband read it to his son every year on his son's birthday, so as to accompany him until he came of age.
The story of lung cancer mother writing eight letters for her son moved many netizens. On May 30, Zhang Zhiyuan, Qin Xiaolian's husband, told the Beijing Youth Daily that Qin Xiaolian has now returned to his home in Dayuwan, Zhaogang village, Tianhe street, Huangpi District, Wuhan, relying on traditional Chinese medicine decoction and targeted drugs to prolong his life. When she is free, her wife will teach her son to sweep the floor, cook and do simple housework. 'she is afraid that I will go out to work in the future, and her son can't take care of himself alone'. At present, Qin Xiaolian is still optimistic about fighting the disease, hoping that her health will get better, 'she wants to take her son during the summer vacation, and the three of us will go back to her hometown Guilin.'
Event: the mother with cancer wrote 8 letters to accompany her son until adulthood
'happy 18th birthday. When you see this letter, your mother will say goodbye to you. Your mother can't write birthday letters to you anymore. You have to go on the next road by yourself, because you are 18 years old and an adult, but your mother's heart will always be with you forever & hellip& hellip;'
This is the 18th birthday letter written by Qin Xiaolian to his son Xuanxuan. There are seven such letters. After being diagnosed with advanced cancer, what worries her most is her son who has not yet reached the age of 10. According to the doctor, Qin Xiaolian's life may not exceed one year, which means that from the age of 11, Qin Xiaolian may not be able to accompany his son. To this end, she wrote eight birthday letters to her son, hoping to write one every year to accompany her son until he reaches adulthood.
On his 11th birthday, Qin Xiaolian wrote, 'watching you grow tall year by year, my mother is more happy. I hope you can grow up healthily and be a useful person when you grow up'.
12th birthday, 'I hope you can have a very happy birthday'.
On his 13th birthday, Qin Xiaolian gave a lot of advice: is it not as naughty as before? Do you wash your own clothes? Do you have clean clothes to wear? You should learn to do simple housework & hellip& hellip;
On his 14th birthday, Qin Xiaolian asked, 'it's time for junior high school. Don't you need grandpa to pick up after school? Now you are growing up. You should eat more rice and staple food. Don't buy snacks. You must not grow into a small man like your father. "
On his 15th birthday, Qin Xiaolian told his son to be a sensible boy.
On his 16th birthday, Qin Xiaolian wished his son 'come on for the high school entrance examination'.
On his 17th birthday, Qin Xiaolian told his son to "listen to the teacher, study hard, be a down-to-earth man, and be a person beneficial to the country and society in the future."
In Qin Xiaolian's letter, there was no complaint, no sadness of life and death, more piecemeal advice and reluctance to give up between the lines. " After the news that the mother of lung cancer left 8 letters to accompany her son to adulthood was exposed, it moved many netizens. For a time, love poured into this family, which had already become destitute because of medical treatment.
Details: in the wife's ward, the husband dictated to complete the birthday letter
On May 30, the reporter of Beiqing daily contacted Qin Xiaolian's husband Zhang Zhiyuan. When Zhang Zhiyuan, 36, mentioned his wife, his words were full of guilt. " She's too young. She's only 30. After we got married, we only got a license and didn't even have a banquet & hellip& hellip;'
Zhang Zhiyuan said that his home is difficult in the local area. 'the two-story brick house he lives in now is built with the help of his cousin in his hometown, using old bricks.' After more than ten years of marriage, his wife has always been gentle and good tempered in Zhang Zhiyuan's impression. 'we met when we worked in Guangdong 11 years ago and got married. In 2013, she returned to Wuhan with me. I usually work outside. My wife is the only one who takes care of my family life and takes care of my son and old father. It's very hard. "
Qin Xiaolian's illness was diagnosed in April this year. Before that, Zhang Zhiyuan thought that his wife was just suffering from an ordinary pneumonia. 'the earliest was in the second half of last year. His wife said her back hurt. At the end of the year, she began to cough, went to the health center and the town hospital and received anti-inflammatory injections. At the beginning of April this year, pericardial effusion was found during filming. It was transferred to Huangpi District People's Hospital and found that it was full of cancer cells. "
Subsequently, Qin Xiaolian was transferred to Hubei cancer hospital. He was diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer and was hospitalized. " When I knew the news, I hid outside the ward and couldn't stop my tears. After entering, she saw my eyes red and felt something was wrong with me, so she didn't hide it from her. "
Referring to the eight letters written to his son Xiaoxuan, Zhang Zhiyuan said that they were written by chance. " After the child's mother was ill, friends and some caring people came to the hospital to donate money. We bought a book and pen and wrote down the donations one by one. " Zhang Zhiyuan said, 'in early May, when we talked, she said she wanted to write some letters to her son. I said OK. We took the bookkeeping book and pen. Because she was still hanging water, we dictated it to me, and I copied it on the book. "
Zhang Zhiyuan said that from the age of 11 to 18, his wife plans to write one letter every year until his son Xiaoxuan comes of age. He said that his wife occasionally stopped when dictating, 'she was thinking about what the child looked like at that time and what things might happen. Sometimes she was dissatisfied with the content and asked me to change the typos. She continued to write for four hours without interruption'.
Tell: teach children to cook and fold clothes. I hope I can take my son back to my hometown during the summer vacation
Later, when he asked for help raising money, Zhang Zhiyuan inadvertently mentioned these letters written by his wife to his son. Soon, 8 simple birthday letters and fund-raising information were exposed in everyone's vision, which moved many strange netizens.
Zhang Zhiyuan was surprised that he and his wife didn't have high education and their writing was not good. The letter just told his son to pay attention to life and study. Unexpectedly, it would attract the attention of so many people.
In fact, because of his wife's illness, the family has been 'shaky'. " He spent more than 60000 yuan before and after treatment, almost all his family's savings. Now she spends six or seven thousand yuan a month on traditional Chinese medicine and targeted drugs. " At the critical moment, some caring people helped. In addition to raising more than 50000 yuan on the fund-raising platform, Zhang Zhiyuan's account book also recorded more than 10000 yuan of money transferred by caring people in person and from wechat and bank cards.
After his illness, his wife's weight fell from 45 kg to 38 kg. Zhang Zhiyuan was very distressed. After illness, his wife also became very weak. Even if she returned home now, she mainly rested. 'she can only get up and walk occasionally and can't do housework.'
Now, the burden of housework, taking care of the family and picking up his son falls on Zhang Zhiyuan. Originally, Zhang Zhiyuan worked part-time with the survey team and earned two or three thousand yuan a month. Now the work outside has stopped, 'nothing is more important than her,' he said. 'he's just worried that if there is resistance to targeted drugs, subsequent chemotherapy will cost a lot.'
His son Xiaoxuan is in the third grade this year. Zhang Zhiyuan said, 'he knew his mother was ill, but he thought he would get better after taking the medicine. We didn't tell him more about & hellip& hellip;' Turning to their future plans, Zhang Zhiyuan and his wife had some ideas: 'the doctor said that her life may not be one year. What we can do now is to prolong her life cycle as much as possible. "
Zhang Zhiyuan knows that his wife still has a lot to do. " She wanted our family to travel. After returning to Wuhan, her scope of activities was only in the village and town, and she couldn't take her out. She also cares about her children's life and study. She hopes that children can read more than us, be promising and useful people in the future. She also teaches her children to do some simple housework, such as sweeping the floor, cooking and folding clothes. In the future, I will go out to work. The child is at home alone. She is afraid that her son can't take care of herself. She also wants to keep her body better. When the child has a summer vacation this year, she can go back to her hometown in Guilin with a family of three. She hasn't been back to her hometown for two or three years. Because she is short of money, she has to bring gifts to relatives and friends. Now she wants to take her children back to see his grandparents. "