Nowadays, many teachers are really helpless to their students in schools. Parents are becoming more and more stubborn. Teachers are helpless in every way. As a teacher, even the most basic education has to be restricted. How can such a teacher be?
We all say: parents are the best teachers and the first teachers of children;
We also said: teachers should treat every child like parents;
But is that true?
If both parents become teachers and treat their children, education and even interfere in school education with the teacher's thinking, wouldn't it be a mess;
If teachers, like their parents, take care of everything, they may confuse the boundaries between school education and family education, making children and parents have no rules;
In fact, teachers and parents play two completely different roles in education. Parents are parents, teachers are teachers, although we all have to love children, but who is responsible for what, clear boundaries, clear!
If teachers are not like teachers and parents are not like parents, how can we ask students to be like students? How can we grasp the degree of the two roles?
Sometimes, parents are not like parents
Frequently complain and request to change teachers
In primary and secondary schools, it is not new for parents to complain about teachers and schools. There are various reasons for parents to fire teachers.
It is natural for a woman to get pregnant and have children. But parents, when the female teacher in your child's class is pregnant, do you have such worries: does she have enough energy to manage the students?
As early as a few years ago, a news broke out in a primary school in Hangzhou that teacher Yang, the head teacher of class 1, grade 5, was "dismissed" by her parents because she was pregnant. Although Mr. Yang is in charge, she has to ask for leave every three to five times during her pregnancy. Because the acting teacher is not familiar with the class, her grades have declined, and many parents are very dissatisfied with this. Parents are adamant about quitting their teachers, and even use all kinds of social relations to put pressure on the school, which makes the school very difficult.
Coincidentally, not long ago, a primary school in Guangzhou reported that a young teacher in charge of a class was dismissed by his parents. The reason for the dismissal was that the teacher was too gentle and tactful to control class discipline.
In this news, it is a young female teacher who has just graduated. In the eyes of the students, she is very gentle, she speaks softly and never criticizes the students. She will be so angry that she can't speak. In the eyes of parents, this teacher is totally different from the previous headteacher. She is euphemistic but not good at words. She can't manage the class well, so parents think that they can make a quick decision only by directly reporting to the headmaster without further communication.
In this regard, some teachers pointed out that it is necessary to admit that parents constantly point out the problems in the teaching of schools and teachers, indicating that they pay attention to education, which is conducive to improving teaching. Maybe some teachers' starting point is for the good of students, but they don't pay attention to ways and methods. Some teachers still have the problem of lack of ethics, but a larger part of the complaints are due to parents' excessive protection of rights.
"Now parents have a strong sense of safeguarding their rights. They feel that there are mistakes in school work, so they complain and reflect on the situation. 'the principal of a primary school in Qingdao thinks that when two parents take care of a child, they often make all kinds of mistakes. The teacher is not a saint. When the parents are very strict with the teacher, they can only force the teacher to do things from the perspective of exemption, and then they lose the original intention of education.
Education is not to please parents
Wu Jijin, the principal of Qingping primary school in Weifang High tech Zone, thinks that it is very unreasonable for parents to find a school and ask for a teacher to be replaced, because 'running an education satisfying the people' does not mean 'running an education satisfying the parents'.
'parents can express their views on running a school and teachers to the school, but not every parent's demands are correct. Some parents are not satisfied with a certain teacher, and others may be very satisfied with the teacher. After the replacement, some parents are satisfied, but they are unfair to others. '
"It's the people in the education circle who really understand education. The education circle is mainly schools and teachers. If schools always put parents' demands first, they are running layman education. '
The headmaster thinks that it is the school's business to change teachers. If parents find schools to change teachers, it will not only undermine the enthusiasm of teachers, but also easily make children disrespect teachers, and the relationship between parents and children and home school will be affected. Therefore, if there are criticisms against teachers, they can communicate in private and seek better channels.
Sometimes, teachers are not like teachers
Homework assigned to students has evolved into 'parent homework'
Not long ago, Yunnan network released a report entitled "over 60% parents to help children make complaints about their parents' homework after work." According to the article, more than 60% of the 74 parents who participated in the survey in Kunming have experienced 'parent homework', especially in kindergarten and lower primary school.
Peng's father's child entered a kindergarten in Guandu District this year. Since the beginning of school, he has often poured bitter water in his circle of friends. He said: 'sometimes children can't do the homework assigned by kindergartens by themselves, such as making models, windmills, sewing clothes and so on. Some even adults can't do it well, let alone children. Moreover, some homework is troublesome and trivial. In a two-way family like my family, the husband and wife are often busy preparing materials for their children's homework before they get off work. Sometimes they have to ask their colleagues for help if they can't finish or can't do it. It's not only kindergartens, but also primary and secondary school teachers.
More than half of the parents who participated in the survey think that these assignments add to their burden, but a small number of parents say that they are happy with them, and think that parents must sacrifice in the process of children's growth, and family education should try to cooperate with the school.
In this regard, the teacher is difficult to say.
'what's more difficult for teachers now is that the demands of different parents are so different that it's hard for them to say what they want. A principal of a primary school in Qingdao said that in the same class, some parents feel that as long as their children are healthy and happy, the teacher will give them too much homework. They wish they didn't give any homework except in class. On the contrary, some parents hope that the teacher will pay attention to the students' grades and give them more homework. Moreover, compared with other schools, they think that their teachers don't try their best.
Issue various wechat and QQ group tasks
In the Internet era, QQ group and wechat group have become important platforms for parents and teachers to communicate. But some parents feel that it's very nervous and tired to be on call at any time in the group, because the teacher will "parachute" at any time.
'the most troublesome thing is that after work, the teacher suddenly arranges all kinds of printed and hand copied homework, or suddenly asks him to bring something he doesn't have at home. Ms. Li, whose daughter is in grade four, said, "I have time to prepare for these tasks before I get off work, but what should I do after I get off work? Go out to find a place to print and develop photos in the evening?"
'every day after work, I look at the wechat group in my class. There is no task. When I go home to finish my meal, there is no new task. I feel much more secure. 'ms. Li thinks that parents really have the responsibility to cooperate with their teachers in educating their children, but in the final analysis, going to school is the child's business. Parents should not go to school again after work every day.
Contrary to this fear of being "on standby", a primary school principal in Qingdao said that when a head teacher built a group and didn't use it much, some parents in the class found themselves, doubted that the head teacher was not responsible enough and didn't communicate with their parents in the group.
Sometimes, teachers are not like teachers
Family education and school education are inseparable
For family education, Zhang Zhiyong, deputy director of Shandong Provincial Department of education, put forward a topic at the 2016 national home school cooperation experience exchange conference: the functions of school education and family education are overstepping, family education has become a vassal of school education, and family education is also replacing school education. For example, parents' correcting homework, parents' Tutoring homework, and parents' accompanying their children to learn & hellip; & hellip; are overstepping the responsibility of family education, and teachers' professional education activities in the field of education and teaching cannot be transferred to parents.
He believes that family education should no longer revolve around the curriculum offered by schools, nor around children's coping with school and entrance examinations. It should focus on educating children to learn to live and behave, so as to promote their healthy growth. Parents also have the responsibility to guide and urge their children to complete their homework and learn to learn, but it is not the main goal, let alone the only goal.
On the contrary, for some parents who mistakenly believe that once their children are sent to school, the responsibility for education lies entirely in the school, they should be more clear about their own responsibilities, because only by letting children learn to be human can they learn to do things better. The two are inseparable in the growth of children.
As for school education, Wu Jijin, principal of Qingping primary school in Weifang High tech Zone, thinks that school education is more focused on doing things to make children more intelligent and capable. School education belongs to the professional field, and teachers are professional talents. The so-called skills are specialized. The professional field and professional ability of teachers need professional ideas and skills as support, and corresponding qualifications and experience. Not everyone can be competent.
Teachers like teachers, parents like parents, students like students
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As a teacher, we should be in line with the premise of equality and mutual respect, and frankly communicate with parents. Make adequate preparation before communicating with parents, and pay attention to skills and methods in communication. Young teachers can consult more experienced teachers or psychology books.
The status of teachers and parents is equal. Parents should be respected in communication. Proper language should be used and body language should be used correctly. We should talk with parents in a warm, caring, euphemistic and implicit tone. If we add humor and humor, we can make the atmosphere more harmonious, harmonious and relaxed. In addition, the situation of children is also their privacy. When criticizing children, we should take into account the self-esteem and face of parents and students. We can find a relatively private place to talk with parents.
In addition to using some psychology books to improve themselves, we also need to fully understand the students' situation, including academic performance, personality characteristics, advantages and disadvantages, and basic family situation. With preparation, we can have something to say when communicating with parents. The more information we have, the more dominant we can be in communication, and it is convenient to guide the whole communication process. Full preparation before communication can also make parents realize the importance teachers attach to their children and feel the meticulous, serious and responsible work of teachers.
Teach students to pay attention to methods, care for students, understand students, go into the hearts of students, find students' strong points, and do not do anything against teachers' ethics or even against the law. When assigning homework, consider the possibility that students can complete it independently, and strictly perform the responsibilities of the industry, review and judge the quality of children's homework.
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As parents, we should make it clear that the main body of education is students. We should not judge teachers with our own ideas. We should think that teachers have many shortcomings. If we have any opinions, we can communicate with teachers privately, understand and respect each other, and pay attention to ways and means.
More clear the importance of teaching by words and by example, to influence children's personality by personality, to demonstrate and teach by example. In life, we should pay more attention to children, even if we are busy, we should also listen to children, because in the process of children's growth, company is the best gift.