Now young students know what love is when they are very young. Some primary school students begin to write love letters. Why do children have puppy love? Parents, do you know?
There are several reasons for children's puppy love
1. Physiological reasons: with the development of physiology, teenagers begin to have sexual consciousness
The secondary sexual characteristics of 15-18-year-old students have just formed, and the physiological changes have caused subtle changes in sexual psychology. In this process of change, they hope to communicate with the opposite sex of the same age. Girls' sexual development is earlier than that of men, so female students' psychology of pursuing opposite sex is earlier than that of men. The sexual psychology of adolescent girls is hazy or idealized, and even some girls take the men they love as their idols and have a wrong idea of love. Therefore, the female students in this period should strengthen the education and guidance of sexual psychology and adolescent physical health knowledge. At this time, teenagers begin to have sexual consciousness with the development of physiology. They began to be sensitive to the interaction between male and female students, they watched the opposite sex students about their every move. Gradually, on the basis of heterosexual favor, one or more heterosexual 'ideal models' are formed, and in the interaction of many men and women, the group heterosexual favor gradually turns to individual heterosexual attachment, forming a one-to-one action, that is, puppy love.
2. Social culture promotes the development of adolescent students' awareness of puppy love
Adolescent boys and girls generally like to read novels, TV, movies and plays, and most of them like singing. However, the literature and art circles in our country have been describing sex wantonly in recent years. This kind of stimulation of spiritual life has played a catalytic role in the sexual psychology of adolescent students. Nowadays, the society gives too much exaggeration to the puppy love of middle school students. Literary works and film and television programs describing the puppy love of middle school students have been published one after another, which makes teenagers feel that the puppy love of middle school students has become the mainstream in the school. As a result, it plays a role in boosting the students' puppy love. Of course, there are many reasons for students' puppy love tendency, but the social influence should play a decisive role. In addition, the incorrect guidance of media public opinion. Bad books, newspapers and magazines, vulgar and even pornographic movies and videos also have a direct impact on Teenagers' puppy love. At present, the number and coverage of unhealthy things popular in the cultural market are unprecedented. Among all kinds of media, the amount of sexual stimulation has increased greatly, and those vulgar literary works with low style are especially easy to pollute the pure hearts of teenagers.
3. Comparing with each other stimulates the openness of puppy love
Some school students' puppy love is influenced by their classmates or close friends. They join the ranks of puppy lovers in order not to lose face. Adolescent students like to form small groups in small groups, while boarding school students often form different small groups, and some small groups are small social circles of puppy love allies. Nowadays, some primary school students are pursuing "puppy love" and think it's shameful to have no object. A sixth grade teacher in a primary school showed a love letter that had just been confiscated. The words on it were not only numb, but also made many adults blush after reading it. The teacher said helplessly: "the parents have also looked for them and talked about them for more than a dozen times, but it's useless. I really don't know what's wrong with the children now?" a little boy with personal experience said: "how shameful it is to have no object! Now many boys will compare each other's & lsquo; girlfriends & quot. It is understood that some children will even be distressed because they don't have a girlfriend. Because of 'lovelorn' and do not think about food and tea, tired of school, fighting a lot of children, parents confused, at a loss.
4. The repressive education of parents and teachers stimulates the students' Rebellious Psychology of puppy love
Because of the high voice against puppy love in the society, many parents are afraid that their children's study will be delayed due to puppy love, and take restrictive measures for their children's heterosexual communication. Families often do not allow children to have normal heterosexual communication, blocking all books and periodicals about sexual knowledge and love description, leading to some children's rebellious psychology. However, some school teachers are afraid of the mistakes of the students' puppy love, and regard it as a flood of water and fierce beasts, which makes them act rashly in the communication between boys and girls. Therefore, parents and teachers jointly take the Educational Countermeasures of repression and restriction. Adolescence students have a strong sense of independence and resistance, they have their own philosophy. Under the high pressure policy, they will show all kinds of resistance. Some schools and teachers take an evasive attitude towards this problem and turn a deaf ear to the phenomenon of young people's puppy love, which leads to the spread of puppy love in schools. More often, they take another evasive attitude and absolutely prohibit the individual communication between male and female students. Once any trace of puppy love is found, it will be identified as puppy love indiscriminately, or even punished publicly, which often leads to serious contusion Students' self-esteem.