It's clear from school that parents have told you not to fall in love since childhood. One of the most important reasons for parents' opposition to puppy love is that it affects their study and their children's physical and mental health.
In the view of parents, puppy love absolutely affects learning. Since the puppy love, the results will decline, the mind is used in the place should not be used, and once the results decline, it is difficult to catch up, and it is difficult to enter a higher school. If you can't get into a good junior high school, you can't get into a good senior high school, you can't get into a good university, you can't get into a good university, you can't find a good job, you can't find a good job, and your whole life is over. This is the logic of parents' opposition to puppy love, which affects the success or failure of a person's whole life. In addition, since it is puppy love, it is immature and untimely. Improper handling will break through the forbidden area and cause irreparable regret.
But in fact, puppy love is not so terrible, parents blindly oppose, will only encourage their rebellious psychology.
1、 What is puppy love?
Puppy love refers to the love relationship established by adolescent. Puppy love generally refers to the love between teenagers who have not entered the university stage, especially the primary and secondary school students.
As can be seen from the above definition:
1. Puppy love is the love between young men and women, and it occurs in adolescence;
2. Puppy love is temporary and usually occurs in primary and secondary schools;
3. Puppy love is immature, otherwise it would not be called call / puppet / kitten love.
2、 The benefits of puppy love
Children who believe in puppy love prefer to see this statement:
1. It can improve the performance. The premise is that there should be one party who has good grades, or one party who wants to have good grades, and this party is better to be a woman.
2. You can develop good habits. They all say that women are the ones who please themselves. In fact, both men and women are the same. If they really like each other, they will begin to pay attention to their words and deeds, and will gradually develop better habits. Of course, if two bear kids call, it's hard to say what the result will be!
3. Can improve social skills. After all, love is a matter for both parties, which needs to communicate with each other, and most of the time, it needs efficient communication and self presentation in front of the public, so children's social desire will be stimulated, so they have the opportunity to improve.
3、 The disadvantages of puppy love
I believe parents are willing to watch:
1. Affect health. Why? It's said that people are haggard because of Yi Xiao. As long as you fall in love, it won't be easy. Anxiety, disappointment, anger and other negative emotions will often appear, which will naturally affect your health.
2. Affect mental health. Puberty is also a period of sexual impulse. With the limited cognitive ability of children themselves, there will be all kinds of discomfort and uncontrollability. At this time, sexual relations may occur and many psychological pressures or problems may arise.
3. It affects academic performance. If you don't handle it properly, just thinking about kissing me, it's hard to concentrate on your study. If the situation is serious, it may lead to abnormal behavior and even crime.
4、 What about parents
Who hasn't been through adolescence? Who hasn't been aroused by the opposite sex? Who doesn't want to show off in front of the opposite sex?
Therefore, if the child really falls in love, don't worry, let alone stick to it
1. Talk with your child, make sure if your child likes any boy or girl, and then ask why. Don't reject it immediately;
2. If it's confirmed that it's puppy love, first affirm it, and then talk about the boy or girl who has had a heart attack, and then talk about how he came over;
3. Reason: can like each other, but to respect each other, only let each other because of their own like and better, is really like!
4. Pendulum principle: no sexual relationship; no influence on learning.
To sum up: therefore, whether it is a daughter or a son, parents should understand, guide and ensure that the child will not eventually become a whore or scum!