The third reason why Yi Nengjing divorced Yu Chengqing is the role of family or family background
In this relationship, Yi was seriously suppressed. It's not that Harlem is bad, but that his style is just like that. Her love can't even change him. With perfect personality, he can't really understand the feelings and needs of Yi, who is from a broken family, living alone as a child, and extremely sensitive and self-esteem. They don't love each other, but have very different personalities. They work so hard to get rid of all difficulties, hand in hand to tell the world of happiness, in the face of ordinary life, easily defeated. In fact, they did their best.
Many of the female writers I know are of this kind of personality. Women with unusual growth experience are particularly easy to become writers. Their writing is actually a kind of self-treatment in writing. Some people spend their whole life writing about themselves, and at the same time they complete their self-identity, such as the famous female writer Hong Ying.
For them, there are always several key words in their life, such as the theme of eternal repetition, the feeling of insecurity, abandonment, the feeling of love and hate intertwined with their mother and father, etc. Women have a sensitive sense of smell for their own kind, so Hong Ying and Yi can quickly become friends. Another example is Taiwan's famous writer Zhu Tianwen, who is also Yi's friend.
Unfortunately, she entered the entertainment industry, there are too many disturbances affecting her behavior and psychology. Everyone becomes who they are now. If you look back and explore the way, you can find that the gears of fate are closely linked from birth. So Yi said that everything is doomed, which I deeply believe is true.
For people like them, self pity, narcissism, self-esteem and self-esteem are always dependent and complicated, which is really not suitable for marriage. Yes, what she likes most is loneliness, and what she fears most is loneliness. At that time, the whole world did not recognize her. There was only one Harlem who stood by him and could get trust, love and warmth from him. How precious it was for a 16-year-old child, she felt at ease.
When she grows up, has a marriage, and has secular happiness, she finds that she has lost herself. Harlem's emotional world is too stable, but this stability is not enough to give each other a sense of security. He will be afraid and wonder why Yi is like this. He will also give up exploring these because he is too familiar with each other. Once he gives up, he will feel worried I'm alone. The real self began to sprout again.
In fact, Yi also deeply feels her dual personality, so she likes the movie "Veronica's dual life" and has written similar feelings. I have to admit that she really has a great feeling and can intuitively understand many important propositions about feminism, which is rare among female artists.
Their separation is doomed.
Harlem will be more suitable if she finds a homely woman.