I read online that a female owner said that she was 28 years old and not married. She was said to be insane by her own mother. Is it a psychological problem or a personal problem?
Today, I read a post and felt deeply. The female owner is a person who doesn't believe in feelings. Even when the male owner said he likes her and wants to marry her, she thought it must be a dream. After waking up, everything will return to the single life. But she did not know that she met a person who appreciated her and recognized that she could spoil all her actions. Maybe the character of the female master is too similar to me, maybe the accidental love of the female master makes me yearn, so I began to have the idea of yearning for love, for a person who has never been in love, I don't know why I am so afraid of love, afraid that someone will like me inexplicably.
I've always been an insecure person. I'm not beautiful. I'm not in good shape and character. I don't know what I'm good at. Sometimes when a man wants to approach me, I always choose to escape. In my life, I am afraid that someone will fall in love with me carelessly. I always speak sharp to boys and try to push them back with words. I always wrap myself up like a hedgehog. Later, I thought about why it was like this. Maybe it was related to my lack of self-confidence. In my life, I was a careless person. They all said that I was a woman. I used to secretly like others, never express myself, and always pay attention to them silently. I always wait and pay for the happiness I want, or they will pay attention to me after a long time I realized that there was an unknown person around me who paid, but later, they all had people they liked. The woman was not me, and then they felt so painful and wronged at that time. Why I like people do not like me, why my pay will be one-sided, and later they will be less and less self-confidence, such experience makes me afraid, afraid to like a person, afraid of disappointment after pay.
In the past year, my classmates, friends and family have introduced me a lot. They have good conditions and good people. But after chatting with them, I began to evade and prevaricate for various reasons. They all said that my requirements were too high! Slowly, they began not to introduce me any more! Sometimes when I chatted with them, I let slip and said that I had never been in love They are always surprised! 28 years old, never in love, normal?
Expert interpretation:
'but she didn't know that she met a person who appreciated her and recognized that she could spoil all her behaviors. Maybe the character of the female leader was too similar to me. Maybe the accidental love of the female leader made me yearn for & hellip; & hellip;' this is a typical female psychology of Qiongyao. She wants to be noble and spoiled, and yearns for that kind of intimate love. Then why didn't she fall in love? On the one hand, she said 'I've always been an insecure person, I'm not beautiful, I'm not in good shape, I'm not in good character, and I don't know what's good about myself'. On the other hand, she said 'my classmates, friends and family have introduced me countless, and they are all very good, and I'm also a good person. It's a contradiction. I'm good at nothing. How can I attract countless introductions? Moreover, they have good conditions. Her self-evaluation is true. Because common sense tells us that a man with good economic conditions and handsome people must like a young woman with beautiful figure. She is obviously not qualified.
Few women have the courage to be so dark about themselves. What's the good for her? Yes! There are three: 1. Let her have same-sex friends, because they don't take her as a competitor. They like to tell her love stories, and they are not afraid that she knows her boyfriend. She is a friend with high safety factor; 2. Let her have more opportunities to know the opposite sex. There are many heterosexuals around a beautiful woman, so naturally she will follow her. Belittle oneself, exalt opposite sex, it is her mix circle secret. This makes her beautiful friends think that she is a qualified green leaf, while the opposite sex friends of her beautiful friends think that she is nice, because she is always saying good things about herself. So people like to call her out to play. 3. When she is black, her friends will comfort her. Don't say that. You are really good. She enjoyed being the focus of the moment, satisfied her vanity, improved her self-confidence, and made her feel really good.
If there is no danger to same-sex friends, we can only take the route of being a woman. Sure enough, they all say that I am a woman. But who knows her inner pain -- 'after a long time, they will notice that there is an unknown person around me, but later, they all have their own favorite person, the woman is not me, and then they feel very painful and aggrieved at that time. Why I like people do not like me, why my pay will be unilateral. This pattern reveals that she is in the initial stage of secret love.
She must have fallen in love with a boy secretly at the beginning of love, and for a long time. Secret love is a comprehensive fantasy of the other party on the basis of sexual fantasy, including how good the other party is, how good the character is, how talented and promising it is, and how happy it will be to marry the other party. She always had a secret love object in her heart. She went one by one and changed another. Secret love is to fall in love with the person you imagine. When someone comes to have an affair with her, she compares him with the person in her mind and immediately begins to hate each other -- 'sometimes when a man suddenly wants to approach me, I will choose to escape. In my life, I'm afraid that someone will fall in love with me accidentally. I always speak sharp to boys and try to force them back with words. '
She is the victim of secret love. If she wants to change the status quo, have a normal love and marriage, she must break the fantasy, who she likes, she must really associate with him, and accept his shortcomings. What's more, she should have self-esteem. She should not be a foil to beautiful women. She should focus on her career and hobbies to stimulate her own vitality, which will naturally attract the opposite sex.