It is said that it is better to demolish ten temples than to destroy one marriage. Most people don't dare to say bad things about other people's marriage. In addition, most of the time, the parties who are clamoring for divorce don't want to leave at all. So in reality, whether they are parents, aunts or girlfriends, they will try their best to persuade you to bear it again and again. 'for the sake of children','Although this is not good and that is not good, he / she has no feelings for you. '
Let's not talk about the rest. In the following situations, I advise you to leave as soon as possible. Such a marriage can't be saved at all. It's hard to make do with it.
The other party is a drug addict
No matter the other party is gambling, drinking, drug addiction, or sex addiction, meet this kind of person, firmly leave is the best choice. They are like parasites that eat you and the happiness of the family. Drug addicts and gamblers will be desperate in the end. If you continue to be tied up with such people, there will be only darkness and nightmares left in your life. In addition to the problems of money and being abused, this kind of deformed family will also seriously harm the next generation.
2. Serious domestic violence on one side
It's not negotiable. We have to leave. Domestic violence is the most unforgivable behavior, which is even more unforgivable than infidelity in marriage, because infidelity is still in the psychology of sneaking and fluke, but domestic violence is a flagrant brutality, trampling on human dignity. Don't be soft hearted and forgiving just because the other party kowtows and kneels and cries after the event and promises never to commit again. You know, most domestic violence will continue in a vicious circle.
Children who live in a serious domestic violence environment will have a low sense of value and self-esteem when they grow up. According to statistics, most of the juvenile delinquents were born in domestic violence environment. If you are the victim of domestic violence, then small nine just say a word to you: quickly find a way to leave!
In addition to physical abuse, verbal abuse is equally harmful. It can seriously damage your self-esteem and happiness.
3. One wants children, the other doesn't
If you have a big disagreement on whether or not to have children, your marriage will not be very happy even if it can last. It's very likely that in the end, the party who wants to have children will have an illegitimate child outside.
4. Repeatedly cheating and not repenting
If the other party is cheating, we should consider the following details: is it a one night stand or a secret love affair that has lasted for many years? Is it a simple physical vent or can't help but come true? If the other party's thoughts and actions of repentance are especially sincere for one time, it happens that you are not an emotional cleanliness addict, so you can consider forgiveness.
But if the other party has an extramarital affair every three or five times, I believe Xiao Jiu's words, dogs can't change eating excrement. When you meet such people, you'd better give up decisively, otherwise in the long run, the green hat on your head can go around the earth three times.
Xiaojiu especially despises the original match who beat Xiaosan in public. As the saying goes, flies don't bite seamless eggs. Why do women bother women? It's serious to stay away from the dregs. As the saying goes, bitch and dog will last forever. If you are smart, you should take away the house ticket and let them grow old together. Don't come out again to harm the world.
5. Love is no longer
Although feelings are like wine, the longer the time, the stronger the mellow. But some feelings are like sand in the hand, which will float in the wind slowly. Many couples who get married around the age of 25, at the age of 35, it is very likely that one of them has changed his mind or fell in love with different types of lovers. This kind of marriage has no feelings, there is really no need to nostalgia, forced to tie each other around can only become a spouse, forget it, it's better to let go, anyway, we are young, why can't we find a second spring?
6. I can't think of any reason to continue
If you have consulted all kinds of channels, heard all kinds of suggestions from family, friends, emotional talents, etc., and made all the ways you can think of to save your marriage, but the situation is still very bad. So whether you agree or not, the marriage will come to an end.
In fact, for many people, it's not a problem to be away from or. The main problem is that you should understand what you really need and what you can't stand.