after breaking up, if you still want to remember it, go to save it. Since both of you cherish this kind of relationship, why don't you try to make it up again? How can you save this relationship? Read the following article and learn some strategies to save the relationship. Step 1: make room
1. At the end of the relationship, take a break
You may very much want to save your ex boyfriend, but if you show up with him all day, call him or wink at him, he will understand that you want to save him. If you go around him all the time, he may notice that you want to get back together, but he doesn't think it's a good idea. So the best way is to give yourself a period of rest, don't always appear around him, at least for a week or two.
&You need to decide if you don't want to contact him at all, or if you want to keep in touch with him because of the school.
&Stop calling or texting him. Even if there's something very interesting that reminds you of him, you can stop calling him.
&Avoid meeting him, even if you go out with your mutual friends. If you accidentally meet at a party, don't leave because of him, but don't take the initiative to talk to him.
You don't have to hide from your ex. If you come to him, you don't need to hide, but you don't need to wander around or talk to him.
2. Think about what's wrong with you
When you distance yourself from your ex, you'll be more aware of the problems in your relationship. If you want to get back together, you need to find the problem in your relationship and solve it. This may not be a big problem, you need to take some time to find it. Here are some common problems in relationships:
&Your jealousy and control may be too strong for him to bear you any more.
&Maybe you spend too little time together.
&He may feel that you don't care about him that much.
&He may think you are too sticky.
Maybe it's the problem of changing the environment, such as one of you moved to a different city, or he wants to break up with you a few months after graduating from university.
&You may not get along well and quarrel a lot.
3. Make a plan to solve these problems
Once you have identified problems in your relationship - possibly multiple problems - you should think about how to solve them so that they don't happen again. If these problems happen again, you are still hysterical, but there is no solution, you will break up again.
&You need to be determined to make a big change and act after you get back together, whether it's controlling the part of your personality that makes the relationship fail or improving the balance of the relationship.
&If the cause of the problem is that you are too jealous, you should think about how to be less jealous.
&If he thinks you have too much control, you should control your emotions.
&If you've been fighting, you should think about how not to get excited so easily.
If the problem in your relationship is related to him, you should think about how you can get back together - for example, he is determined to change himself. But if he doesn't make any changes and you know that the problem between you will not be solved in a short time, you should think about whether you still need to get back together.
4. Find out your problem
Take time to figure out what your problems are, and spend that time hanging out with your friends and enjoying your single life. Make a list of your three weaknesses that you want to change and try to correct them. It takes a long time for a person to grow up, but every step forward will bring you closer to your ideal self and help you improve your interpersonal relationship.
&If your personal quality of life is high, your ex will start to pay attention to you. If you focus on all aspects of yourself, he will want to know you more.
&Play with your female friends, keep fit and spend time on your hobbies.
&Take time to improve yourself, but don't take too long. If you spend months correcting your shortcomings and ignoring your ex, by the time you're done, he may have walked out of the relationship.
Step 2: get your ex to notice you again
1. Let your ex see that you have a good time without him
After a while, when you feel like you've all calmed down, you should let your ex know that you're doing well. You can start going to his party, or go to his favorite coffee shop or bar with friends and meet him. Don't be too deliberate, but let him see you get along well with other friends, and let him recall your happy time together.
&If you know you're going to meet him, dress up without being obvious.
&When you walk up to him, greet him with a smile and show that you are surprised - you are busy enjoying your single life and are surprised to see him.
2. Make him jealous
It's not for everyone, but if you think that walking with other male friends or flirting with other people will make your ex want to get back together with you, you can do it. It's not that you need to have another boyfriend. You just need to let your ex see you flirting with other people, even chatting and dancing with others.
Don't overdo it. If your ex really thinks you're dating someone else, he might give up and get back together. Or, no one knows if it's going to happen - he's going to chase you harder.
3. Get him to notice you through social media
Don't make it too obvious. Put the pictures of you and your friends going out to play on social applications (wechat circle of friends, microblog, QQ space, etc.), so that your ex can see how good you look, and discover how sad it is to never go out with you again. Don't send these photos frequently, twice a week is enough.
&Choose a time when he is most likely to be online - if you know his schedule, you can see the traces of his browsing your photos.
4. You can go out with him a few times
Let your relationship ease up, from greeting to short conversation, even ten or twenty minutes of chat. Make sure you say goodbye every time you chat. Don't let him wander around all the time. It will make him more sad. Then wait for him to invite you for coffee, or you can buy him a drink.
&Don't give him any sign that you want to date him. Show your friendliness and energy so he wants to be with you.
5. Let him see how much you've changed
When you start going out every week, let him see that what he doesn't like about you has been corrected by you. If he thinks you are always talking to him, give him a chance to make a long speech. If he thinks you are too clingy, let him see you become independent.
&Don't be too obvious. Don't say: 'do you feel like I'm not jealous of other girls when you talk to them?'? On the contrary, you just need not show jealousy when he talks to other girls, and then he will notice your change.
6. Detect his thoughts
If your ex wants to get back together with you, you will feel it. How do you know that he likes you before you are together? He will have the same reaction when he wants to get back together with you. If he flirts with you, tells you that you look beautiful, touches you gently, or just asks if you're dating someone else, he probably wants to get back together with you.
&Watch his body language. If he has eye contact, stand closer to him. If he sees you walk into the room and his eyes shine, he's likely to want to get back together with you.
&If he only wants to be friends with you, he won't show deep affection for you.
&Browse his Facebook page or ask your mutual friend to find out if he's dating someone. It's possible that he's already dating someone and talking to you just to be friendly and make friends.
7. Gradually agreed to go on a date with him
If your ex starts flirting with you and learns that you want to get back together with him, he may invite you out to play. If you think he wants to invite you out to play, you can also make an invitation first and tell him what you think. If you agree, you can start dating.
&Take it easy. Don't meet many times a week. Slow down. Don't go back to where you used to be.
Unless the problem in your relationship is that you are too independent, you should be more independent this time. Don't plan your time around him. Spend time playing with friends and doing your own things.