most of the time, chatting is the process of two people getting to know each other. If one can't chat, it's easy to fall into the dead sea. Most afraid of the air suddenly quiet ~ do not be the chat Terminator~
I never know how to be grateful. I only go back to someone who is not very familiar with me. A friend knows that I have been to Yunnan. He comes to ask me for the strategy of going to Yunnan and let me tell her what I know. I picked out a few points, specifically talked about how to take the most cost-effective route, what are the necessary and easy to forget things, where are the most worth to go, and detailed about whether it is a self driving tour or a group tour and so on. After about three or four hundred words, I felt relieved that I finally told her all the useful things.
And she said, "Oh.". I wonder. I wonder if I have said too much. You want me to tell you all I know. I just want to say everything out of the meaning of 'friend'. However, after I said so much, you just give me a 'Oh'? Do you want to show your high cold, or do you want to show my self indulgence? I told you so much all at once? The beggar on the street gave him a dollar and knew how to say thank you, not just a 'Oh'? Later, she came to ask me if I had any contact with the original group and if I could get a discount from an acquaintance. Please, my friend, I'm not a tourist group, and I know limited information. I'm sorry, I don't know. Ask someone else. 'she said: 'oh. 'end the subject, no more.
Oh, oh, oh, these exclamations always make people unable to answer, can only end the topic. I told you so much enthusiastically that I deserved to be shut up by your cold face, didn't I? Later, I didn't talk to her much. Later, in another friend's place, I overheard her saying that I was cold and indifferent. I was thinking, what did you do when I was enthusiastic? A friend of mine sent me a message and asked, "are you there?" I fell asleep at 12:30 at that time. When I saw the news at 7:00 the next day, I returned to him and said, "well, I'm sorry I fell asleep last night. What's the matter? (with a happy smile)". However, after an hour, two hours... I have been in a state of curiosity and anxiety waiting for news. At noon, I saw that he was actually sending a circle of friends, but still did not return my message. So, I couldn't help but send a few question marks in the past, and he said: 'nothing. I just want to ask if I want to play tennis together this Sunday afternoon.' I'm helpless. Although I really want to go, just half an hour ago, I promised another friend to go to the gym.
The next week, in the same situation, I came back a whole day later and asked me to play tennis. Unfortunately, I already had other arrangements. He finally can't help but 'burst out': 'why my message you always don't reply in time, every time I ask you out, you have other things, you hate me deliberately, right?' my God, I really want to return to him, can't you say business every time after a long time? No one will always hold a mobile phone waiting for your message, I also have to have my own arrangements. After typing for a long time, I deleted them one by one. At last, 'sorry, I did have an agreement with others first. 'the news of the incident was sent out, and from then on, we gradually lost contact.
I can understand that people forget to reply because they are busy with life and work, but when you are looking for others, you should tell your intention directly, especially when it's urgent. It can not only shorten your reaction time, improve communication efficiency, but also reduce misunderstanding and keep friendship fresh.
If you say a word to someone who always mends your heart, he immediately says: 'no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Two weeks ago, I went back to play with my roommate I hadn't seen for years. Roommate A is a dead thin man. After meeting, he praised me: 'Hu XX, are you thin?' (proud face) 'I (proud face)' do you think I weigh a lot? 'roommate A:' 1156 Jin ~ 'I: & hellip; & hellip;. However, my self-restraint is very good. I drank the tribute tea calmly (instead of splashing it on her face). Soon roommate B came to join us. Roommate B is a dead thin man. After meeting, he praised me for being thin. I was so angry that I complained about roommate A's atrocity. Roommate B and I laughed at roommate A's stupid, and analyzed: "it's mainly because you have a face of 120 Jin." I: & hellip; & hellip; wtfffffff. So I went to buy another cup of tribute tea. Finally, roommate C came. Roommate C is a dead thin, she and the above two idiots are fundamentally different - "Hu XX, are you fat!". Some people will say how to be so careful. It's just a chat. Why care so much. It's not a glass heart, but a word of chat is enough to reflect your cultivation and EQ, so you have to care. From the perspective of popularity, it is very clear. As long as you pay attention to observation, you will find that whether a person's popularity is good or not, in fact, depends on whether she can chat. People who can chat will always make you trust, because no one will open up his heart to people he doesn't trust; People who can chat always make you feel comfortable. Believe that everyone is talkative, it depends on whether she meets the person who can talk with her and make her feel comfortable. People who can chat always have excellent self-cultivation, because a person's emotions can easily be reflected in one word and one action. So if you are in a bad mood, you can talk to your friends openly, and chat with ordinary friends, please show your self-cultivation and character.