After watching the recent film "July and Ansheng", I feel that it can become a textbook standard for judging my girlfriend.
If so, girls, do you really have girlfriends?
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July and Ansheng in the movie are known at the age of 13. They are childhood sweethearts. They go to school together, eat together, take a bath and do bad things together, and share their little secrets of puberty growth. Of course, it is also necessary to meet love together and like the same boy. Often friendship is no match for love, and then deception, betrayal, tearing, breaking up.
The reason why July and Ansheng can be called the textbook standard for judging girlfriends is that their friendship is not sacrificed by love, but by love, for friendship.
Youth movies are inseparable from friendship and love, generally with love as the theme and friendship as the foil. But this movie love has become the foil, even the man they like, is just the spice in their girlfriends' affection, the image and personality are fuzzy.
The two girls have distinct personalities. They have made different choices and lived different lives for the boys they like. There is resentment and hatred for each other, but they also show sympathy for each other. Love each other sincerely and hate each other sincerely.
'sincerely', this is the real 'girlfriends' I understand. This sincerity can only be confirmed and proved in the choice of love and friendship, which is an eternal problem.
Do you really have girlfriends?
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Three grades of girlfriends
1、 There are three levels of girlfriends
The first is to be a good friend. You eat together, go shopping together and buy the same style. You can make an appointment when you have time. It's OK to watch movies and sing K and drink. You often stick together, talk about clothes, bags and cosmetics, but you never know each other and are not willing to show your vulnerability in front of each other.
My good friend J, she has a good friend like this. They often shop together and talk about new styles. They also make an appointment to have a manicure in a rice bar. Occasionally, their circle of friends still basks in a picture of their love. But j has never regarded that friend as his best friend, and often complains to me that he doesn't like some behaviors of that "best friend".
They are just good friends in the eyes of others. This level of girlfriendship can be tested with only one meal.
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Three grades of girlfriends
The second is' girlfriends'. You do read books together and tell secrets. You poke each other's breasts and bathe and sleep together. If the other party doesn't have money to be ready to support her at any time, no one is allowed to bully her. But meet the boy who likes at the same time, will hesitate, will waver, will cheat and will betray.
One of my classmates, she and her best friend grew up in a yard. They were both in the same school in junior high school and senior high school. Both of them were beautiful. But in order to a common like of boys make everyone know not to see each other. The reason is that her best friend knows that she likes the boy, but the boy confesses to her best friend, but she agrees. My classmate is the last of all friends to know about this matter when they are together. She felt like a big fool.
Many people have a close friend like this. Fortunately, you haven't met a boy you like at the same time. Maybe the so-called invincible friendship between you can be broken down by a man.
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Three grades of girlfriends
The third is July and Ansheng. They all meet the conditions listed above. Most importantly, they love each other more when they meet love. And more certain.
July and Ansheng are two girls with opposite personalities. They are lovely and gentle in July, and Ansheng is bold and indulgent. Ansheng knew that he had a sweetheart in July, so he secretly ran to warn him. There was no way to avoid mutual affection. But in July, I still wish to be with my sweetheart. The three figures are inseparable.
It is precious that Ansheng decisively made a decision to kill this developable 'betrayal' in the cradle. She quit, determined to give love to her best friend, and found a very reasonable excuse for her exit. Everything seems to be in order, but it's all hard work.
I once saw a saying: in addition to whores, cheaters are especially simple people who believe in love. When the second kind of people cheat, they say it's for true love. This reminds us that we should not only be wary of selfish people, but also be far away from those who just believe in love like children. There is no substantive difference between the two kinds of people.
In the same way, in the name of true love, the behavior of selfishness, regardless of friendship, robbing other people's boyfriends is not bad in essence. So don't use 'true love' as a cover for your selfishness.
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I have a girl friend, she has a boy who likes many years. She often mentioned to me that their classmates had a good time and that the boy was good or bad. I often think, that is how a beautiful boy, so that I cherish the girl like so long. They are still friends, but they haven't broken it. My best friend often mentioned me to him and said that I was beautiful. That boy may try to add my QQ out of friendliness or curiosity.
I hesitated and refused. The reason is that although I am curious about how excellent he is, I also want to become friends with him and try my best to help them. But the thought that if I became friends with boys, whether there was a result or not, the relationship between them also became complicated. Originally, there were only two possible feelings, which became a variety of possibilities. And my girlfriends don't necessarily like my acceptance and match. So he refused decisively.
Now they say it but they are still friends. I know their good and bad from their girlfriends, but my relationship with my girlfriends has never changed. So I'm glad that I killed all the complicated and possible options in the cradle.
Girlfriends are not roommates, eating friends or playmates. You may have nothing but to share everything, but love cannot be shared, and it is also the ultimate standard of test.
A true friend is one who eschews all options that might hurt you, even at the expense of herself.
It's like July and Ansheng.