After two people get married, their life needs two people to maintain together. Let's understand the five principles of successful marriage.
1、 The need for autonomy and performance
Everyone wants to act according to his own thought and will. This is the embodiment of the need for autonomy. Everyone hopes to fully express themselves in front of others, give full play to their talents, show good demeanor, and hope to make full use of their wisdom, create more labor achievements, realize self-worth, and get more people's recognition. This is the performance of meeting the internal psychological needs. Husband and wife also need to make each other get more joy, joy and exclamation through eyes, language or behavior, so as to get more feeling of being appreciated and accepted, and finally realize self acceptance.
2、 The need for respect
Everyone's self-esteem from a very young, but it is often extremely fragile, once hurt, will feel extremely painful. On the contrary, if people often feel respected or accepted, they will feel very gratified and satisfied. Therefore, only when husband and wife show mutual respect, mutual understanding and mutual trust from time to time, can their love and marriage life be more satisfied and their sense of happiness be continuously improved. Any accusation, lesson, contempt or belittling of the other party's tone or behavior may damage the other party's self-esteem, and ultimately seriously affect the quality of marriage, and even lead to tragedy.
3、 The need for catharsis
No matter how happy the couple is, they are not able to keep a happy mood all day long and always full of joy. Like ordinary couples, they must have sorrow, pain and contradiction, and they will also have emotional excitement and even quarrel. However, the greatest wisdom of these couples is that when one party's emotion is unstable, the other party will make timely evaluation, compromise and concession, and even be willing to actively become the listener of the other party, listen to their voice, and help the other party through the troubled period with stable and peaceful emotions. In a sense, the best psychiatrist may be your partner. When someone can open his heart to express his or her depression, it's the best chance to express his or her love. At this moment, just do some comfort, counseling, to show love, warm company in the other side, you can resolve their inner anxiety to the greatest extent, so that they can quickly release from the pain. Only by making your partner feel the existence of love, your firm support and unconditional company, can the marriage be more lasting and harmonious
4、 The need of communication
To participate in social activities and integrate into the real population is the driving force for maintaining vitality and fun in human life. It is difficult to be recognized by modern society that people do not like to communicate with others and do not want to approach people. In the marriage life, we should pay attention to each other's external and internal needs at the same time, which can not only deepen the understanding and improve the understanding, but also further deepen each other's heart, maintain more spiritual communication and link ways, make love more specific and stable, also can make the family life keep alive, and the marriage life will always be young.
5、 Hobbies and emotional needs
Husband and wife come from different families, and their family conditions, educational background, regional culture and hobbies are different. At this time, we need to understand each other's psychological needs as much as possible, and purposefully adapt to and meet each other's psychological needs. As long as any trivial family affairs are handled with their own sincerity and love, both sides will experience and obtain greater psychological satisfaction. Only in this way, the marriage will not be full of resentment, loss, complaint and even hatred. Therefore, the more stable the family, the more stable the marriage, the family must have rich love as nourishment.