Since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been particularly difficult to get along with in China. How can a smart woman handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law well!
How to get along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Every family has a little bit of the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Some people are handy in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but some people can't eat and walk around. In fact, people need skills to get along with each other. Today, Xiaobian has brought 9 skills to get along with each other. I hope it can help my daughter-in-law and mother-in-law get along with each other.
Aiwu house
My husband and mother-in-law are just like the little crow and the old house. What you want is just a little crow. It all depends on the care of the old house for decades, even without a feather. Let you enjoy the fruits of victory, do you still want to go to the room to expose tile? With this concept, you can care about your mother-in-law from the details, and no longer ask her how to love you. In this way, from you, the family relationship will be harmonious.
Separation of views and practices
A college classmate told me how her mother-in-law put on shoes for her, how she alienated her husband, and how she was narrow-minded and ordinary citizen. However, when I went to her home, I found that they talked and laughed in harmony. So I can't help but ask her what's the matter, she said with a smile: opinion back to opinion, practice back to practice. If I have a big opinion on my mother-in-law, I will just treat her as her husband's mother. For example, any mother-in-law wants to be respected by her daughter-in-law, so even if you think her cooking level is still below you, you may as well ask her for her good cooking. When you encounter difficulties, don't forget to ask her for advice. The key is to let her get a kind of psychological balance, and she will make less trouble in the future.
Always on the mother-in-law's side
This is an important principle without principle. It's not pleasant to try. It needs a little high intelligence. Generally speaking, a mother-in-law can easily regard her daughter-in-law as an 'extra staff member'. In order to make her accept you as soon as possible, she should instill some 'ecstasy soup' into her mother-in-law faster and stronger, so that she can feel that you are even facing her more than her own son. For example, it's not easy to be a bole, and it's hard to be a flatterer. The key is to create a close and harmonious atmosphere so that she feels that you should be one of them.
Play some meat games
It doesn't mean that you and your husband should be too intimate in front of your mother-in-law. On the contrary, this is the most taboo point for a daughter-in-law. If you don't live with your mother-in-law, you can play some games with your husband in front of her mother-in-law, so that your mother-in-law can know that you are devoted to her baby son. You don't rob him of anything delicious and useful, and you rush to do everything at home and abroad. It doesn't matter if it's too much meat or exaggeration. Once the mother-in-law's psychology is satisfied, she will immediately feel sorry for your malnutrition, hard work, chocolate call to buy for you, help you do housework. One day, your mother-in-law will pull you aside and say, 'you, don't spoil him. Let him do it by himself.' the mouth says so, but the mind is sweet. When the mother's eyes are eccentric, to see how you crooked.
Show your love for your husband
From time to time, he "conveys" his husband's endless love for his mother. Mother is a dedicated career, she does not care what she will get, is to let her heart out to her son, she is willing. But the man is very rough, always spew rave or clumsy. At this time, the best way for you is to accompany her to remember the hardships, to talk about how difficult it is for her to raise her son, to accompany her to think of sweetness, and how filial and filial her son is. At this time, the mother-in-law will feel more complacent: you didn't take her son away! Therefore, she will feel more considerate and caring because of your coming.
Don't argue right and wrong
Whose family's Day is not like daily necessities, eating and drinking Lhasa? How many things need to be discussed in the round table meeting? Family is a place that pays more attention to emotion than to reason. Don't try to reason at home. I admit that family affairs can be divided into right and wrong, but there's no need to come up with a reason. My mother-in-law said that the sun came out from the west, you said right, you know in your heart that it came out from the East, there is no need to correct her face to face, face to face let her down. Losing face in front of her daughter-in-law is the last thing her mother-in-law wants.
The complaint should be ingenious
Don't speak ill at both ends, it will only lead you into a helpless situation. All mothers dote on their children. They can scold them, but they will never allow others to speak ill of their children. So in front of her mother-in-law, even if you make fun of your husband, you should also pay attention to propriety, so as not to make trouble of yourself. If you have a quarrel with your husband, how can your mother-in-law persuade you and blame him for you? You just nod your head with tears in your eyes. Don't accuse your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law thoughtlessly. Be careful to plant seeds of unhappiness between them. More importantly, don't slander her mother in front of her husband. There will be a special article on how to use your husband to play the best role between you and your mother-in-law, because the mystery is not clear in one sentence or two.
Is the gift important
What is a gift? It shows whether you really observe the people around you, which is the most practical thing in your daily life. It's not easy to give gifts, but for mother-in-law, gifts are a necessary lubricant between you. An obvious proof that mother-in-law is hard to serve is to give gifts. When you give a big gift, she will say that you will not spend money indiscriminately. When you give a small gift, you have to take the risk of gossiping from all aspects. It depends on your ability! People's needs can't be measured by more or less money. Therefore, as long as you pay attention, you can feel what can be sent to your mother-in-law's heart. For example, although her mother-in-law is old, she is still a woman. You might as well give her a tube of ORGNITU lipstick that she is too embarrassed to buy and yearns for. When you send it, you must insist on putting it on for her, let her look in the mirror, and then praise her. You can secretly write down her favorite food and surprise her from time to time. There is no need to give gifts on any special day. Thinking about her mother-in-law's needs anytime and anywhere can move her heart more than anything else.
Show weakness appropriately
In the old society, the daughter-in-law was bullied by her mother-in-law, but now it's different. You are young and independent, and her son can easily catch you up. In his mind, her position is booming. In contrast, her mother-in-law is just the opposite, so she regards you as a 'competitor'. Guilty will be sensitive, she and you care, it is her unwilling to show weakness. You might as well take care of your mother-in-law's bad mood. When you come across something that her mother-in-law is clearly not doing well, show that you have accepted defeat and her mother-in-law's heart is smooth. I think she won't really go on forever.