Recently, the 10 standards of perfect daughter-in-law have been wildly spread on the Internet. Many netizens joked that 'I can't do it' what are the 10 scary standards? Please take a look with small editors of sihai.com and check the 10 standards of perfect daughter-in-law that scare away daughter-in-law.
1. At least to respect filial piety is filial piety
Standard: don't say filial piety is not filial, at least understand respect.
Survey: 94.44% think it is reasonable, 5.56% think it is unreasonable.
'sometimes, my mother-in-law is harsh and likes to pick up problems, but I think respect is the minimum. Jiang Qian, a 25-year-old from Jiangjin, has been married for more than one year. She and her mother-in-law have many different living habits and often have different opinions on trivial matters. 'I almost don't have a head-on conflict with her. After all, she is a mother-in-law and an elder. I have to do what I should be filial'.
2. A diligent daughter-in-law makes people love her
Standard: can do housework, even if seldom.
Survey: 94.82% thought it was reasonable, 5.18% thought it was unreasonable.
'I don't really need to learn simple housework, such as washing dishes and sweeping the floor. I think we should rush to do it. 'Dai Xinxing, who has been married for three years in Jiangbei District, said that in the eyes of her parents in law, a diligent daughter-in-law is always liked and she rushes to do it. In fact, her parents in law won't let her do more. On the contrary, the lazy friends around her always worsen the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
3. It's not easy to give up work and become a full-time wife
Standard: have their own work, do not eat husband soft rice.
Survey: 85.21% thought it was reasonable, 14.79% thought it was unreasonable.
'modern women should have their own work, but they often have to make self sacrifice after having a family. Jiang Qian said that she doesn't agree that it's easier to be a full-time wife than to work.
'since 2001, my daughter-in-law has given up working at home to meet her husband and teach her children. It's very hard. No one thinks she has a soft meal. 'Hu Changlian, 68, of Beibei District, also believes that in this era, a daughter-in-law should have a job, but sometimes it is necessary to be a full-time wife.
4. It is necessary to cherish family happiness
Standard: love your husband well and cherish the happiness of love, marriage and family.
Survey: 91.02% think it is reasonable, 8.98% think it is unreasonable.
'if you get married, of course, you should try to keep the family happy and love your husband well, which should be the premise. 'Ms. Wu, who lives in Yuzhong District, is 25 years old and has been married for half a year. 'I don't think it's reasonable to regard this as a standard or a rule. Jiang Qian believes that it should come from the heart to love her husband and cherish the happiness of her family.
5. Good neighborly and friendly is not only the quality of daughter-in-law
Standard: good neighborly and friendly, no enemies.
Survey: 95.20% think it is reasonable, 4.80% think it is unreasonable.
Dai Xinxing believes that good neighborliness and friendship are not only the qualities of a daughter-in-law. 'live in the society and get along well with your neighbors. If neighbors are really difficult to get along with, try not to come and avoid conflict. '
'as a daughter-in-law, she spends more time with her neighbors than my son and I do, so she represents the whole family. 'aunt Du, 67, of Yubei District, believes that the way in which her daughter-in-law gets along with others, to a large extent, can affect the harmony of her neighbors.
6. Self behavior reflects family education
Standard: pay attention to your own image and don't lose your face.
Survey: 91.78% think it is reasonable, 8.22% think it is unreasonable.
'of course, their own image is important, especially their behavior, which not only affects the image of their mother-in-law, but also reflects their parenting problems. 'Ms. Wu told reporters that one weekend, she went out to buy vegetables in her pajamas and her hair was disheveled. When she met some acquaintances on the way, she still laughed recklessly. 'later, my mother-in-law gently reminded me that I overheard people gossiping about me. Since then, I have also paid a lot of attention.
7. Parents want to be friends with their children
Standard: make friends with children and don't beat or scold them casually.
Survey: 94.18% think it is reasonable, 5.82% think it is unreasonable.
According to Jiang Qian, this is what every parent wants to do. 'seeing that I get along well with my children, my parents in law will be happy and have a better attitude towards me. '
'I will make friends with my children, but they will also learn when they make mistakes.
In the eyes of parents in law, it is difficult to define the casual beating and scolding. Wang Yao, 24, of Jiulongpo, said that no mother scolded her children at will.
8. If there's friction, going back to my mother's house will only make the relationship worse
Standard: don't run to your mother's house in three days or two. Don't speak ill of your mother-in-law's house.
Survey data: 59.67% think it is reasonable, 40.33% think it is unreasonable.
'when family members live in one room, there will inevitably be friction and contradiction. I'm afraid it will get worse and worse if I run to my mother's house without moving. 'Dai Xinxing said that sometimes she needs to talk, but not to go back to her mother's house but to talk with her girlfriend. If you can't move, tell your mother's family about your troubles. They will worry about themselves or even be dissatisfied with your mother's family, which will only worsen the relationship between the two families.
9. My parents in law feel very warm
Standard: economically, don't haggle with your parents in law.
Survey: 64.73% think it is reasonable, 35.27% think it is unreasonable.
'I feel deeply whether my daughter-in-law is really good to me. "Auntie Du told reporters that she and her wife have retirement wages, live separately from her son, and do not need his support financially. However, when a family goes shopping, their daughter-in-law will rush to pay. Sometimes, she pays the water and electricity bills for me. In fact, we are not bad, but her approach makes people feel warm. '
10. Good looking and smart. It's too harsh
Standard: good looking, smart and humorous.
Survey: 27.05% thought it was reasonable, 72.95% thought it was unreasonable.
'what man deserves such a daughter-in-law?' 'if the law make complaints about the law, how can the daughter-in-law live in the world?'… … this standard is the most common way for netizens to tuck up. The newly married Ms. Wu also believes that this standard is the best way to scare away her daughter-in-law. Even the two parents in law interviewed said: too harsh. 'I'm looking for a daughter-in-law. I'm looking for an idol.