We often say that there is no filial piety before a long hospital bed. Indeed, for many people, it's OK to be kind for a while, but taking care of others over the years requires great patience and love! However, for the coal boss of Shanxi Province, it's enough to move us to take care of his wife and sell his family property!
In 1978, 19-year-old he and 23-year-old she were introduced. At that time, he was a native of Fudong Town, Helong County, working in the vegetable team. At that time, it was an enviable job, not only to eat well, but also to eat well. However, she came from Shandong to her elder sister, and eating well was the biggest luxury.
'at that time, I was a child, and I didn't understand anything, so I listened to the old man and found a daughter-in-law older than myself who knew how to hurt you. He said that they met several times and got married at the end of that year.
There are seven brothers and sisters in his family. He is the eldest. He has to take care of his parents and brothers and sisters at home. Never know what is love for him, since he married her, just realize how warm home is.
'no matter how late I finish my work and go home, the dishes must be ready on the table, and there must be a hot wine pot next to it. She will sit there waiting for me to eat together when I go home. 'he said,' until now, I believe that in the first three or five years of marriage, I have enjoyed the happiness that most men don't enjoy. '
'sometimes I don't understand why, especially for the couple now, who has done more and less? My daughter-in-law has done all the housework. She has never let me stretch my hand and never said I'm tired. 'he recalled, still proud. He was a tractor driver. At that time, there were only 11 tractors in Helong County, which was "the same as driving for the county magistrate now". This pride was mostly felt by his wife.
'there is an egg at home. She is reluctant to eat it. She will definitely leave it for me. '
'she not only treats me as her husband, but also as her little brother. '
Born in 1979, she didn't let her eldest son reach out to her from confinement to child care. He was so ignorant that he didn't even wash one of them and didn't know how the child grew up. '
She makes pasta as a 'secret weapon' for making friends with customers
'she only knows that this year's situation is better than last year's, and how much money she makes. She never asks, never asks. She says that she has to give me money anyway, and it's useless for her to ask for money. '
As the eldest sister-in-law of the family, she has almost covered all the work in the family, including washing clothes and cooking. She usually takes care of his six brothers and sisters, even more importantly.
She also makes good pasta. To this day, he still talks about the big and fragrant steamed bread, the bean buns of various shapes and the unique noodles & hellip; & hellip.
In 1981, the local coal mine allowed personal contracting. He was the first one to contract the coal mine. At that time, he made friends with customers' secret weapons, which were nothing else but his wife's steamed bread and noodles. She uses the unique secret recipe of hair noodles from her hometown in Shandong Province. The steamed bread is soft and fragrant, which can't be forgotten by anyone who has eaten it. Every new year, six bags of noodles are prepared at home for making steamed bread.
'it's all better. I've been begging you for a long time. Can you steam some steamed buns for the Spring Festival this year? My sister-in-law's steamed buns are so delicious!' before the Spring Festival, she began to make steamed buns. There are always various cars parked at the door. If you make a good pot, someone will take it right away.
Her noodles are more special. 'cook the noodles, blanch them with water, pick them with chopsticks, black in the middle, sweet potato powder, white on both sides, white noodles. Pour the three fresh brine she made directly, and when you eat it, it will be delicious! "He told reporters that his wife's noodle skills are also well-known.
There are many parties in the coal mine. He often eats with others until seven or eight o'clock in the evening. And every time I go home, my wife is still the same as before. There are fried dishes and hot wine on the table, waiting for him to come back for dinner.
Until later, every time he went home, he had finished his meal and repeatedly told her to eat first. She persisted for more than a year before giving up.
There is a good wife in my family. The business of coal mine is booming day by day. With more money, my life is better.
'how much money is there? By 1990, I had hundreds of thousands. 'he said that at that time he had become a well-known coal boss and a rich man. The wife took care of herself as a younger brother, and she never even asked how much money she had.
'she only knows that this year's situation is better than last year's, and how much money she makes. She never asks, never asks. She says that she has to give me money anyway, and it's useless for her to ask for money. 'he said that with more money and more women, she was always in his heart. Home was the place he wanted to go after his social intercourse.
Sudden and serious disease
Happy life changed
'more than 20 days after her coma, she woke up and created the first miracle. But his left body was paralyzed and his language was damaged. He could not speak clearly. '
The bad news came out of the blue. In June 1994, he was busy in the coal mine. Someone came to him and said that his sister-in-law was sick, vomiting and pulling. He hurried home and found that the yard was full of people. She was lying on the ground convulsing. At that time, she opened a shop in the town. She was playing poker with her friends when she had nothing to do. She suddenly fell ill. He rushed for an ambulance to the town hospital. The Dean saw his face sink and said it was not a small problem, but a stroke. He wanted to go to a big hospital. He took her directly to the Affiliated Hospital of Yanbian University. The hospital diagnosed cerebral congestion and operated immediately.
She was unconscious for a few days after the operation. The doctor told him that there were three malformations in her cerebral blood vessels. They were congenital and now ruptured. Congestion caused motor and language nerve damage. There is no remedy for them. It's of little significance to cure them. I can't wake up. Go home and wait. The implication was to sentence her to death.
He begged the doctor to operate on her again. 'I said if that's the case, can there be a miracle?' he cried when he asked the doctor to save her.
At his entreaties, the doctors met to study the operation plan and had a second craniotomy to treat the other two abnormal blood vessels.
'more than 20 days after her coma, she woke up and created the first miracle. But his left body was paralyzed and his language was damaged. He could not speak clearly. "He said that the doctor told him that it was a miracle to wake up. This kind of situation can live for up to 8 years, with a psychological preparation.
He didn't believe it, so he took her on the road to medical treatment. Beijing, Shanghai, Tianjin & hellip & hellip; all the big hospitals that have heard about this disease have been there, even with a glimmer of hope.
She can't eat hard rice. It's all porridge or dry rice mixed with soup. He makes it three times a day.
She couldn't move, and she was incontinent in defecation. Sometimes it was inconvenient for a day, sometimes it was a few stools a day, and he cleaned up in silence.
He was so absorbed in her that the contracted coal mine had to be managed by others.
Ten thousand, twenty thousand, one hundred thousand, two hundred thousand & hellip; & hellip; savings were all spent on her, and he did not frown. He just wanted to change back to the woman who can make steamed bread noodles, hot wine and so on.
After the fall of his wife, the task of housework and taking care of children also fell to him. After washing and washing, he knew that his wife had undertaken so much in these years, but never complained.
Late at night, lying in bed, he asked her if she was cold or hungry, and she always held him with her active right body, just like when she was just married. He could not help turning his face away from the tears in her eyes.
At that time, the couple were very nice. They were handsome men, rich women, beautiful women. They always smiled on their faces. There was nothing wrong with being a neighbor. We always ate the sandwich noodles she made. They were delicious. We all said that God didn't open his eyes. How can such a good couple get this disease.
He was a famous millionaire. After his wife was ill, he took his wife around to see a doctor. As soon as he heard that he could cure him, he never gave up. That's how all the money is spent.
When his eldest son got married, he didn't have any money. On the wedding platform, when his son saluted him, he couldn't take out anything. Holding his son and crying, our friends cried under the platform.
-Li Fenglan, an old friend who opened a coal mine with Longxian County, was very sad about the two.
He never asked the community. We saw him go out to the sun with his wife on his back every day, and the two of them had a good relationship. Last year, the community gave out wheelchairs. He came to ask if he could get one. We just know that his daughter-in-law was so ill.
-Wei Sumei, director of the party office of Yanji construction engineering street, said that Yin Xiaozhong was full of admiration.
My father is my model. Since childhood, my father and mother have a good relationship. My mother supports my father in everything. So I think it's normal for my father to serve my mother like this, couple. But it's true that my father used to be very beautiful. Now he has such a big gap. It's not easy for him to survive.
-Son Yin Changli said so.
Sell the house for his wife
'with her in, this is a complete home. When the children come back, they can shout, mom, have you eaten? It's not cold, without her & hellip; & hellip;'
In 1997, he led her to live in a heating building in Yanji city. In winter, there was no need to burn firewood, which was conducive to her recovery. He still led her around for medical treatment, but with little success.
He didn't go on with the coal mine after the contract period, because he had no time to take care of it. He became a laid-off worker, and she had no unit. They had no source of life. They lived on the rest of their savings and treated her. After eight years of death, as the doctor said, and a second miracle, her condition did not improve. In 2008, he finally spent the last sum of money for her. They couldn't even continue their lives. He had to sell his house and rent a cottage.
In 2010, she had another cerebral hemorrhage, and he sent her to hospital for surgery with the help of relatives. After discharge, she was unable to speak and was paralyzed. And he didn't even have the money to eat, and he was almost desperate. 'how uncomfortable it is to have clean pockets than clean faces & hellip; & hellip;'
'many times, I wanted to throw my two children away and die with her. '
'she advised me when she could talk, find a woman & hellip; & hellip;'
'with her, it's a complete home. When the child comes back, he can shout, mom, have you eaten? It's not cold, without her.' speaking of this, he covers his eyes.
'you are our man's role model'
'I didn't think I was great. In those years, she let me enjoy a lot of blessings that men didn't enjoy. I was just paying back. '
Both sons have grown up. They have inherited the advantages of their parents: filial piety and consideration. His family's savings have all been spent. His eldest son has rented a house since he got married, and his youngest son has never been married, which is his regret.
Later, there was no way. He came to his community. Yanji City Construction Street Changqing community came to his home to investigate, was moved by the couple, and soon for them to handle the minimum living insurance. In 2011, they moved into a low rent house built by Yanji municipal government for low-income households. Life is finally guaranteed.
In 2013, Yin Xiaozhong was named Yanji moral model, and his deeds touched countless people. Yanbian governor Li Jinghao paid a special visit to his home and said, 'you are an example to our men. '
A female leader who came to donate said, 'on behalf of