I was born in engineering. Most of my classmates normally become engineers. How fragmented this era is, the meshing between gears is always the same. No matter how bad the world is, they will always live an ordinary and upward life, combine with their classmates, colleagues or blind date, and never grow old.
They once asked me suspiciously, 'why is the world you see different from us?' Also criticized me: 'what you said is too shocking. Where is such a mess now.' I accept and admit it. They are what Mr. Lu Xun called "the backbone of China", those divorces, affairs, junior concubines and mistresses & hellip& hellip; Are far away from them.
Therefore, I was surprised to hear about the divorce of a female classmate of mine.
She is very normal to date and get married. It doesn't matter whether she loves or not. The man is a civil servant. It is said that he is not a bad person, but just likes to play. She divorced many years ago. At that time, men played gambling machines and didn't go home every day. Colleagues, friends, family members, including classmates, criticized men's play and advised her to give men a chance. Many theories are: newlyweds need to run in, men are young children, and with children, they will have a sense of family responsibility & hellip& hellip;
She gave the opportunity and had a baby. The man really quit the gambling machine and began to play WoW. Middle aged and elderly women like me don't even say what wow is exactly. Anyway, it's an online game -- can you fall in love where you play games? In short, the man fell in love. This time, he didn't listen to anyone's advice. My female classmate, they said, took her children to go to her sister in Shenzhen. At this age, her parents died and she didn't even have her mother's family.
At the classmate's meeting, everyone looked at each other, and the same sentence was written on everyone's face: if you knew earlier, you might as well have left that year. At that time, she was still young and had no children. Even if she had a pathetic heart, her face had not completely changed. She has more or less beautiful feelings for people, things and the world. She can also fight in the field of men and women and have the opportunity to marry a good man. But until now, when she gradually enters the realm of life, it is difficult to find a job. It is better to retire directly, and it is probably equally difficult to remarry. Who pays for her loneliness? Who is responsible for her fatherless child? Only herself.
Our persuasion is not to persuade us to leave. She was reluctant to part from it because of the Chinese people's nature of cherishing things. My mother doesn't even throw away a piece of cloth. The gorgeous clothes I wore in my frivolous age are now too tight to fit an arm into her trouser legs, and she keeps them optimistically: 'at least they can be used as rags.' I reminded her that it was pure fiber like a pure man and did not absorb water. She stared at me: 'then leave it for Xiaonian (my three-year-old daughter). "
This is a ruthless thing, and we are even more reluctant to abandon those who have feelings. In particular, at the beginning of marriage, most people hold the heart of dying, drink and peck, and are generally cautious as the last dinner. Seeing it gradually mildewed, like a potato with green buds, common sense let us know that it is poisonous. We still dig out the buds, cut off the green halo, flush and flush under the tap water, add oil and salt, fry and eat it, and pretend that nothing has happened. Women don't even have the courage to throw away a potato in the kitchen, let alone a marriage? So poisoned, whose fault is it?
Marriage is a woman's second life, and survival is the instinct of all animals. But most countries in the world are discussing the feasibility of euthanasia. Is life without quality worth maintaining? If you give up this life early, the other life may live better. The marriage destroyed all the way, do you want to leave early and reincarnate early?
Some things are really early, early and good, late and good, not bad（ (signed)