what are workplace psychological barriers? How to overcome them? Workplace psychological barriers are psychological problems that many office workers will encounter more or less, so how to overcome them? Let's take a look at specific cases.
Jiang Xiaohua is a nurse in a hospital in the city. Colleagues in the Department like to get together to play mahjong after work, and they call her every time when they are short of one. Jiang Xiaohua, who doesn't like and is not good at playing cards, is not very likely to refuse people. Every time, I was dragged away by my colleagues, repeating the depression of losing money and wasting time. Two days ago, Jiang Xiaohua was dragged to play cards again. She couldn't find a solution. She posted a post on Tianya asking for help -- 'if I refuse, how can I say it out?' "
My colleagues like playing mahjong after work
Jiang Xiaohua, 22, has been a nurse for five years and has been in this hospital for three years. He came to the rehabilitation physiotherapy department half a year ago. There are more than 30 medical staff in the Department. There are quite a number of doctors and nurses. The doctors are all men and the nurses are all women.
Jiang Xiaohua works on a long day shift, 7 hours a day, 5 days a week. As there are morning and evening classes, she usually leaves work at 12 noon or 6 pm. Jiang Xiaohua has a wide range of hobbies, such as singing, dancing and painting. After work, she used to go home to eat, read books, surf the Internet, accompany her family, and occasionally have dinner and karaoke with her colleagues.
Nurses in the same department with Jiang Xiaohua like to play mahjong together after work, and generally have a fixed number of card friends. One day three months ago, they were short of one. I couldn't find anyone, so I had a fight with them. 'Jiang Xiaohua said that she actually hated playing cards and didn't know how to play them.' I didn't expect that for the first time, they would call me every time they played cards. '
Gradually, as soon as her colleagues ask her to play cards after work, Jiang Xiaohua has mixed feelings. She is not very likely to refuse people. She once said that she doesn't want to go, but she is forced to play with her colleagues in the end. Jiang Xiaohua can easily recite the words of "lobbying" by his colleagues: "Oh, just a few colleagues playing for a while, they won't win or lose. It's time to fool around. "Go ahead, you see, we are short of one, and we feel better." & hellip; & hellip;
As a result, after three months, Jiang Xiaohua was forced to play mahjong with her colleagues three or four times a month. She's not very good at playing cards. She's very hurt. Basically, she loses more than 100 yuan every time. Before the end of September, I have played three times and lost more than 600 times!
The day before yesterday, her colleagues made an appointment with her for the next card game. In desperation, Jiang Xiaohua chooses to post on Tianya for help.
It's a habit not to refuse
When it comes to why my colleagues chose her to play cards instead of others, Jiang Xiaohua guessed: "maybe they know that I won't refuse others, and they waver when they say a few words. Secondly, they know that I'm not good at playing cards, and they are more honest. They think that my money is better to win. They won't say a word when they lose a lot, and they won't talk to others. '
But for Jiang Xiaohua, being forced to play mahjong after work brings her more trouble than losing money. 'originally this month, I was going to take part in a essay competition of traditional Chinese medicine nursing. Because they always set up an appointment to play cards, I finally missed the deadline. Jiang Xiaohua said: 'after work, I go to play mahjong. When I get home, it's past 12 o'clock in the night. After washing, it's more than 1 o'clock in the morning. When I think about going to work the next day, I can't find the status of writing articles at all. '
Although forced to play cards, Jiang Xiaohua is also afraid of his addiction, so the psychological pressure has been relatively large. She said: 'every time I played cards, I dreamed of playing mahjong every night when I went to bed. I was in a bad mental state. '
In Chongqing section of Tianya community, there is only one effective reply to Jiang Xiaohua's help post "how to deftly refuse others?". The netizen 'CJJ 076' gave her some advice in the post, saying that there was something wrong at home recently, so I was very busy and couldn't go. "However, Jiang Xiaohua thinks that this can not solve the practical problem." in fact, I know what to say can not only refuse others, but also not hurt feelings. I just don't know how to say it. '
Jiang Xiaohua cited two other growing experiences to illustrate that she had the habit of not rejecting people since she was a child. 'now I also want to change this habit, but I really don't know what method to use. '
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Be brave to say 'no'
Don't know how to refuse others reflects the interpersonal relationship of modern workplace. For people like Miss Jiang, especially urban white-collar workers, this is caused by psychological barriers in workplace interpersonal relationship.
Because the interpersonal relationship in the modern workplace is relatively indifferent, this kind of people are full of fear of this kind of relationship. They are very worried that if they refuse, they will be regarded as the 'alternative' who doesn't follow the flow and don't get along with others. Therefore, even if they don't like it, they will take part in it. However, this kind of behavior against one's own will is often counterproductive.
As far as Miss Jiang's situation is concerned, I suggest that: first, we should learn to adjust ourselves, relax ourselves, and vent our repressed emotions in various ways. Second, we should set goals that are proportional to and consistent with our abilities, and make clear the boundaries between work and life. Third, we should correctly handle interpersonal relationships, correctly understand the friends around us, and distinguish friends in work, friends in life, and ordinary friends. Fourth, we should respect our interests and hobbies, learn to resist interference, bravely say "no" to things we don't like, grasp the yardstick, and selectively refuse.