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Spend ten thousand yuan to make up EQ for baby, can high EQ really make up for it

Is it just need or anxiety to spend tens of thousands of yuan on class registration for children? Do you think these behaviors of many parents are reliable? Are children with high EQ really cultivated? Recently, a number of media reported that the high price EQ training class in Nanjing parents' circle has aroused widespread concern. Experts believe that the main responsibility of cultivating children's EQ lies in family education.

Some netizens questioned, and some parents said that the course did work. According to the training class number, children aged 0 to 15 can learn, and some courses cost tens of thousands of yuan, which still can't stop the enthusiasm of parents.

Can EQ really make up for it? How can EQ classes be taught? Are teachers qualified? A reporter from China online conducted an investigation.

17800 yuan, 124 class hours EQ trainer internal training

'the child is a little naughty. When he fights with other children in the kindergarten, he doesn't know what to do. 'Xuanxuan's mother, Ms. Li, was a little anxious for a time. Six months ago, she sent Xuanxuan to a children's EQ training institution in Jiangning District of Nanjing. '124 class hours a year, the discount is more than 17800 yuan. 'said Ms. Li.

Xuanxuan reported two classes a week, a total of 90 minutes, including 70 minutes for children's training and 20 minutes for parents. It is mainly to help children understand and manage their emotions, such as anger and fear, and to teach our parents how to get along with their children. There are still changes in children, and there are fewer fights. However, many parents said that it had no effect and asked for a refund. 'said Ms. Li.

Xuan Xuan Bao's EQ training organization claims that it has 17 years of operation experience, and children aged 0 to 15 can learn. There are four learning centers in Nanjing, with more than 180 in China. Walking into Wanda store, a children's EQ paradise in Jianye District of Nanjing City, you can see posters such as "learn EQ, big future", which contain training contents in emotion management, social interaction, frustration resistance, problem solving, self-confidence, empathy, sense of responsibility, etc.

On the wall of the training institution, the reporter saw signs such as "scouts recruitment order", "full service star wall" and so on. On the expense list, it can be seen that the corresponding EQ training slogan for children aged 25 to 30 months is "social fans". 'classes are open on Friday night and during the day on weekends. Parents are welcome to bring their children to experience. Now, sign up for a one month summer nursery. 'said the receptionist.

By searching EQ training on the "public comments" app, we can see that there are many training institutions of different brands in Nanjing. The above-mentioned stores in Jianye have launched a number of group purchase packages. The 'single EQ experience class' claims to be worth 576 yuan, including EQ evaluation. The group purchase price is only 1 yuan. This is mainly due to & lsquo; Drainage & amp; quot;, and the actual class price is thousands of yuan for the less, and 30000 yuan for the more. Mr. Wu, a child's parent who knows the inside story, said.

The reporter saw that a number of institutions have launched 'senior EQ Trainer' and 'senior EQ Trainer' in stores and online. The reporter asked the customer service of an organization by telephone. She said frankly: "the qualification of teachers is determined by the company. Only after three rounds of strict training can they work. After the company issues the certificate, they can lead the class. '

Many netizens sing bad, and some parents appeal for rational treatment

In fact, it's a tax on parents' intelligence quotient;. "It's all routine. Kids' money is easy to earn. It's true that emotional intelligence can make up for it, but that school is called society;. '& hellip; & hellip; a lot of netizens post questions EQ training class.

The reporter interviewed some parents of children at random. They think that the education responsibility that should be borne by parents should not be left to training institutions. 'I haven't heard EQ training before, and I doubt it. In fact, parents' company is the best EQ cultivation. Instead of sending children to train EQ, parents should take responsibility first. "Said a baby dad in Nanjing.

Some parents also said that the children's EQ training class, there are good changes. 'it's true that the industry is a mixture of good and bad. Before, we applied for an EQ training class. We felt that it was a fraud and decided to refund the money. Now I've changed my family. After more than 20 classes, my children will be more sensible. Even in the reverse direction of education, I want to control my temper. 'said Mr. Shi, a citizen of Nanjing.

'it's like honey on my mouth. I'm pretty good at it. One parent told reporters that after the EQ training course, the child became a "happy fruit" for the whole family.

In Mr. Shi's view, emotional management is a university question, and many parents have not done it well, let alone their children. "Many of our parents also have knowledge blind areas. Some institutions can really help their children. As long as they operate legally and legally, control prices well, and sincerely do good for their children, they should be treated rationally. '

Parents are the best teachers

EQ is usually referred to as emotional quotient (EQ), which mainly includes self-awareness, emotion control, self motivation, cognition of other people's emotions and handling of mutual relations. Industry insiders believe that it is impossible to make a final conclusion about the effectiveness of EQ training, but some training institutions in the society are suspected of 'conceptualizing' radical marketing.

Liu Yu, a professor of social psychology at the school of public administration of Guizhou University, said that EQ is a very important part of a person's psychology. With the growth of a person, it is even more important than IQ. 'nowadays, parents attach great importance to their children's education. They prefer to live frugally and have a bright future for their children. This kind of concern and love for children's education is understandable. 'she said.

In Liu Yu's view, the concept and training mode of EQ training courses in the market are mostly transplanted to some western developed countries. The contents and methods are different from the traditional teaching in China. The 'selling points' also meet the needs of some parents and have certain attraction. But children have different characteristics, and the training effect will vary from person to person. Children's growth and development are also affected by family, school, peers, society and other factors. EQ training does not necessarily work for every child. '

Yin Fei, deputy director of the Research Center for children's development and family education of Nanjing Normal University, believes that the main responsibility of cultivating children's EQ lies in family education. "Parents' words and deeds are the best examples. EQ education is valued in family and society. It should be said that a small number of special children, such as those with emotional disorders, do need professional guidance, and there are few children who really need EQ training courses. '

It is unnecessary to attend such training courses on the premise of violating children's wishes, delaying formal education and increasing family financial burden. Liu Yu said that parents should keep a clear mind, not be overly anxious, not drift with the tide, and be alert to 'conceptual' marketing. In fact, parents are the best teachers for their children, and their emotional management and effective company are very important. '

In addition, the experts interviewed suggested that such EQ training institutions should be evaluated by professional departments, and multi department consultation should be conducted to strengthen industry supervision.