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EQ classes are popular among parents, and parents are the best teachers for children

If a child is introverted and loses his temper, it can be solved by taking an EQ class. Recently, the EQ class has become a hot topic among parents. A tutoring class claims that three years old can make a child a social fan. In fact, for children, parents are the best teachers, so don't be infatuated with such classes.

a number of EQ education institutions have launched corresponding charging packages for different age groups. For example, one-year EQ course for 0-3 years old students costs more than 10000 yuan, nearly 20000 yuan for 3-6 years old students, and 36000 yuan for two-year courses. On average, a class hour is between 100 and 200 yuan, which is higher than the price of ordinary extracurricular counseling and art training.

It is no surprise that people have seen all kinds of training and counseling with various signs, and EQ training is no exception. However, EQ training for children is very rare. Is it a rescue action of education crisis or another commercial trap of "too much money, stupid and quick"?

EQ is the ability to control and control one's emotions and desires, which plays an important role in one's life and work. High EQ can significantly enhance a person's social competitiveness, while low EQ is likely to cause social barriers. However, in many people's minds, the core of EQ has long been alienated. The concept of EQ defined at the beginning is quite different from the popular concept of EQ nowadays. Many people's understanding of EQ is just another way of saying sophistication and flattery.

More importantly, parents are children's first teachers, and families are children's first schools. Some parents do not understand education and are irresponsible. They neither teach by themselves nor accompany effectively. They can't do without their mobile phones and put the responsibility of education on the training institutions. Some parents often quarrel with each other, and their families are full of contradictions. They can neither discover their children's emotional changes in time nor effectively guide them. The cultivation of EQ is a long and systematic educational process, which can not be achieved quickly. If there are problems in family education itself, it is useless to go to any training class for correction. No EQ training can replace the EQ training in daily life.

The core of EQ is the ability to recognize, understand and control one's own emotions, and the ability to communicate with others and integrate into the collective. The cultivation of these two abilities can not only rely on classroom learning, but also need to be practiced in daily life. Whether children can develop good emotional control and social skills depends largely on their parents. If parents can manage their emotions well in daily life, and intervene in time when their children have emotions, and tell them how to deal with them correctly, their children will naturally develop excellent emotion control ability. On the contrary, if parents always lose their temper, they can not control their emotions, the child will be biased. In terms of communication ability, the way children communicate with others is to imitate the way parents communicate with others to a large extent.

Instead of sending children to train EQ, parents should take the responsibility of education first, because family education plays an important role in the process of children's growth, which is fundamental and irreplaceable. EQ training is indispensable for family education. However, no matter how expensive EQ training is, it will not help children's growth and development.