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Student suicides occurred in Japan after the end of the ten day break. In an interview with Japanese TV station, the children said that they would be scared when they went to school because they were bullied. Experts say that after the holidays, when children commit suicide more often, teachers should pay attention to it, and parents also need to realize the significance of family in educating their children.

How do parents deal with bullying?

1. Keep calm.

I especially understand how parents feel when they see their children being bullied. I believe everyone knows that the problem is not caused in a day. It's not as simple as asking parents to apologize and children to be punished. It's just the first time that they encounter such a thing. It's hard to avoid emotional excitement and lack of experience. They can't keep calm in a hurry.

I admit it's very difficult, but this time the facts also tell us that to keep calm, to keep calm, to keep calm is the most important thing after the incident.

Only by keeping calm can we remain objective and find the best way to solve the problem.

2. Understand that the school has the obligation to protect the privacy of all students involved. The school should take into account the rights and interests of children as small as one child and as large as the whole school.

The guiding opinions on prevention and control of bullying and violence among primary and secondary school students issued by the Ministry of education also points out that:

"Once students are found to have been bullied and violent, schools and parents should inform each other in time. For serious incidents of bullying and violence, they should report them to the higher education authorities, and contact the public security organs to intervene and deal with them quickly. At the time of reporting, relevant personnel have the obligation to protect the legitimate rights and interests of minors. Schools, parents, public security organs and the media should protect the physical and mental safety of students who have been bullied and violent, as well as informed students, strictly protect students' privacy, and prevent the disclosure of information about students and their families. In particular, we should prevent the spread of the situation caused by network communication and other factors, resulting in bad social impact, so that the injured students will be hurt again. '

3. Parents are right when their children are bullied:

Parents don't have to blame themselves for not finding out.

Research shows that when students are bullied, they tend to hide and keep secret at first.

They will feel that this matter should be handled by themselves, they will worry about the bully perpetrators' revenge or being known by other students, and some children will feel that parents can't help them (olweus, D., 1991).

4. Try to listen to the children and understand the whole story

When you learn about it, the child has tried many other ways to solve the problem alone. At this time, don't rush to tell him what to do, but listen to the whole thing and listen to him say what he wants to say.

5. Get in touch with the school as soon as possible

Encourage children to report, or help them report the situation to relevant school personnel without delay or concealment.

At the same time, in order to protect the child's mental health, we should guide the bullied child to believe that it is not his fault, and he does not need to face it alone. Parents or teachers he trusts will accompany him to deal with it.

How to prevent campus bullying?

We should attach importance to the education of social emotions in kindergartens and primary and secondary schools. EQ is taught bit by bit, not punished.

From kindergarten to collective life, children need to learn how to properly express their needs, master the vocabulary to express their feelings, understand the feelings of others, and learn how to calmly solve problems and empathy in the process of observing the adults around them.

When children begin to compare with each other, adults should guide them to understand that everyone is different and can have different preferences, abilities and ideas. These differences are not good or bad, but just different.

Adults should be cautious in their words and deeds. They should not discriminate against or label others, or act disrespectfully to others with any excuse. For example, when the service staff in the restaurant make mistakes, they will yell at the waiters.

At home to the elderly or children impatient, rude and so on.

Keep in touch with your children and tell them how to protect their rights and interests

Calm and firm: stop it. If the child has a strong sense of humor, he can be encouraged to use humor to solve the problem.

If it's too hard for the child to say it, or the child feels insecure, suggest that he walk away, or stay away from these people.

Let children believe that being bullied is not humiliating, there is no need to hide their feelings, and telling teachers will not make things worse. Help the child find the teacher he trusts in the school, let the child know that he is not alone when he is in trouble, and know who he can turn to for help.

Work with your child to analyze the situation where bullying happened (e.g. when an adult is not present), and ask your child to act together or stay where there is a teacher.

Research shows that the method of tit for tat and fight back does not stop bullying. It may also escalate violence and turn children from bullies to bullies.

If a child tells you that he has bullied others, it's never too late to tell him to take the courage and apologize. It's better for each other.

Cultivating extracurricular interest can prevent bullying. The process of taking a child to volunteer activities and learning a sport, music, art, etc. that he likes will enable him to make like-minded friends, increase his self-confidence and interpersonal skills, and have more friends, so as to prevent bullying.

Finally, I believe everyone has experienced the pain of growing up. I hope that the crowd will give more time, space and understanding to the schools, students and parents involved.