In our daily life, if anyone can affect our mood most, the "bar elite" who likes to talk with others is obviously one of them. It's very hard to meet someone who likes to talk with others. Some people with poor psychological quality will also have some psychological problems. How can others refute you? What are the common routines of the 'bar elite'?
(1) The psychology of "bar elite"
Most of the people who like to talk up are because of the following kinds of Psychology
a. Lack of the sense of existence, to show their own existence through the confrontation.
b. Self esteem is too strong, too sensitive, always feel that others are aiming at themselves, so they like to talk up
c. Too conceited, think that others are wrong, only oneself is right.
d. He is too competitive. He only has competition in his brain. He takes every conversation as a competition and must overwhelm each other.
(2) The common routine of the "bar elite"
To be a 'bar elite', we should not only be able to lift the bar, but also be beautiful, fast and speechless. Only in this way can we become a 'bar elite'. All they have is some weakness in human psychology and some routine in thinking.
Specifically, there are the following:
a. Qualification attitude
Not about whether or not, only about qualifications, or only about attitude. For example, if you say, 'XX country is not all bad people,' he will say: 'you are not a sociologist, what are your qualifications to speak' or 'what is your tone, attitude and accomplishment? Who do you think is great to educate? '
b. Scarecrow style
Misinterpret what you mean, confuse concepts with you, or refute you with non black and white statements. For example, if you say, 'XX is not all bad people', he will say: 'so you mean that XX is all good people?'
What's more frightening is the provocative 'you think XX is good, why don't you make a horse for them'
c. Case refutation
For example, if you say, 'XX is not all bad people', he will say: 'every good thing I met in XX, how can you say that they are not bad people? '
d. Pretend to be tall
Pretend to be high and think you're too serious. For example, if you say, 'XX country is not all bad people', he will say: 'what's more true? Let's see if you can get it'
e. Take care of yourself
If you look at the real lawyer debate, you will find that they talk like this: you say yours, I say mine, I don't answer your questions, I just keep emphasizing my point of view. This kind of person is invincible.
(3) Counter measures
The best counter measure: direct blacking or distance. It really doesn't make sense to waste time with them. If you win, you won't get any benefits. It affects your mood.
The most sinister counter measure: according to him, let him enjoy the pleasure of insulting, and one day, someone will teach him a lesson. (see details: kid and boss get kicked out)
The best way: lift it with him. All the methods are given to you. The above five methods are available to you. First of all, keep a good psychological quality, and then talk to each other, it depends on who has a big voice, full of momentum, shameless,.
The most intelligent way: if you have a strong psychological quality and debate skills (forget it, you won't point in if you have the ability). If you don't want to take the time to learn, choose the other three.
Conclusion: in the face of the person, as long as your psychological quality is strong and not affected by the opposite, he will lose.