Today, after the news of Jiang Jinfu's domestic violence came out, it caused a public uproar. In fact, there are not a few women who are threatened by domestic violence in China, so what should women do when facing domestic violence? According to the survey of relevant departments, the incidence of domestic violence in China is between 29.7% and 35.7%, and more than 90% of the victims are women.
First, to respond 'for the first time' with the greatest resistance and madness;
In fact, many facts in real life tell us that the key to stop domestic violence is often 'first time'. If we only respond to domestic violence for the first time, and let it calm people down like that, there will be a more serious second and third time in nine out of ten.
In the blue sky, as long as we encounter domestic violence, we must respond with the greatest resistance and craziness, especially for the first time. Make sure to let the other side wake up from this first "carelessness" and "recklessness", accept severe punishment, carry out deep introspection, make them really painful for a few days, long memory, it's better to be able to "talk tiger and change color", and dare not fall down after the next raise of hand. The law of survival that can never be changed in the animal kingdom is the law of jungle. It is also applicable to marriage and family. Timid afraid of bold, bold afraid of not fatal, men have the advantage of violence, then women must have the ability to entangle to fight back.
Second, we should know its nature and then decide whether to answer back;
There are usually two kinds of men who commit domestic violence: one is to bully the good and fear the evil, the other is to eat soft but not hard. The sky is always blue. It is suggested that such two kinds of men should be treated differently. For the former can answer back, and must answer back, even to let the resistance more fierce. Its use of a netizen's words, is' all forbearance to the wall, he will force me to die, I only have to resist to survive '! For the latter, female compatriots should not eat the immediate loss, he said what he said, do not talk back, learn to show weakness, can understand the reason for his anger in time, make full use of all kinds of time, place, benefit, etc All kinds of conditions to help resolve the current 'crisis'. In the end, these with the sky will always be blue old saying is, 'husband and wife to understand the heart'!
Third, take his weakness as a card and show it at the critical time;
CEN is a woman persecuted by domestic violence. She has set a record of being beaten five times a week by her husband. After many attempts to divorce, she began to sum up her experience.
Her husband was a very feudal man. Her mother had been living in the severe domestic violence of her father since childhood. Finally, she jumped into the well and killed herself because she could not bear the pain. So, in order to revenge his father for his mother's mistake, their father and son don't communicate with each other. In the past ten years, they haven't said a word. The old man's old life is very miserable.
In view of the husband's personal experience, cen grasped his weakness. Once, when her husband was about to roar, she rushed to her husband and said: 'fight, fight, and kill me. Didn't your father kill your mother like that? Your family has one generation, and I'll give up my life!' and this sentence just led to the most sad memory in his heart. His mother is the one he loves most in his life. At this time, he But we have to connect the woman in front of us with the mother who was suffering. It was this hatred and love for his mother that gave him the power of self-control. At that time, he did not hit Cen with his palm, but flashed to himself mercilessly.
CEN told the sky will always be blue, her husband has a soft spot. That is, she would never start in front of her son, so whenever her husband was about to get angry, she would take advantage of her son's room to avoid, and after a few minutes of silence, a domestic violence that was supposed to come was over.
Through Cen's situation, it's not hard for us to find out. Almost everyone has his own weakness. This kind of weakness needs to be observed and summarized at ordinary times. If we can master it well, maybe it can be used as a base card to save us when it is critical. This method is risky and effective, but it can never be used frequently. After all, if the number of domestic violence is more, no matter how to use it, it is useless and sad.
Fourth, self-reliance, self-love and self-improvement are always the greatest magic weapon for women to deal with domestic violence;
As far as the sky is always blue, many women who suffer from domestic violence are women who can't stand on their own. They are weak in character, lack courage in action and lack independence in spirit. So that their own long-term marriage in a weak position, the man saw through her at a glance, the heart ate a reassurance, know that no matter how she is inseparable from themselves, so that there is no fear, the idea of male chauvinism has become inflated and sick.
Fifthly, it has the ability of recognizing 'meteorological cloud map';
In addition to the fact that some of the causes of domestic violence are due to personality discord or violence of one party, another part is due to the fact that one or both parties failed to find or resolve the conflicts in time. That is to say, they do not have the ability to recognize 'meteorological cloud map'. The sky is always blue. As a couple, one should understand the other's minimum hobbies, the law of emotional development, and know when he may lose his temper. Only with this ability can a woman control her husband. At least to some extent, it can effectively prevent the occurrence of domestic violence.
Remember my mother often said: husband and wife together, everyone has a temper, the key is you have to understand his temper, he came up you let it. When I come up, you have to bear it for a while. It's impossible for both of you to face each other. Otherwise, it's strange if you don't fight!