Marriage is one of the most important choices in life, so what do Chinese single men and women think about marriage? Why do many young people prefer to be single rather than marry? What's the reason? Let's get to know.
On the eve of the Seventh Festival, treasure.com, a well-known domestic dating website, released the survey report of single people in 2018, which revealed the current situation of Chinese style marriage. This report mainly focused on the online sampling survey of 140 million members of treasure.com on their views on marriage.
According to the report, 26-30 years old is the peak period of urging marriage, with Changsha, Guangzhou and Chongqing leading the list of urging marriage pressure; more than 60% of single men and women agree with each other, with Wuhan, Beijing and Shenyang ranking the top three in the country; nearly 50% of the only child families hope to find the only child family, with the best age difference of 3-5 years; nearly 80% of the women interviewed believe that buying a house is a hard demand for marriage, with the man paying down and the loan double Fang also advocated "simple marriage" within 100000 yuan, and the men of the banquet gave and gave AA points of money; the financial power of marriage was no longer "only female"; they did not want to live with their parents after marriage, but needed their parents to help care for their children.
Urging marriage: 26-30 years old is the peak of urging marriage
According to the survey data of treasure net, 84.78% of single people have been forced to marry, 55% of them say that the age of 26-30 is the peak period for single people to be forced to marry. However, don't think it's only when you're a certain age that you can be urged to marry. 27% of people are forced to marry before they're 25, and only 18% of people are forced to marry before they're over 30.
From the perspective of region, Changsha, Guangzhou and Chongqing account for the largest proportion of single men and women under the age of 25, while Chengdu, Wuhan and Suzhou account for the top three; Beijing, Shanghai and Shenzhen account for the largest proportion of single men and women over the age of 30. It can be seen that single men and women in Changsha, Guangzhou and Chongqing are under great pressure to urge marriage.
How to deal with urging marriage? The survey shows that more than 80% of single men and women express' comparative understanding 'or' very understanding '. And nearly 20% of single men and women said they were 'very tangled' and 'hard to describe' or 'incomprehensible'. The attitude of single men and women is different in the face of parents' urging marriage. According to the data, 44% of the people said they would "meet their parents' requirements" and 33% chose to "pretend to have an object to avoid their parents".
Marriage concept: more than 60% of single men and women agree with each other
The data shows that 60.2% of single men and women agree with the concept of "door-to-door". In the opinion of those who agree, the choice of door-to-door couple mainly lies in that "marriage is actually a matter of two families", and "door-to-door couple can promote the harmony after marriage".
From the perspective of regional differences, the concept of single men and women's portal in Wuhan, Beijing and Shenyang is particularly strong, and the proportion of identity is the top three in the country, while the cities headed by Chengdu and Chongqing have relatively low emphasis on the concept of portal.
Requirements for spouse selection: nearly 50% of only child families hope to find only child families
According to the survey, 48% of the only child families hope to find only child families, 32% of the only child families have no requirements, and 20% of the only child families choose according to the situation.
In terms of marriage age difference, 39.12% of single men and women think the best age difference is 3-5 years, 31.60% of single men and women accept 5-10 years, and 14.14% of single men and women accept within 3 years.
In response, Zhang Shasha, an emotion expert at treasure.com, said: 'for single men and women in the golden age, it's more appropriate for men to be 3-5 years older than women. Men and women of this age difference will have closer awareness and preparation for marriage. At the same time, it can better meet each other's needs. For example, men will appear mature and stable without generation gap. Women can stimulate men's desire for protection without being too naive. Older single men and women are more likely to accept larger age differences in order to expand their range of mate selection. '
Marriage requirements: nearly 80% of the women interviewed think that buying a house is a hard demand for marriage
Whether to buy a house or not has become an important topic in marriage. Nearly 80% of single women ask to buy a house before they get married, but only 40% of men think they must buy a house before they get married, according to treasure.com.
In terms of down payment of marriage house, 49% of single men and women think it should be borne by the husband's family, 22% think it should be borne by both sides' families, 17% think it should be borne by both sides of the marriage, and another 12% think it should be borne by the best conditions. However, 74.37% of single men and women believed that they should share the burden of repayment.
'whose name does the house write?' data shows that 56% of single men and women think both of them need to write their names, 32% think it needs to be decided by the families of both sides after consultation, and 11% think who pays to write their names.
Requirements for marriage and engagement: 72% of the people with dowry within 100000 yuan have high requirements for dowry in Henan and Fujian
According to the survey, 72% of the people asked for lottery gifts (cash) within 100000 yuan, 17% between 100000 and 150000 yuan, 11% over 150000 yuan, and the provinces with the highest demand for lottery gifts (cash) are Henan and Fujian respectively. In terms of dowry, 51% of people require dowry less than 50000 yuan, while 28% require dowry between 50000 yuan and 100000 yuan.
Wedding expenses: more than 80% of single men and women advocate 'simple marriage' within 100000 yuan
According to the survey, 48% of single men and women want to control the cost of marriage within 50000 yuan, 33% want to control between 60000 yuan and 100000 yuan, 14% want to control between 110000 yuan and 200000 yuan, and only 5% plan to spend more than 200000 yuan. It can be seen that more than 80% of single men and women advocate 'simple marriage' and try to control it within 100000 yuan.
For the expenditure of wedding banquet, 47.15% of single men and women think that it should be borne by the husband's family, 26.98% think that it should be borne by the two families separately or by the newlyweds themselves (25.83%), and less than 10% of single men and women think that it should be borne by the wife's family. For the ownership of wedding money, 56.93% of the people think it should belong to the newlyweds, and 30.65% of the people think that they should take back their relatives' gift money.
The important factors affecting the quality of marriage: mutual identity and values
According to the survey, the most important factors affecting the quality of marriage are two people's values and mutual recognition. The others are their economic level, their parents' interference, their family background and so on.
In terms of the arrangement of the division of housework, the data shows that 82.76% of single men and women support 'both parties are responsible for the arrangement of the division of labor'. Among them, Wuhan and Chongqing are the cities that should be responsible for household chores together, Guangzhou and Changsha are the cities that have the highest recognition for women's household chores, and Chengdu and Shanghai are the cities that have the highest recognition for men's household chores.
New trend of taking charge of wealth after marriage: financial power after marriage no longer belongs to women
For a long time, according to the saying of "men outside women inside", it seems that women should be responsible for the financial power, but is this the case? According to the survey of treasure.com, 53.95% of single men and women think it should depend on the situation, 11.14% of single men and women support their own financial independence, and 2.18% of single men and women support their own, only 32.73% of single men and women think they should Return to the woman.
Zhang Shasha, an emotion expert at treasure.com, points out: 'for family property, the key is to maintain and appreciate the value. Therefore, a new concept emerged: to give the family property to the family with strong financial ability, in order to maximize the benefits. In addition, the income gap between the two sides, the property of small families due to the gift of one parent and other factors will also affect the ownership of family financial rights. '
Chinese mother-in-law and daughter-in-law: most women don't want to live with their parents after marriage, but they want their parents to help care for their children
Are you willing to live with your parents after marriage? Data shows that 57.22% of men would like to live with their parents, while only 24.34% of women would like to live with their parents. It can be seen that nearly 80% of women do not want to live with their parents. 75.97% of single men and women said that they need parents to help with their children after marriage.