For many young people nowadays, dating is an effective way to find a partner. Do you value each other's appearance when dating? What's the matter with a woman being blackmailed by her partner because she doesn't wear makeup?
Yesterday noon, the reporter saw Xia Yumin, 28 years old, working in Hongding international, Guanyinqiao, engaged in administrative work. Wearing a white shirt and A-line skirt, she has loose hair and light makeup on her face. She only draws eyebrows and light lipstick. 'I don't like makeup very much at ordinary times. '
Xia Yumin said that more than a month ago, she met Mr. Wu, 27, through an online dating platform, who works for a real estate company in Banan. Because both of them are mature and calm, and both hope to get married early, they also exchanged photos. Xia Yumin's is an art photo, and Mr. Wu's is a travel photo. They feel good to each other.
'basically, they are sending messages and chatting voice from morning to night. On the eve of the Dragon Boat Festival, they made an appointment and had a meal together.
At noon on June 17, when her regular holiday came, she was not very well. Xia Yumin wanted to postpone the appointment, but Mr. Wu said that the restaurant had been booked and the movie tickets had been bought, so she did not postpone it. So she changed into a long dress, washed her head, drew her eyebrows, put on her glasses, and went to the restaurant of the times Tianjie in Daping for an appointment. When we met, Mr. Wu said something about her. He felt that she was not like the picture, but he greeted her warmly. After dinner, they went to see the movie together. After watching it, Mr. Wu helped her to take a taxi and asked her to remember to send a message of peace when she got home.
Why didn't you make up when I got home
I was blackmailed without waiting for a reply
But when Xia Yumin got home to send a message to Mr. Wu, Mr. Wu's attitude changed greatly and his tone became very stiff. He also said: 'girls like to make up, don't you wear anything today?' later, Mr. Wu said: 'I think you just don't pay attention to meeting me. In this case, what's the meaning of communication? I don't deserve you. 'before Xia Yumin can reply anything, Mr. Wu has already sent Xia Yumin to La Hei.
Xia Yumin told reporters that she was very angry about Mr. Wu's move. First of all, she didn't want to make up because of her physical discomfort; second, she felt that since she had known him for so long, she wanted to face Mr. Wu with her real self. "Not many men are also saying that the difference between before and after making up for a woman is too big, so we must see her appearance after removing her make-up before deciding whether to make contact."
Yesterday, the reporter called Mr. Wu. He said he didn't want to answer any more questions. He could only say that they were really inappropriate, so he hung up.
'first impression effect' is key
Chen Zhilin, a psychology doctor at University College London, thinks that from Xia Yumin's point of view, after more than a month's online chat, she feels more familiar with Mr. Wu, but in fact, they have never met before. Therefore, the first impression is particularly important when meeting. It will form and occupy a dominant position in each other's mind. This effect is called "first impression effect".
It is suggested that the girl can show her good mental state through appropriate decoration when she first meets her blind date. 'of course, the first impression is just the beginning, just like a key to open people to people exchanges. "In the same way, Chen said, it's not recommended to meet too many people for the first time. Otherwise, once the real self is exposed, the disintegration of the impression will also bring heavy damage to each other's relationship.