Tonight, I talked with a Beijing girl about boys and girls in Beijing. She lives near Fengtai, where most of the boys marry girls from other places, and most of them are married and have children, she said. And most of the girls are pretty and work well.
And I asked, what about the girls around her? She said that there are not many girls marrying in other places, especially those with high income and education. They are all 31 years old and have not been married yet.
So, why? Don't talk about the reason, the result will directly lead to that there are not so many Beijing boys matching with Beijing girls.
Really want to go deep into its reason, why do girls from other places like to marry boys in Beijing?
First of all, for the sake of their future life, especially their own children, girls from other places urgently need to prepare a Beijing hukou for their children, so they tend to marry Beijing boys. Especially in the past few years, after Beijing reformed the household registration policy, children can freely follow their parents, this kind of girl will be more common.
Secondly, in order to pursue their children's household registration, girls from other places have to be aggrieved and choose the Beijing boys who are not very excellent. After all, they mainly compete with the Beijing girls. In the absence of local household registration and background, they must compete with the Beijing girls with more beautiful appearance, better work and living ability. Therefore, those Beijing boys and their girlfriends who have no ability can often be beautiful girls from other places.
Thirdly, girls pursue stability, and girls from other places are no exception. And Beijing boys are born with houses for girls' stability, even if they live with their parents? So these girls from other places tend to think about Beijing boys.
In addition, most of the girls in Beijing have higher education. Even if not, it can be made up through the adult education system. It is said that more than 70% of Beijing adult college entrance examination is attended by female students.
So, while the overall education quality of Beijing girls is improving, those Beijing boys can't keep up with the development of Beijing girls, so they can only consider girls from other places. Of course, if the ability to work is the same. In this way, there will be those Beijing girls with high educational background and high income.
Why do Beijing boys like to marry girls from other places?
First of all, girls from other places are relatively independent. After all, when they leave home to work in Beijing, their ability to take care of themselves is no problem. So I have a strong ability to take care of men. And they are often hard-working, but Beijing's only daughter, such as cooking things will not have a lot.
Secondly, if a boy in Beijing marries a girl in Beijing. They usually have to take care of four old people, especially on the basis of more and more equality between men and women in Beijing. Men should take care of their parents as well as those of women. If it's a girl from other places, they can not take care of her parents, after all, it's far away. Even if we take care of them, we can take care of the parents of the girls in other places as long as we spend a little money because the living standards in other places are mostly low.
Of course, one of the biggest problems in the combination of Beijing boys and girls from other places may be the different growth environment and experience, resulting in different ways of thinking. Therefore, those with better education and ability may not be inclined to marry girls from other places. However, many non educated girls from other places, their personalities are quite suitable for those Beijing boys in the urban-rural fringe. These boys in Beijing are as simple as those in the countryside, and it's hard to accept the petty bourgeoisie sentiment of pure girls in the imperial city. Therefore, in the urban-rural fringe of Beijing, such as Fengtai, many boys marry girls from other places.
In fact, the behavior of boys in Beijing directly affects girls in Beijing. Beijing girls have the same idea as girls from other places. They want to be stable and find a better Beijing boy. But when others prefer to use Maotai to PK your Erguotou, Beijing girls are easy to lose.
In this way, a large number of Beijing's remaining girls have been born.
I did a banana search.
There are 2488 girls aged 20-25 and 1103 boys.
There are 4161 girls aged 25-30 and 2284 boys.
There are 1585 girls aged 30-35 and 825 boys.
It can be seen from the above that the girls registered in banana net are about twice as many as the boys in the same age group.
Of course, there are many reasons for this result, but should the behavior of boys in Beijing also play a role in promoting it?
PS: and the other thing I heard the other day also touched me deeply. A Beijing male graduate from Beijing post and telecommunications, who works in China Mobile, has a good income and a Beijing girlfriend who has talked about it for more than three years. They are going to get married. The girl's father is not in good health. Because she is the only child, she wants her daughter to take care of her, so she proposes that the boy should move to the girl's house after getting married. However, the boy's family firmly disagreed and asked to live in the man's home after marriage. Boy is a very filial child, no way, then they had to break up. The girl later found a boy from Pinggu, who promised to live in the girl's house. This is not to say anything, but even all the boys and girls in Beijing will face many practical problems in the future.
Perhaps there are many people, in reality, will lower their own vision, which may sometimes not be their own will, but the oppression of the environment.