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Can Qingming daughter go to the grave? We must know the taboos of Tomb Sweeping on Qingming Festival

When the traditional festival Qingming Festival comes, can I go to the tomb as a daughter to worship? The sacrifice of Qingming Festival is a relatively important festival in China, but do you know? Qingming Festival does not allow daughters to go to the tomb in many places.

Can Qingming daughter go to the grave?

Unmarried daughter cannot go to the grave

In some villages in southwest and South Central Shandong, unmarried daughters can't go to the graveyard to sacrifice. This is even a family rule that can't be violated. If there is no son in the family, let the nephew in the next room do the work. This is to think that the daughter is not from her own family, so the daughter cannot go to the grave at her mother's house. After marriage, she is the mother-in-law's family, and she can go to the grave at her mother-in-law's house.

A married daughter cannot go to the grave

Some places think that the daughter married out is someone else's family. If there is a son in the family, the people in the family don't want their daughter to go back to her family to go to the grave. They are afraid that others say that there is no one in the family. Only the family without a son in the family can the girl go back to her family to go to the grave. Some think that after their daughter is married, they can't sweep the ancestral Tomb of their mother's family, or they will take away the geomancy of their mother's family. It's a traditional saying. To put it simply, a married woman is from her husband's family. She can't and can't go to sweep other people's tombs. She can't be buried in her mother's house in a hundred years. The idea is that 'daughters are not descendents'. The names of sons and daughters-in-law can only be engraved on the tombstones of ancestors. The names of girls are generally not engraved on the tombstones of their ancestors. Some places continue this custom to this day.

Whether married or not can go to the grave

The traditional concept is more because of the idea that men are superior to women, so there are many opinions about the daughter going to the grave. But now it is stressed that the birth of boys and girls is the same, daughters are as important as sons, and many families are only daughters, so this concept has been changing. As long as parents and elders don't think that men are more important than women, then natural daughters can go to the grave whether they are married or not.

What's special about going to the grave for my daughter

1. Women who are weak or sick cannot go to the grave to visit the tomb. If they must go, they must wear jade or jade Buddha and other talismans.

2. Pregnant women and women who are coming to have a holiday cannot go to the grave to visit the tomb;

3. A woman who is not formally married but has a girlfriend cannot accompany her boyfriend to go to the grave to visit the tomb;

4. Some places also stipulate that women whose husbands have passed away for less than three years cannot go to the grave to visit.

5. The family with a new daughter-in-law and a new born child must take the new daughter-in-law and the new born mother with the child to go to the grave to visit the tomb on the Qingming Festival this year. First of all, we should recognize our ancestors and return to our ancestors, and then we should comfort our ancestors: the family has opened branches and leaves and added new people! If such a family goes to the grave to visit, they should set off firecrackers, and in the curl of cigarettes after setting off firecrackers, a couple of new people should kowtow in front of the grave to salute, while children should let adults hold them together to salute, and they should read 'father (mother), daughter-in-law (granddaughter-in-law)' of course, how can we salute you The address should be different according to the identity and seniority of the ancestors.

6. The new daughter-in-law or newborn who goes to visit the tomb must not wear plain clothes. They must wear some festive clothes. At least they must wear a red dress and an ornament. One is to congratulate the ancestors, so that they can see the scattered branches and leaves at home and add people to import. The other is to ward off evil spirits and avoid the invasion of the surrounding lonely souls and wild ghosts. It is these festive colors that add different meanings to the tomb sweeping of Qingming Festival, and also symbolize the continuity of life and the inheritance of incense.

Nine taboos of Tomb Sweeping on Qingming Festival

Pregnant women avoid Tomb Sweeping

Generally speaking, it is better for pregnant women to avoid tomb sweeping activities. In other aspects, tomb sweeping is very crowded. For the sake of the safety of the fetus, pregnant women are not recommended to attend. Besides, the surrounding environment of tomb sweeping is mostly the smell of cannon fodder which is harmful to the health of pregnant women. Strictly speaking, women have regular leave, but also to avoid such activities.

Avoid wearing bright colors

Qingming Festival is not allowed to wear red and purple to go to the tomb, which is disrespectful to ancestors and ancestors. I believe that we will not wear such clothes to participate in such activities. However, there are always people who neglect to use red when wearing jewelry. Underwear and close fitting clothes are not allowed to wear red, except for the year of birth.

Outsiders should not participate in other people's Tomb Sweeping

It is taboo to participate in Tomb Sweeping as an outsider during the Qingming Dynasty, which is easy to cause unnecessary troubles. After all, it's not a family.

Don't take photos in the cemetery

The purpose of tomb sweeping is to offer sacrifices to ancestors, not to play hip-hop. When you are sweeping the tomb, you'd better respect and be careful. Never take photos in the cemetery or even take photos at will.

Dressing the cemetery

If there are plants and weeds on the tomb, they must be removed. Weeds need to be well removed, loose soil added, and the surrounding environment cleaned to make the cemetery look neat. This is the most important thing, but you know, the so-called tomb sweeping,

Avoid tomb sweeping due to poor health

A person who is in a state of illness, weakness, or recent bad luck is better not to go to the tomb sweeping activities, because such a person is in a state of overall bad luck, which is easy to cause bad luck.

Ancestor worship

Try to avoid weekends or other peak periods of tomb sweeping, because nowadays the number of private cars and the traffic jams will cause trouble for travel. You can choose to take all kinds of public transport, or lengthen the time of tomb sweeping (leaving early and returning late) or stagger the key periods, so as to relieve the pressure on road traffic caused by more people and cars.

Don't buy shoes without covering your hair

In fact, Qingming Festival is also a ghost festival. Of course, we need to pay attention to the hair style, especially the hair can't cover the forehead. At the same time, shoes should not be bought on the same day. Because shoes are evil, most friends with some common sense won't buy shoes on that day, so as not to be unlucky.

Tomb sweeping time of Qingming Festival

The best time for tomb sweeping is when the sun is strong, i.e. from 9:00 a.m. to before 9:00 p.m., the best time for tomb sweeping is to complete the Qingming mountain worship activity before 3:00 p.m., five days before and after the Qingming Festival, and the same day of Qingming Festival. However, tomb sweeping is not allowed on cold food festival, which is the first day of Qingming Festival.