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When will women stop when bridesmaids are harassed and their parents encourage vulgar marriage?

Weddings are supposed to be festive, but the stereotypes in some places often embarrass wedding participants, and some even cause personal injury. There are even some despicable people who deliberately flirt with bridesmaids on their wedding day. When will the ugly custom of flirting with bridesmaids end?

Recently, the office of Yancheng Spiritual Civilization Construction Committee of Jiangsu Province issued a notice to the wedding industry, asking for strengthening the training and supervision of the wedding master and program actors, and guiding them to earnestly fulfill the responsibility of "advocating civilized wedding and resisting stereotypes".

Before that, the event of "public kissing bride" at a wedding site in Yancheng attracted widespread attention, and the public condemned such wedding practices.

According to the reporter's investigation, bad wedding habits exist in many places, and the causes are complex.

The groom's parents egged on the trouble

Fang Liling is a real estate salesman in Beijing. On the sixth day of the lunar new year, Fang Liling returned to Yimeng, Shandong Province, to be the bridesmaid of faxiao. What Fang thought unacceptable was that she was harassed by two best men on the happy day.

The two best men are the groom's junior high school classmates and locals. The parents and bridegroom of the bridegroom have been asking Fang Liling to complete the wedding habit on the grounds that the wedding is to be lively.

'when the bridegroom comes to pick up the bride in his wedding car, the bridesmaid should share the same car with the bride according to the old rule. However, the two best men asked me to take another car with them and sit in the middle of them. Along the way, they put forward various & lsquo; wedding & rsquo; requests. In order not to lose face, I had to feed one of the best men a piece of yellow peach in the way of & lsquo; mouth to mouth & rsquo. 'said Fang Liling.

In addition, at the wedding banquet, when the bridegroom and the bride propose a toast, the two best men and other noisy relatives all ask the bride to drink the wine that the best man has drunk, not to drink is not to give face. There are 4 cups in total, about 6 Liang. The bride can't drink them. Fang Liling wants to help her stop drinking. The best man sneers at her and says, "if you come to drink, you have to drink from my mouth.".

'because I have a very good relationship with the bride, I don't want to see her unhappy, there are many things I don't want to do. But I think in this case, the most hateful thing is the groom and his parents. They didn't say a good word for us all the way, but they also made a fuss. If the parents of the bridegroom are not so indulgent to those people, the troublemakers will also restrain a lot. 'said Fang Liling.

Wedding shows are low class

Qiao Yuxuan, a female doctor of law major in a university in Beijing, married from Hubei to Siping, Jilin Province. During the wedding ceremony, the bridegroom's family invited a local troupe to perform for the sake of excitement.

I used to think this kind of performance should be very festive and lively, but that performance made me & lsquo; see each other in a daze & rsquo;. "Qiao Yuxuan told reporters.

According to reports, after the performance stage is set up, relatives and friends of the family are sitting around the stage, and the bride and groom and their parents are sitting in the middle of the stage. The first few programs are funny, but after that, the scale of the programs is getting larger and larger. First, the scale of the actress's performance has increased, no matter there are four or five-year-old children and 60 or 70 year old people under the stage. Later, the actors began to amuse the audience by adding dirty passages to the program. Finally, the host asked the bride and groom to come to the stage, from performing kisses and hugs to asking about the details of the bride and groom's sexual affairs, and even asking about the male's parents' sexual experience. Relatives and friends laughed at the embarrassment of their parents.

'I'm not a native, I can't understand the happiness when you look at the new couple's face and ears. At least in our hometown, we don't play such a joke on our elders. Although it's just verbal flirting, I still feel very disrespectful. "Said Qiao Yuxuan.

Excessive brawling and best man hanging the lottery

Chen Yong is an employee of an Internet company, working in Anqing City, Anhui Province. Married in early February this year, the bride is a local.

On the morning of the wedding, Chen Yong and three best men drove the wedding car to pick up the bride. According to the local wedding custom, on the way to pick up the bride, the bridegroom will give cigarettes and eggs to the villagers who are blocking the road. However, some villagers go too far, sitting directly in the middle of the road, asking for a whole cigarette as a 'toll'.

'the local custom is that the bride's family will put the best man and the groom's father & lsquo; red on the whole face with red paint. In this link, the best man hides everywhere and the bride's family chases everywhere. When they get there, they not only apply & lsquo; red & rsquo;, but also twist the best man's ears to make them look as red as the paint. It may be that we are more forgetful, one of the best man's ears was twisted and bleeding. I was worried. I sent him to a nearby hospital for medical treatment. "Chen Yong said.

Chen Yong told reporters: 'I simply bandaged it. Fortunately, it's not a big problem. But I'm still guilty. The other side is my wife's elder, I am also embarrassed to dissuade, can only watch my friend injured. However, it's a slight injury here. It's common for bridegroom and best man to hang lottery on wedding ceremony. If the best man looks stronger, the bride's family will be more ruthless.

Law does not blame the public

In modern society, why do wedding customs still exist, and in some places, they become more and more fierce?

For the victims of wedding bad habits, their feelings are particularly profound, from all levels of reflection.

According to Fang Liling, there is a direct reason for the existence of bad wedding habits and the attitude of wedding parties. As far as her experience is concerned, the connivance of her parents, the indifference of the bridegroom and the weakness of the bride make her make a fool of herself and be teased by others. Sexual harassment and other harm to bridesmaids is not a case, nor is it only in a few places.

'I came to be the bridesmaid to share happiness and accompany your beautiful marriage. I am also a dignified person. I have no obligation to be a warm-up toy. 'Fang Liling is a little angry here.

According to Fang Liling, from some media reports, bridesmaids have gradually become a high-risk role. 'when I was the bridesmaid, I wanted to wear a bullet proof vest. The significance of bridesmaids is changing. Bridesmaids were meant to accompany and share happiness, but now they are very different. For some people with a bad heart, bridesmaid means that they can invade at will. The bridesmaids themselves will feel in danger, so it's hard to enjoy the happiness brought by the wedding, and even feel that the new people who invite themselves to be bridesmaids are persecuting themselves'.

Qiao Yuxuan believes that the geographical environment is the main reason for the bad wedding habits. Every province has different wedding habits, and the forms are different. 'I don't like the kind of performance in my husband's hometown with meat jokes. My husband often says that the wedding process in my hometown is complicated. I think it's a bad habit to watch this program, but the local people think it's fun and wonderful '.

For the harm of bad wedding habits, Qiao Yuxuan said: 'it has a little impact on my relationship with my husband's family. After all, after the wedding, I will think that his relatives are not pure in mind, and I will worry that my children will be taken bad, so I will go back less to my mother-in-law's house, so I will not be so close. '

According to Chen Yong, some villagers have a weak sense of law, and the principle of "law does not blame the public" has existed in their hearts for a long time. Usually, in the ordinary living environment, one person will not attack another for no reason, but there are so many people who make a fuss at the wedding, so everyone thinks that the behavior of personal injury is' innocent '.

'more and more young people choose to set their wedding in the hotel, that is, the wedding banquet is the only step, so they have no chance to tease the best man and the bridesmaid. '