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What do you mean by virginity complex? Men's virginity complex leads to divorce

it is often said: 'a man is always eager to be the first man of the woman he loves, while a woman is the last woman who wants to be her man. In a sense, it may reflect the differences between men and women in the way they love.

It is true that a man is always eager to be the first man of his woman in his heart. This is what we call the virgin complex. In traditional weddings, the bride is dressed in a white and flawless wedding dress, which symbolizes that her heart and body dedicated to her lover are as pure as the wedding dress she wears.

The idea of promoting women is still followed up.

If the man hears something like: 'Hey, boy, be careful, that woman has a lot of frivolous news. 'or' that woman has had such a hand with someone before 'and other rumors about her object will be hesitant, and even the things that eventually lead to the marriage agreement are heard from time to time.

If the woman is not a virgin, then even in modern times, I'm afraid there will be trouble after marriage. In contrast, women's demand for men's chastity is very weak. Among women, almost no one requires that their marriage partners must keep their virginity.

So what is the difference between men and women in the concept of chastity?

In the heart of the man who seeks virginity, in addition to his longing for things that have not been touched by others, there is also a desire to manipulate the woman he loves according to his own wishes. Specifically, he said, this includes a kind of expectation of men, that is: 'if you can associate with a virgin woman, then she can't grow up sexually as she imagined?' but from another perspective, we will find that there is also a male mentality that men can transform women as they like and treat women as playthings.

It may be too much to say playthings, but the idea that men want to be dominant is undeniable.

The phenomenon of overemphasizing women and the idea that men can transform women at their own will appeared after the Kamakura era in the middle ages. They were fixed with the establishment of samurai social order. It can be said that they are the products of male centered society.

In this regard, Yu Xie Jingzi, who participated in the women's liberation movement, once said: 'it is obvious that the respect for women is the result of men's demands. 'she thinks the so-called chastity and virginity complex are just men's unilateral desires.

This assertion is very correct, and there is no room for refutation. But when we start to explore the inner world of men who adore women, we will find that there is a deep unease, that is, they are worried that if the other party is not a virgin, they may be deeply influenced by the past sexual experience, deeply branded with the sexual habits of their former boyfriend, and will be too mature in terms of sex.

Men can't stand being compared sexually by their girlfriends with their former boyfriends, which is related to men's lack of confidence in sex. Therefore, as far as men are concerned, the pursuit of purity lies behind women's psychology, which actually hides men's sexual uneasiness and childishness. Therefore, virginity complex cannot be simply equated with the yearning for pure feelings.

In modern society, the number of women who think that they must be virgins before marriage has greatly decreased. Many times before marriage, it is not uncommon for women to have relationships with several men. On the other hand, although many men still hope that the woman they are dealing with is a virgin, they have realized that it is not possible in real life.

Even so, men still cling to the virginity of women and always want to make sure that they are daughters. It's really difficult to do this. An experienced man should take another look. It's almost impossible for a man who knows little about women to do this.

The reason for this is that there are women who consciously pretend to be virgins in real life. No matter whether they are right or wrong, the final effect is often different from person to person, mostly depends on personal judgment. Therefore, although most men want the woman to keep her body, if not, they have no choice but to knock down their front teeth and swallow them.

But no matter men or women, they don't want their lovers to keep the relationship with their former lovers. Especially when you find that your lover still has the real memories of having sex with your ex boyfriend, almost no man can bear it. At this time, no matter how beautiful and intelligent his girlfriend is, he will not forgive her for it. Generally speaking, a man is a kind of sexual animal, so once he loses to others in terms of sex, he will feel shameless.

Marriage and love, there are good times and bad times. It's not uncommon to find that the person you like is not suitable for you after you marry him, and then you feel disgusted. But from a man's point of view, if he can be sure that the other party is still a virgin when he contacts with him, he will always think that 'she gave her first time to me', so that he will take a tolerant attitude towards his girlfriend.

At this point, the topic needs to be shifted. Previously, in Tsukuba, there was an incident in which doctors killed their wives. As for the motive of committing the crime, many people think that it is the husband's excessive dislike of his wife's previous heterosexual relationship.

The doctor's wife, who is a little older than the doctor, is a charming and charming woman with a lot of sexual experience. At first, doctors were moved by their unrestrained sexual charm, but after marriage, with the increase of quarrels, the wife's past history of heterosexual communication began to stimulate the doctors' nerves. The doctor suspects that the reason why the wife is so sexy is that she has had sex with various men in the past, and these affairs are still in secret, so that she doesn't take me as her husband at all. The doctor also felt that his wife was constantly comparing him with her former boyfriends and playing with him as a fool.

This kind of dangerous mood keeps accumulating and finally erupts one day.

If women inadvertently show their attitude that makes men lose their sexual self-esteem, it will often hurt men and make them full of revenge. Some people even resort to violence to vent. Behind the above events, there are such complicated psychology of men making waves.

The reason why men are so stubborn in women's chastity and repeatedly paranoid is that men's sexual behavior is largely controlled by emotions and fluctuates with their mental state.

Let's analyze the process of men's sexual behavior. First, when the woman refuses to have sex with him, he will feel very anxious. In other words, when the man asks for sex and the woman just gives a certain degree of consent, or doesn't respond at all, then there's nothing left. As long as we don't resort to rape, no matter how the man insists, I'm afraid that the sexual behavior between the two will not develop smoothly.

After breaking through the first hurdle, men face the problem of whether their weapons can smoothly enter the fighting state. It's not easy to get into bed with a woman you love, take off your clothes and have sex immediately, but suddenly find that you have lost your fighting power.

Once a man has such thoughts as' this woman hasn't tried many tricks' or 'maybe she's been in love with a better man than me before' or 'will he think I'm clumsy', then his body will naturally be affected by these forced concepts and become disobedient.

There is no doubt that this is the most shameful scene for men. It's not easy for women to accept themselves, but they can't respond accordingly. In this way, men's faces will be lost, and their ability as males will be doubted. And the result of things is often like this: a failure will lead to a series of failures in the future, thus forming a vicious circle.

If the other party is a virgin, even if it fails, it doesn't matter. Because there's no need to worry about being compared to her ex boyfriend. Any excuse, such as' I'm a little tired tonight 'or' I've had a little too much to drink ', can be put off.

The reason why men pay attention to women is that they have such a sense of uneasiness.

Men like pure women with gentle and elegant manners, not only because of their elegant temperament, but also because of the expectation in their hearts that such women will not behave too much when sharing the pleasure of bed. In addition, even if a man does not perform well, he will not complain. On the contrary, when encountering experienced and experienced women, some men will be full of worry at first, and then run away because of lack of self-confidence.

This may be due only to subjective assumptions about men. However, men do have this fear that after a woman has a relationship with a man, her body will leave traces of the man, which will last forever. In other words, what men worry about is that after a relationship between a man and a woman, the woman will become the private property of the man, and will never forget 'that share of warmth', and will always be persistent with him.

Before the Knights of the Middle Ages set out to fight, they made their wives wear chastity belts in order to avoid their relationship with others when they were not around. Otherwise, they would be ashamed of themselves.

Men usually take the initiative in sex and enjoy bringing happiness to the woman. For a man, the pleasure of sex is not only in the moment of ejaculation, but also in developing the sensitive area of the woman he loves, giving her pleasure and making her a captive. It's also an indescribable pleasure. In short, the so-called man is a kind of creature that can get real sexual pleasure only after leading the woman to orgasm, and is insatiable and difficult to deal with in sexual love.

If women get more pleasure from other men than they give them, it's a big hit for men. Because it completely negates the existence value of men who are obsessed with sex. Therefore, the man who feels uneasy about this always tangles up with his girlfriend's past, hoping that his marriage partner has never been touched by others. They are trying to find a woman who is still a virgin.

So far, we have learned that the so-called virginity complex of men has nothing to do with the fragile and sensitive nerves of men. It is just the wishful thinking of the immature and self-conscious men.

Recently, the number of women who feel uncomfortable because they are still virgins has increased, and the value of virgins has declined a lot compared with the past. However, as long as men's sexual ability is still fluctuant, no matter how others put forward such critical opinions as "excessive praise for virgins is the product of male society", virginity complex will never disappear, and it will always be hidden in men's hearts.