As the saying goes, it is the same with handling the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. There are specific ways to do anything. As a daughter-in-law, we should choose different skills to get along with her mother-in-law according to her mother-in-law's situation. We should have a sense of distance to get along with her mother-in-law! Follow Xiaobian to discuss the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law!
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a sensitive topic. Not only Chinese couples will face this kind of trouble, but most families have the problem of tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which affects the relationship between husband and wife. It has been reported that the breakdown of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become the 'second killer' of only extramarital love!
First, my mother-in-law is not my mother-in-law. My daughter-in-law can't stand my mother-in-law's living habits, behavior, ideas and so on. The daughter-in-law reminds herself not to always measure her mother-in-law by her mother-in-law's standards, which may make her more receptive to her mother-in-law, and there will be less small conflicts and frictions in her life.
Second, mother-in-law is not a mother-in-law. It's completely natural for mother-in-law to love her son more than her daughter-in-law. Every mother instinctively feels that her children are good. It's hard for her daughter-in-law, as a child of others, to get the same affection from her mother-in-law. On the other hand, the daughter-in-law's own mother must be her own daughter.
Third, the mother-in-law is not the mother-in-law. She may compete with her daughter-in-law for the rights and status of the new housewife. Dividing the boundaries between the old and the new families and deciding who is in charge of their territory may avoid conflicts between the two women in the family.
Emotional Chapel:
'it's better to keep a little distance between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, both mentally and in life. Some people say that the best distance is a bowl of soup, that is, a bowl of soup from their own residence to the mother-in-law's residence, neither hot nor cold. However, many elderly people are in poor health and need to be taken care of at any time, so the distance between a bowl of soup is too far.
The best distance is to live a little closer, but don't be in a house. Just hear each other's door opening. In this way, we can take care of each other without disturbing each other.