Have you lost your heart? Don't you feel anyone? I seem to lose my heart
An old driver who read a lot of women smiled and said, "I don't remember who you said she looked like.".
The only thing he remembered was his first girlfriend 20 years ago. Every detail of the first encounter is still vivid: the steaming roadside stall, the Bauhinia petals fluttering down one after another when the wind blows, and the bright sunshine in late spring. She carried the stainless steel lunch box and bought half of the small wonton.
Why do you remember that clearly? Because he will never forget the feeling of heart beating, electric shock and being nervous to vomit.
And now? Flowers, but lonely to the extreme.
1. Restore the keen and wonderful feeling of love
Have you ever tried to fall in love with someone?
If so, you can't forget that feeling. There is the most gentle tolerance, the most tacit connection, the whole heart is full, warm.
The ability to move is not only about love and marriage, but also about the panorama of life.
When your heart sends out a slight and positive call, will you follow this desire and act, or will you panic and suppress it forcibly and tell yourself that it is impossible? The attitude towards "heartbeat" determines what kind of life script you will create.
How to get out of the state of emotional numbness and wake up the beauty of heart again? You can start from these three angles.
The body and mind are integrated, and the mind tends to be numb, and the body's ability to feel will also be reduced. But the magic is that as long as one of them recovers, the other will go hand in hand.
The stronger the body feels, the sharper the heart. Here, I offer two practical and effective 'fix' exercises.
First edition -- listening practice: in a relatively quiet place (such as the small park in the afternoon, the bedroom before going to bed), close your eyes, calm down, and listen to all kinds of sounds from near to far, until the limit.
If you are in a small park, you may hear your breathing, birds singing, wind blowing through the leaves, the whispers of lovers in the distance, the low voice of a plane passing through the sky above & hellip; & hellip;
If you practice a few times more, you will find that the place you are used to, or even turn a blind eye to, contains such rich sounds and movements, which are made by nature and human beings, so vivid and lively.
In a room where you can be alone, lie down relaxed. Put your hands in your heart to feel what's going on here. If you are more likely to have emotions or have more restrictions in your life, you will feel some stuck energy, which may extend to the throat (usually related to poor expression).
Don't rush out. Accompanying this kind of feeling is like accompanying a sad 3-year-old baby. Ask the hardest part, what does it want to say to you?
In a unique way, the body stores the emotions and trauma that are blocked by your mind. The more you can accept the uncomfortable feelings, the more you can open the heart door.
The most tangled emotional problems are not quarrels and conflicts, but numbness. Just like losing the taste, no matter how amazing the food is, it can't evoke any happiness.
In the bottom of every woman's heart, there is a romantic scene to the extreme, as well as the most sincere yearning. Otherwise, why do so many girls come to my consulting room and ask the same question with their eyebrows locked: I can't move my heart to anyone, what should I do?
What kind of noise is that?
If a 28 year old man with an annual income of 500000 yuan, a well-off family, and a medium-sized body and appearance pursues you, will you refuse?
Xiaoxihui. Her reason stunned all her best friends: this seemingly excellent man, unexpectedly dropped out of school after a year of graduate school and started a business, which is too unreliable!
Five years ago, despite the efforts of jiuniu and erhu, they failed to get into the first-class graduate school as their parents wanted. So, she had to add this standard to her 'perfect husband condition list'.
Graduate education = excellent and progressive, which is a matter of principle. There must be a promising person in a family. Otherwise, what hope can there be in the future?
To be honest, this man is her favorite type, which makes her blush and heart beat. But it's all floating clouds. If we accept it, we will have endless troubles. He gave up halfway, lacking perseverance; if he was eager to work, he was impetuous and not pragmatic. Only those who have completed their degree in a down-to-earth way are worth being together.
The voice and requirements of parents are internalized in the heart, and the rules and regulations are hard to exceed. Happiness is associated with certain 'standards', but separated from sincerity.
'ha ha, it's good if someone wants me. '
One is a rising career, handsome little fresh meat, one is just divorced and on the verge of bankruptcy uncle, who do you choose?
Xing Yan chooses the latter. It's not that uncle would make her happy, but when she was with little fresh meat, she always felt envious eyes from all sides. Ex girlfriends, admirers, and even female colleagues and clients are under a lot of pressure.
He is so good, how can he want me, how can he last? Or to find a man who is not so eye-catching and I don't like very much, even if he looks dead and loveless every day, even if the three views are obviously different. But life can't be perfect, let alone oneself.
With such a low sense of self-worth, all the heart is a burden -- white incited desire, but not to ask.
'if you are passionate first, you must be hurt first. '
When animals are in danger, they will protect themselves by "feigning death", so that they will not suffer so much.
So it is with humans.
Shi Yue remembers that she was completely numb after her third lovelorn, and that she has gained super self-control since then.
What is the degree of self-control? When her ex who hurt her the most with the love of the rookie, she felt no sense; when she met the God of men in Dali tourism, she felt no sense when she was courted by all kinds of people.
My heart is like death. That's what I said.
Immobility is the best protection for oneself. Love is an inevitable gamble, and once you enter it, you can't turn back. The more you give, the more you hurt, it's better to hold back from the beginning -- don't put in so much, don't be so stupid, wait a few years, find a man who loves me enough to get married.