1. To build a sense of security for children, the first thing we should do is not to set any conditions for love, so that children can always be loved.
For example, some parents will say that if you don't do well, your mother won't love you.
These are not allowed. What we have to do is to make our children feel that they love me no matter what I do.
2. To build a sense of security for children the second point: parents should love each other
This is impossible for some single parent families, so some children of single parent families will show low self-esteem and self-confidence.
3. Focus on your child's feelings and needs.
This point needs to be said. Many parents will say that children always buy toys. If they buy toys today, they will have to wait until tomorrow. In fact, what we need to do is not simply to buy or not to buy, but to feel the real needs of the child. Does he just need your attention and company to buy toys to attract attention or find safety in toys
4. Trust in children, trust in the power of 'trust'
It's needless to say that trusting your child will give him confidence. If not, he will feel inferior and lie.
5. Don't demand perfection of children, contain failure and mistake.
Adults will make mistakes, not to mention children. What parents should do when their children make mistakes is to correct and encourage rather than blindly pursue responsibility.
6. More description, less evaluation, no label, no scolding.
Let children describe things more, try not to evaluate the right and wrong of a thing, good and bad, do not put any labels on children, let alone beat and scold children.
7. Last, please don't compare children with others.
Children's self-consciousness is developing. In their thoughts, I am me and he is him. It is a very pure thought, so parents should also do this without comparison.