1. Learn to think in a transposition:
Husband and wife should learn to think through transposition. Neither side can impose their own will on the other side's head, and let the other side talk and do things according to their own ideas. When the other side's words and actions are different from their own thoughts, they are dissatisfied and start to complain. If the other side is also a stronger person, or has endured such torture for a long time, then The quarrelling war is on the verge. In order to resolve the quarrel, both of them should respect each other, think in other's place, think about what they say and whether what they do will make each other uncomfortable. When they often think about each other instead of themselves, the quarrel will not appear.
2. Learn to appreciate and help each other:
Although two people have become husband and wife, they have a kind of responsibility and obligation to take care of each other, but in life, when they get along with each other, they must know how to be grateful, and show it in their actions. Don't think that the hard work of each other should be deserved. They should do nothing, don't pay, and enjoy the pay and care in peace of mind, especially the willful little A woman always feels that her husband should work hard to support her family. Otherwise, when she marries a man, one side pays, the other doesn't pay, and she doesn't know how to be grateful. The one who pays will naturally feel that she doesn't care. After a long time of depression and depression, there will be an outbreak. It's inevitable to quarrel. Only by mutual help and joint efforts can the family be harmonious.
3. Learn to reflect and review:
There is no husband and wife who do not quarrel. If they quarrel all the time, the relationship between them will have problems. In such a case, both of them must calm down, reflect on their words and deeds, review their own shortcomings, and if they do something wrong, they will be brave to admit to the right side, rather than still holding each other's words. If the other side is wrong, they will not let go and see everything It's all the bad things of the other party. If you can't see your own mistakes, the quarrel will continue. If you don't want to quarrel, let yourself improve. Learn to control your bad mood. Don't let the bad mood control you. Think more about the advantages of the other party.
4. Learn to be humble and inclusive:
The frequent quarrel between husband and wife shows that both of them are relatively strong and don't know how to be humble and inclusive of each other. They always want to make each other understand themselves, tolerate themselves, and let each other back and tolerate changes. They even want to use quarrels and cold war to make each other submit to themselves. As a result, the wrong way to make the quarrel continue to escalate. Each other's hearts are cold and their feelings are hurt. They don't want to quarrel and want to To solve the problem, we need both sides to understand that people are imperfect and have shortcomings. What we need is mutual tolerance. With humility and tolerance, we have a big mind and no consideration, so naturally we won't quarrel.
5. Learn to appreciate and praise:
When two people become husband and wife, they feel that they are familiar with each other and understand each other. Gradually, both of them will no longer appreciate and praise each other. Some of them are picky and dissatisfied. They always feel that each other is not as good as they used to be. In such a familiar psychological state, a quarrel will happen. In fact, what we need to know is that no one has changed. It is their mentality and understanding that have changed, Want to avoid quarrel, after marriage two people still want to look at the other half with appreciative eyes, encourage him (her) more, praise him (her), he is the most beautiful in his heart forever, will quarrel?
6. Learn to adapt:
The reason for the quarrel between husband and wife is that they think about how to change each other and change each other into what they think. However, a person has a growing environment, life experience, character and temperament, eating habits, hobbies, etc. It's not easy to change one's character and temperament and life and way of doing things. When the other party can't change, the other party will When we start to complain, we need to know that we are wrong and never want to change each other. He is the only one. We need to change ourselves. When we learn to change ourselves and adapt to each other's habits and behaviors, there will be no more quarrels.
7. Learn to improve your culture:
Husband and wife often quarrel, which shows that they are both acute, bad tempered and unable to control their emotions, It's easy to get excited. When two people get together, they will fight constantly. Both of them are aware of their temper. If they want to avoid quarrels, they should read more books about controlling emotions, cultivate flowers and grasses, cultivate themselves, improve their self-cultivation, control their impulses, improve their self-cultivation, and have a peaceful mind. If they don't have so many desires, they will I won't fight.
8. Learn three rules:
If the husband and wife often quarrel, they will be upset and tired each other, which will make their relationship cool down quickly. In order to avoid long-term quarrels, they can make three rules. When quarreling, they should learn to stop shouting. One person must make concessions, especially the man, who should be magnanimous. Don't always quarrel. There is no right or wrong between the husband and wife, and there is no result in quarreling. Why Because quarrel lets two people sad exhaustion?