1. I feel that I have been wronged by heaven. Many people will have the following after breaking up: 'what did I do wrong? Why did he do this to me? 'to be honest, if you haven't done anything yet, you put yourself in the perspective of the victim first, and constantly deepen your thinking. I'm so aggrieved. He's sorry for me, but I have to bear all this and so on.
2. What is the specific performance? First of all, after breaking up, I felt that the sky would fall. Since then, life has lost its meaning. It's gloomy and frowning. In normal times, self-confidence turns into inferiority and negativity; open-minded people become introverted and sensitive; optimistic and positive people turn into very depressed & hellip; & hellip; if you are really like the above, then please don't go back, because failure is obvious. So apart from grievances, what other negative emotions should not exist?
3. Do not always worry about the other party to start a new relationship and roar to save. When the other party and you break up, there is no new love, which means that your recovery is not hindered. But don't be too happy too early. Although the other party didn't find another one, you are not an alternative in his mind.
4. In other words, it's a time when you think poorly of each other. So, if the other party has any new lovers, put them aside first. What you have to do is try to improve yourself and increase the odds for your recovery. Moreover, in this case, even if the other party has a new love, it is also for a while to find some fun because of the emptiness of life after the breakup. This means that the new partner's position in his heart is only your substitute, which has little influence on your recovery
5. Blind self-confidence means that under the control of this mindset, you will constantly go to the other side to seek theories: 'I know you still love me, and your circle of friends betrayed you. "I'll tell you what I like, and pretend. "Is there another person who is so nice to you besides me? You don't want me, do you? 'your blind and confident attitude keeps you guessing the other person's thoughts. You think you are right, but you are not.
6. It is not advisable to give unilaterally, that is to say, to consider for him without thinking about yourself. Under the control of this kind of idea, you will pay a lot for each other but not ask for return. But in fact, you need to be reconciled with each other. Isn't that very contradictory? Does your paralysis really work? Can you really balance your mind when your heart and lungs are not worth what others say lightly
So, you have to put your mind right.
7. You are not a saint. There is no reason to give unconditionally. You may as well be yourself. Think about what your original intention is. All of the above are some wrong mindsets, which are very fatal in the process of recovery. Don't lose the best time to recover because of these mistakes!