A person's success depends on IQ 20% and other factors 80%. Among other factors, EQ is the main one. Let's take a look at it
As for EQ, the author 12 said: 'EQ is a kind of good thinking in essence. Based on good thinking, it produces more effective connections. '
In other words, people with high EQ are willing to start their own thinking and make themselves and each other feel comfortable in daily life.
In fact, in the details of a person's behavior, one's EQ can be seen most.
1. Treat others reasonably
There is a one minute video on Facebook, and over 100 million people like it in three days.
The video tells the story:
After class, the bell rang, and the children took out their lunch boxes, eager to have a good meal. At this time, a little boy's face was full of sorrow.
Because he knew that his lunch box was empty.
So he pretended to go to the bathroom, trying to avoid the awkward and difficult moment.
He walked out of the classroom, through the corridor, to the water dispenser, and gulped.
Thinking that everyone had almost eaten, he went back to the classroom and was ready to put away the empty lunch box.
But when he picked up the lunch box, he found something different. He opened it and it was full of all kinds of food.
He looked around subconsciously, and the students pretended that nothing had happened.
At the end of the video, the sad little boy finally smiles.
Tagore once said: 'don't take the medal out of your own pocket and give it to your friend. It's insulting. '
It's not enough just to have a warm heart to convey good intentions. The ways and means are equally important.
The poor little boy, in order to hide his eyes, takes an empty lunch box every day, while the students see through it and fill it with food secretly. It can be said that such kindness is the "truth and goodness".
Mark Twain said: 'kindness is a universal language. It can make the blind feel and the deaf smell it. '
It is a powerful expression of a person's high EQ to be able to be kind-hearted and extend oneself to others.
2. Inclusive social diversity
My friend sent me a message in the middle of the night to complain. I guessed that she was forced to marry again.
My best friend is nearly 30 years old. She is the only daughter in the family. Although their parents are still open-minded, they can't stand the urge of time.
Good friends have talked openly with their parents. They will never meet each other or enter into marriage without finding the right person.
Perhaps, influenced by several cousins in her family, she always sticks to her own view on marriage and never changes.
However, her parents firmly believe that if she continues to be the master, her marriage may be far away.
In this way, just a few days of Spring Festival holiday, her parents arranged several blind dates for her.
This time, her parents' attitude was too tough, and she just couldn't resist, so she had to go through the motions.
A friend's experience is no exception.
Many parents have forced their children to do something they don't want to do, regardless of their children's wishes.
Li Shanglong, the writer, said that all these problems are due to people's lack of tolerance.
At the end of the day, this is exactly what human nature determines: people always like to manage others' affairs, always like to force others to do things according to their own wishes, so as to prove that they are right.
But in fact, everyone has their own unique ideas and difficulties. Even if we can't fully understand them, we should learn to respect others.
This is social diversity.
Any society is a system composed of individuals or organizations with different values, beliefs, existence and lifestyles.
People with high EQ tend to try to look at this different world from different perspectives.
3. Not easy to cause trouble to others
Writer Wan Qing shared one thing.
Once upon a time, a girl said angrily to Wanqing that she wanted to buy a house in full, so she asked her friend who thought she was rich to borrow money. As a result, the friend said that she was short of money recently and didn't lend it to her. As a result, she only had to borrow to buy a house and pay a lot of interest.
After listening to the girl, Wanqing said helplessly: 'it's not bad to buy a house with a loan. The most difficult thing in the world is human relationship. '
As a result, the girl said that she totally disagreed with Wanqing's statement, because she always thought that her friend didn't borrow money, which caused her to lose a lot of interest.
Wanqing further persuades: 'your friend probably won't put a large amount of cash at home. Her money is either deposited in the bank or bought some financial products, which is also profitable. You borrowed money from her to avoid paying interest on your own, but she would give up her own interest for your own benefit. Isn't that damaging the other party's interest? "
After hearing this, the girl left a message: "then you can never borrow money from others", and left angrily.
In life, there are always some people who like to mobilize the people around no matter what happens. However, this not only makes their ability to deal with affairs weaker, but also easily destroys their accumulated popularity.
I have read a sentence on the Internet, and I quite agree with it: the real and complete help for others will inevitably happen to two people who have high EQ and understand the boundaries. You help me, I am very grateful, you did not help me, I will never blame you.
In other words, people with high EQ will never easily cause trouble to others.