Make a simple analogy:
Someone gives you a glass bottle and tells you that it's beautiful and strong. As long as you don't throw it hard, it will never break. But you just don't believe it. You have to throw the bottle on the ground one time and one time, until it can't bear it and finally breaks. You point to a fragment and say:
'you lie. It will break. It's really a bad bottle. '
You think you have a good reason:
'how can a glass bottle never be broken? It must be deceiving me to say it can't be broken. '
You are right. The glass bottle will always break, but other people put the beautiful bottle in a safe place to watch carefully. No one will deliberately drop the bottle to the ground.
Love is this glass bottle.
Love is originally a beautiful and fragile thing. It's not enough for others to hold it in their hands and protect it carefully. However, you have to bake it on the fire, step on it hard at your feet, and try every way to test it. When it finally breaks down, you succeed. But what's the matter? Your tears say to the person who once loved you:
'you are not a single person. '
But you don't know, he really loves you, but no one can bear the temptation of the loved one.
I saw a cartoon on Weibo before, which is suitable for putting here
So do you know how unworthy a girl is to be loved for the reason of "no sense of security" and even to find someone to test her boyfriend's loyalty? He used to love you, he used to be single-minded, he intended to give you a sense of security, but as a result, no one can bear the feeling of being poked at the bottom line again and again.
Can you bear to love? You think love is too omnipotent. Love can't make people forgive all the absurd actions.
It's enough to give up the feeling that the loved one doesn't trust and the loved one suspects.
In fact, it is not true that those who test love are not worthy of love, but those who test love will eventually make those who love you no longer love you.
When discussing this with his friend this afternoon, he said that he had just met a girl who helped test his boyfriend.
What kind of girl is this? In his words, there are only two words, 'major'.
She is very ordinary in fact, but there are hundreds of refined photos of herself in various occasions in her mobile phone, each face and figure is impeccable, her work number's circle of friends is exquisite, and she looks like a beautiful girl with perfect human settings. Chatting is her strong point. No matter how boring or dull she is, she can find topics to talk about all the time, but in fact, these are just aids to make her work more smoothly. This girl who tests her boyfriend has only one task for each order:
Seduce the man until he has cheated.
So you know, these girls who test boyfriends, they are not ordinary beautiful girls in life, not suspicious female colleagues around your boyfriend, not big beauties passing by.
It's professional. It's for a living. Every day's work is to face all kinds of men. What do your boyfriend think, where are the weaknesses, and how to break through the girl who knows better than you.
It's a great shame for him to pay such a girl to seduce a man who loves you, whether he is hooked or not.
I always feel that people who spend money to test their partner don't love the tested person at all. After all, if they really like it, they don't want to do this to him.
If you like a man so much, it will make people jealous to talk with a beautiful girl. How can you send a girl who specially seduces men to the past.
Anyway, even if my brain was kicked by a donkey, I couldn't do such a thing.
Suddenly I think of a strange story that I would read when I was a child:
The ugly husband doesn't believe that his beautiful wife really loves him, so he looks for a younger and handsome man to seduce his wife. After his wife can't help seducing him, the husband and the male junior collude with each other on the spot to find out the adultery. When the wife knows the truth, she collapses. She can't accept the husband she really loved before, and the lover who later became her gentle harbor, but they are calculated together And then she went crazy.
This story left a deep impression on the young me. At that time, I always thought that if my wife was careful, there would be no such result. But I didn't understand until I wrote this article that there was no innocent person in this story.
The man who tests love insults his lover and himself, and makes the originally sweet and beautiful love ugly and ferocious.
No love can grow up in doubt. Don't talk about such stupid words as "spend money to buy peace of mind". If you're really upset, don't fall in love, don't live without understanding, and delay other people's time.
'never test emotion, because before the test, you have a conclusion in mind. All tests are to get the answer. If one time is not enough, you can do it again. There is no end to it, until you come to a conclusion: he is not a person who pays attention. You will be satisfied. '
I hope we are not such unworthy villains, and will not meet such people, and what kind of people are worthy of love?
Probably use the best of yourself to treat the people you love the most
Instead of using the worst self to test whether someone loves you or not
Hope that after tomorrow, we are all worthy of love.