Lovers in different places are more likely to feel physical and mental loneliness and loneliness. Although they can keep in touch with each other by phone, SMS, wechat and other means, after all, the other person is not around. Even if we can communicate in the form of words, voice or video, we can't really feel each other's breath. Even when we need each other's company the most, a simple hand or hug can't be realized, and it's easy to have a deep sense of loneliness in our hearts.
2、 Lack of common language
Due to living in a different place, there will be less interaction at ordinary times, and the circle of life may be totally different. If the emotional foundation of two people is not strong enough, plus the deviation of values, and the time is long, it is very easy to have no common topic. When you need to work hard to find a topic every day, or there is nothing to communicate except the basic greetings, then it's only a matter of time before you have a problem with your feelings.
3、 Feelings fade with time
Because there are differences in their living environment and communication circle, and there is little interaction between them. In addition to the differences in men's and women's thinking, various details in their lives are prone to conflict. For example, because of the differences in men's and women's thinking, men are generally passive in communication, inclined to be rational, attach importance to the value brought by communication itself, and like to talk about major events; on the contrary, women like to communicate, and like to spend a lot of time talking about trivial things.
Men who don't understand the style easily think that the content women talk about is worthless, and even produce boredom. They miss the key time to communicate with women and enhance their feelings. Because we don't know the difference between the two sexes' psychology and the way of thinking, the intimate relationship cracks. As time goes on, the good impression of the feelings is also a little bit erased.
4、 A gradual lack of trust
Distance gives lovers more time and freedom to be alone, but also reduces their sense of control over their partner. Because they are not around, the actual situation of many things is not so clear, so they are more likely to have doubts and misunderstandings. If there are small misunderstandings that cannot be resolved in time, the mutual trust will gradually collapse, and ultimately affect the development of feelings.
Because of the above reasons, it is not so easy to maintain long-distance love, but it is not impossible to maintain it. Nowadays, with convenient transportation and developed communication means, it is easier for long-distance lovers to meet than ever before. If you are also a member of a long-distance relationship, please keep your confidence and learn the following methods to help you greatly improve the probability of success in the long-distance relationship.
1. Agreed by both parties
Love needs a certain sense of ceremony. You can negotiate with your lover to reach some agreements that are conducive to the development of your relationship. For example, you can make an appointment to contact at least once a day, meet once every two months, do not participate in dating activities with other members of the opposite sex, spend special days together, etc. Through some agreements, we can leave expectation and concern in each other's hearts, and create more common memories belonging to two people, which increases each other's stickiness invisibly and makes the feelings more stable.
2. Keep communication open
Because the living environment and experience are different, it is more and more difficult to find common topics, and it is also difficult to feel the pain and sorrow of each other. It's a pity that lovers can't be with each other when they encounter setbacks, but in order to maintain their feelings, language communication and communication become more important. At ordinary times, we should attach importance to the development of common friends, create more common ground, find common growth goals and other common topics.
In addition, on the basis of not affecting each other's work and life, we should contact each other through wechat, SMS and other forms. For some people who are more introverted and shy, if they express their love in person, they may not be able to say it. In long-distance love, they can express their love more smoothly and increase their emotional concentration through indirect means such as words.
3. Be good at managing emotions and adjusting communication atmosphere
When there is a conflict in the process of getting along, you should actively adjust your emotions, and don't let the impulse hurt your feelings. When things happen, you need to be calm. You can't be impulsive and rude. You can't have a cold war. These two ways not only can't solve any problems, but also can easily hurt your feelings. Women are usually more sensitive, and their emotions are easy to fluctuate. When there are conflicts, men are more required to show magnanimity and tolerance. After all, emotion is more perceptual than rational, and often the emotional problems are handled well, and the problems themselves will not break through; if the emotional atmosphere is not handled properly, the problems themselves will not be solved.
4. Increase meeting frequency
Holidays and anniversaries can actively create opportunities and increase the frequency of meeting each other. Because it's easy to see others in pairs on holidays, when you think that you have a lover but you're not around, you'll feel sorry for yourself, which makes the day alone more desolate and lonely. In addition, you can often send gifts to each other to express your yearning for your lover. You can often warm your lover with some small gifts, especially those full of heart and moral, which can make him feel your heart and sincere love. For the maintenance of feelings, it has half the effect.
Long distance love is a special form of love. It is inconvenient because of the distance, but it also produces a kind of beauty which is not available because of the distance. Because of the limited time, we cherish each other. In fact, the maintenance of long-distance love is not so difficult. As long as you have trust, courage to take on responsibilities, open your heart to communicate frankly, adjust your mind, make common progress with each other, set up common ideals and work hard for them, and strengthen mutual connection, long-distance love will certainly be able to show unique colors and achieve good results as soon as possible.