Four seas network: ask what is the world love, teach people to live and die. Emotion is the most complex emotion, which has everything. But it's very deep. Many people are always worried about gain and loss in love, and the long-term relationship will definitely have problems. A relationship is hard won. How can we avoid these problems? What should we do when we are in love? Let's take a look at it with Xiaobian~
What to do when you are in love
1. If there is any dissatisfaction, say it in time
When two people run in together, misunderstanding and dissatisfaction are always inevitable. When it happens, don't store all your discontent in your stomach to show your generosity. Over time, when all the small problems are fermented together, there will be a qualitative change and a big problem. In fact, sometimes it will be found that these are not problems at all. They are just misunderstandings caused by different ways of expression and lifestyles of two people.
2. Since love, please believe
The first thing to do is to learn to believe. Once you have made up your mind to start a relationship, believe that it will last forever. It's meaningless to worry about when to break up and whether to be betrayed every day. And under such psychological pressure, it is assumed that nine out of ten will come true. Think about why you chose to start at the beginning, remember the feeling and always believe in it, and fully experience the taste of love at this moment, and cherish the beauty of this moment.
3. Understand each other
There is no one who loses or wins in a relationship. You don't have to earn a lot. You have to learn to understand each other. A harmonious emotional life needs to be managed hard, which is true. In life, if you see that your partner has a good relationship with the opposite sex, don't be too busy with jealousy. Maybe it's just his colleague relationship at work. He also has his own social circle. You can't trap him in a desert island with only you two. The other side's normal heterosexual communication is also indispensable, you must try to understand tolerance, you can tell him your worry, he will naturally pay attention to the scale not to let you misunderstand.
4. Face up to the psychology of worrying about gain and loss in love
First of all, we should learn to face up to the psychology of loss and gain in love. To understand, in the process of love, people often have the same mentality and mood of worrying about gain and loss. It's normal. It shows that you care about this relationship and cherish it. If one person doesn't care about the other person at all, then naturally there will be no worry about gain or loss. It is because of the enough attention to this relationship that people will have the mentality of worrying about gain and loss in love. Therefore, in the face of loss and gain in the process of love, there is no need to fear, we should face it and accept it.
5. Straighten out one's mind
Love also needs equality. Girls can't have Princess disease. Boys can't be too masculine. Two people together, the girl is not for you to wash and cook, the boy is not responsible for making money and you are responsible for spending. It's for two people to earn money, so is housework. When a boy does something wrong, girls will think that he doesn't love her as before, whether he has changed his mind, etc. boys will also be tired, so put the right attitude, the other side is not living for you, he can't go around you every day, it's normal, don't guess at will, this is the secret to maintain love.
Long term relationship skills
1. In the early stage of men and women's contact, don't talk about yourself too well. Try to keep a low profile in the long-term relationship. Otherwise, once you don't perform as expected, it's easy to make the other party feel cheated. Some people value this feeling very much, so it's better to keep a low profile. If you do it well, it will surprise the other party.
2. Don't judge each other's friends in the process of contact. Some people value their friends very much. Maybe you just want to talk about your own views, but the other party thinks you look down on her friends, so that you can be angry with them. Why?
3. In the process of contact, try to understand each other's likes and dislikes as much as possible, do more things they like and do less things they dislike. Maybe you think it doesn't matter, but the other party values it very much, inadvertently it may make the other party angry, but you don't know it at all.
4. Learn to admit mistakes, admit mistakes in front of the person you love, do not lose face, handle well will also enhance the feelings of two people, show personality, stubborn, extreme can only make things worse.
5. No one is perfect. You should pay more attention to each other's advantages, less to each other's shortcomings, learn to understand and tolerate, say more encouraging words, say less sarcastic and sarcastic words, and know that if you hurt each other, you may have to make up for it with great efforts.
6. It's very important to deal with the relationship between friends and lovers, love and friendship. Don't ignore the existence of friends because of lovers, and don't ignore the feelings of lovers because of friends.
7. When there is a conflict between two people, you can calm down and talk about your own views peacefully. Don't use excessive words in the conversation process, and don't hide your views to avoid the conflict. Avoiding talking can only temporarily alleviate the conflict, but it may deepen the misunderstanding, and even make the other party feel the pressure of the taboo. Everyone wants to talk about the atmosphere The more relaxed the better, since conversation is the main way of communication, how about more understanding?
8. Give space. A good long-term relationship should give each other appropriate personal space, not mutual control. Don't make a life-threatening call when the other party is busy or doesn't hear the phone for a while. They don't demand unimportant details of life, such as the direction of toothpaste squeezing, preferences for different TV programs, like playing games and so on. Fully respect each other's personal hobbies, one likes reading books, the other likes watching movies, then watch their own, after watching the exchange, each other's harvest and experience is also very good.
Everyone has their own circle of friends, and there will be some heterosexual friends. It's no mistake. Don't be too suspicious. Whether she has someone outside or something with a boyfriend, which will greatly limit the social life of the other party, thus losing space, and even dare not participate in the Party of their own circle of friends. The full trust of two people is the premise of giving each other space.