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Marriage is the best witness of love. These topics must be discussed before marriage! About children, festivals, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relations, financial management, sexual life, etc., both men and women should talk openly before marriage, and it is better to reach a consensus, so as to make the marriage life more happy.

We have to talk about these topics before we get married

The meaning of marriage.

Without a deep understanding of what marriage means to each other, they are likely to repeat their past mistakes and have difficulty in achieving a healthy and good marriage relationship.

How to celebrate the festival.

Many people ignore this topic before marriage. However, marriage experts say that if they fail to fully communicate in advance, differences in returning home for the holidays and celebrating birthdays will lead to serious conflicts in marriage.

How to get along with each other's family.

Marriage is not as simple as holding hands with someone. It means being a member of the other's family. So be sure to talk deeply about how to get along with each other's family, such as the frequency of visiting elders, and how much you want your partner's family to get involved in their marriage.

Sex life.

If the two are not balanced in terms of sex, the differences in desire, adventure and sexual stimulation will certainly be highlighted. Before marriage, both men and women must consider how much sexual contact they need (what to do when they can't have sex), how to maintain the sense of connection and intimacy, and what they need to do to arouse the desire of each other.

Financial issues.

Although men and women may have lived together before marriage and spent money together, marriage means that they are legally connected in terms of property. Before marriage, it is necessary to have an in-depth discussion on how to deal with money issues after marriage, such as whether to open a common bank account, how to raise money to pay when buying large items (such as first-time house purchase, travel and vacation), and how the two plan to save money and spend.

Health problems.

Many people don't talk about or disclose their medical history before they get married because they are afraid that it will lead to marriage failure. However, in order to have a happy marriage life in the future, we should talk openly about the medical history of each family.

Career planning.

They should talk about their career plans after marriage. For example, whose career or job is more important, or whose job is equally important, they can't give up. If both continue to study to improve their career prospects, they should talk about whether they want to strive for better opportunities and how to deal with the sudden unemployment of one party.

Parenting methods.

Before marriage, men and women often talk about whether or not to have children, but seldom discuss how to be parents and how to raise children. In fact, they should talk about the following topics, such as who makes "rules" after having children, who gets up every night to change diapers, and whether they can accept that their life style will be completely disrupted when they bring children.